My friends with benefits is possessive and is it even remotely okay?

happyfoetus

The guy used to love me in school and I rejected him. Years later I went back to him and he denied knowing me. We eventually settled for friends with benefits. He would never call our Dates 'Date' or acknowledge me as a friend, which was okay since our relation was just sexual and nothing more.

There came a point where he started getting worried if I walk alone at nights, talk to other boys at midnight or get drunk. He began possessive without commitment. While we called our relation just sexual, he wanted to take things slow.

He never wanted sex but just consent. And if I deny, he would get angry.

This nature led me to end it. Thus I lied him about fake hookups. Apparently he took them as serious and stopped talking. He was very upset with me sharing my body.

Yesterday night we talked after more than a year. He was trying his best to sound 'cool'. Apparently when the topic came, I sensed a relief in his voice, when he knew the hookup was prank. I caught him in his little soliloquy being bothered by the prank. Also I had a runny nose which made him ask 'are you crying'?

Later he again went back to his old character.

The question is when the relation clearly says 'just sex', why should he act hurt?

My friends with benefits is possessive and is it even remotely okay?
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