What is your view on online dating?

[Twalli]

The one thing I will say regarding online dating is that you are looking at people who are single for a reason. You should find out that reason before you decide whether or not to date them at all. Sometimes the reason can be that they're too busy to have enough of a social life to find a girlfriend or boyfriend in social situations. Other reasons are less innocent.

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I've only tried Bumble because I don't like making first contact with girls. So I don't know how all dating sites work, but I did get a fair number of matches on there, nothing came from them though. After I found a girlfrined in real life I think I deactivated my account. I don't use it and tried to deactivate it though.

[godfatherfan]

As a tech guy, I thought that online dating was going to be the perfect thing. After my divorce in 2014 after 25 years with the same woman, I figured I just put in the info, boom, gives me a match, live happily ever after. Wow was I wrong.

I work from home. I don't go to church. I don't go to the gym. I have no way of meeting anyone. The only option I have is online dating. It has been mostly a nightmare. The added issue is that the men and women in my age range have mostly been through very long term relationships or marriages. So we tend to be overly picky. Especially the women. At least with the women, they forget that a relationship takes work and compromise. Very very few people are the perfect match. But the woman don't want to work at it, they just cut bait when it isn't perfect. I am sure I was guilty of doing that early on in my dating experience. I gave up a while ago. I haven't even gone on a date in 3.5 years. I can eat what I want, when I want. I can watch what I want, when I want. I can do what I want, when I want. No woman nagging and bitching about things that don't matter. When I get tired of doing those things, then maybe I will revisit dating. But I served my time... 25 years. I am enjoying my freedom.

[TheVigilantOne]

I’ve always been told that people who use dating apps are desperate, I did try just for shits and giggles and the people I spoke to both male and female were absolutely insane, some came out wanting sex straight away some after a while, some were just plain rude, the men were more chill but sex mad 🤣 no conversation much, the women were insane and quite frankly scary, so I deleted the account. I don’t think it’s worth it as you’re talking with someone who might not even be real. Meet people in real life, even though sometimes they can be a complete nightmare as well.

[Mamaganja]

My daughters dad I met on POF. Was with him for 7 years. “Current” boyfriend I met on Tinder 5 months ago. Relationship is already pretty rocky unfortunately. Not sure it’s going to last much longer at this rate. I will continue to use dating sites because I don’t leave my house in order to date people. Homebody introverts need love too.

[melanieeeB]

It can be good but for me personally it's useless, I don't even find half of the guys on there attractive at all... other than that I had some bad experiences and some good experiences, like I did meet a little amount of decent man on there and it just didn't really fit tho but yeah I wouldn't try again

[Avicenna]

It's good for hookups and flings, that's about it.

[Sixgun77]

Its not very different from dating in real life in the sense that you still have to go through a lot of chaff before you find any wheat. Online dating increases the amount of people you can contact in a shorter amount of time though.

It took years, but I met my wife online. Both of us were completely honest about who we are and what we were looking for. Doing so is extremely important if you're using an actual dating site vs just looking for a one night stand on something like tinder (which was specificity designed for hookups, not actual dating or relationships).

[Twalli]

My sister found her last two boyfriends (before this one) on Tinder. Both dated her for over a year.

[Summeroflove]

I don’t know them. I can’t trust them. It makes ZERO sense to invite someone into your house, in your car, to be in their car and not know them.



At least. People who date and get to know someone. Call me paranoid. I don’t even like meeting strangers approaching them or them approaching me.


I like to get to know someone.

[Twalli]

You don't have to do any of that. You can meet in public. Then of course there's the story of someone on a date with somebody they met online who happened to be their Uber driver to the place they were meeting.

[Summeroflove]

This is true. I still like to know someone first though.

[Twalli]

I won't say we are in a relationship until we meet in person either

[Summeroflove]

Yeah. Same. Before a official relationship I would have to know someone pretty well too.

[USLegionary]

Trying to find a diamond in an sea of turds

[athelete_7]

True story man

[NathanDavis]

I don't have really have views on online dating... since I have never tried it myself

I do know that it has worked great for some, and not so well for some other... so I rather not make assumptions and ideas of my own without actually trying it first

neutral to it, I guess...

[Fireguy17]

I was on eHarmony and did fine.
I met my wife there.
Some sites are better than others, usually, not always the better sites most people are on there to find someone special and develop a relationship.
Other sites are pretty much used for hooking up, and yes, some relationships come from that, but not too often.
It is still a lot of work, emails up the wazoo, first dates, but just like any relationship, they can be a lot of work.
Life is not a Hallmark movie.

[AsaKyo]

If you mean Tinder, OKCupid, Bumble, and all that bullshit, then I strongly dislike it and think it's just a place for people to have one night stands and fuck buddies

If you mean going online and being part of a community for interests or something and you meet someone there, then that's different and I have no problems with that

[Fromdusktilldawn]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/k58igQ6hvk0

Watch this guys vids. He tells the whole truth

https://www.youtube.com/embed/7-jD6zD61ME

[bamesjond0069]

Online dating generally is low quality. However it allows you to reach out past your social circles easily. Results come down to marketing. If you can weed out bad matches and get good ones, it can be amazing. Personally I've had bad results at first and then since used good marketing and now I get amazing results.

[Bethany22]

When I first did online dating I was SHOCKED at how many extraverted were on there. That was basically my way of weeding out the jerks. In my opinion at the time, the only people who would be on there for the right reasons were introverts.

[slatyb]

It worked quite well for me. I got divorced and didn't have much of a social network. So I got on match. com and I was seldom alone for long. After a few relationships, some shorter, some longer, I met my wife.

[RobT312]

It’s just ok. I had a little luck, but nothing ever lasted. I agree with you 100%, I do think there is a reason that those using it as their only dating source are single for a reason!!

[lightbulb27]

most online is a mess unless there is some other experience knowing the person.

I met my wife online and I know others who have. so it can work, just set your expectations right.

[lightbulb27]

dangerous too: www.foxnews.com/.../michigan-man-gets-life-kidnap-rape-teen-girl-braces-removed-pliers

[Steamnir]

Anything that includes dealing with people u dont know, and you can't reach anytime u want like in office or friend of friend, is fucked up

[Twalli]

Workplace romances are never good

[misogynistic_pig]

The majority of online daters seem to be fast-living strategists looking for casual sex with only 33% of users who have dated through Tinder getting a committed relationship.

[sunny02]

My aunt married her husband and they have a beautiful family so for some it work out great, mine was awful he was abusive, so be cautious

[TacosRAwesome]

In a way a necessary evil. I'm a bit too socially awkward to meet guys I want to date in real life so online dating might put me in their line of sight.

[Heolurt]

It's only there to give females attention and validation and it's a buffet for guys who just want to screw. For guys like me it's a waste of time, energy and money.

[Twalli]

Then don't pay for premium

[Heolurt]

For guys like me upgrading is the only way to get a chance, but I prefer having given up on trying to date altogether.

[BJP21]

Not safe, no consumer protections nor financial protections if a romance scam takes place. Its not a guarantee of meeting anyone in person.
If you have, you are significantly lucky.

[FilmGuy93]

I'm generally not a fan, but I met my current girlfriend online, so I guess it's not so bad.

[Friendlybro79]

My opinion is it's not for me but good for anyone else who it's working for.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

It’s killed more trans women of color than any alleged hate speech

[Shy_Steve]

That there is no such thing as 100% "Free" Online Dating at least not for a Man.

[TroyDT2]

Dumpster fire.

[legalboxers]

2 words. FUCKING SUCKS

[grega239]

Never worked for me

[athelete_7]

Waste of time.

[gabe2372732]

Trashy as hell. Insecure people crazy people. Disgusting. A turn off. So ewww