Do you consider yourself Undateable?

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When did you realize you were undateable🤣?

hello123456789 · Accepted Answer

I've been trying to find that special someone.

Long story short: I'm a 26 year old male looking for a long term relationship before.

Two Main Issues: I work 3 jobs. (At least 60 to 75 hours a week.) I choose to work three jobs to save for retirement and to invest (401 ks, IRAs, mutual funds, real estate, etc.) and I want to pay for my Master's Degree. ( I'm saving to buy a house by 34.) I'm not rich at all... but I make enough (6 figures) to live comfortably and happy. I'm not cheap either, and I dont have any debt. I like having some extra cash to pay for dates as well.

The other issue is that I still live with my parents and my two siblings. (So Im always going to her place or going put somewhere.) Again, I could move out, I'm financially capable, but I stay with my parents to help out with the bills since one of parents became ill and had to stop working.

I've met so many great woman. Many are hard workers, fun to be around, beautiful, spiritual, have goals, and really want relationships. But, everyone I meet doesn't want anything long-term because I work all the time and I live with my parents to look after the household.

And I totally understand that Im not always available to do things (i can't just take weekend trips or be caked up with someone all the time,) but I earnestly try to communicate effectively to let them know what I'm doing so we can make plans for dates, etc. But... it never works out even after I explain my situation.

And everytime I've asked someone "What did I do wrong, or why it didn't work out?" The answer has always been... I dont have my own place and I work too many jobs. (We dont spend enough time together.)

What can I do?

Psychotic_Buddhist · Accepted Answer

You every just spend years trying to emulate emotions, I've always been that weird guy in the corner or away from everyone one because I thought they were boring, I was an all A kid even through highschool, I have OCD, I have a controlled general anxiety disorder (through years of meditation and self-reflection).
Back to the main point I figured out at 7 that my dad raped my mom and that's how I was born, I grew up in an okay house hold, Me and my older brother would sometimes start fighting let it get out of hand to the point that windows and glass tables were broken (he slammed be through a table, I threw him out the window, we both got our asses whooped), basically I was an introverted, intelligent, mostly calm and collected person with some psychotic impulses, even now I plan to go into the military because I feel I need to get my hands bloody to calm down, and no, therapists don't work when you've studied psychology and psychiatry as deeply as I have, to the point that I've started developing mentally faster than most around me because my standard understanding of the world at 14 was that people dont owe you anything even if you're willing to risk your life for them. It's still their decision if they're gonna lift a finger for you and feeling entitled to their time and attention will only lead to destruction. I've been building on that base modifying it as I see fit over the years to the point that I just feel like a character in an infinitely expanding story, in which their are infinite stories

Izzy_3991 · Accepted Answer

Sometimes. I mean, my appearance isn't ideal and my mental health (OCD) could be a bit much for some people.
The good news though... I will never steal your food... because I already have my own. And your home and clothes will always be clean 🤣😂

YourFavoriteFriend · Answer

To me it was always "attractive" vs "unattractive" people. And you always knew if you are unattractive (which is the case for me).

AdithyaR · Answer

I've known for a while. Which is why i know i won't find anyone and why I've given up on trying to date.

ChefPapiChulo · Answer

its because you suck

peedy · Answer

Yes im to old to begin dating to set in my ways To old and to ugly

msc545 · Answer

Pretty much so, yes.

Anonymous · Answer

There is no such thing.

Noahzaid · Answer

To some extent, yes.

AsaKyo · Answer

Yeah, I'm too ugly

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