White girls are more approachable ?

[Anonymous]

my best friend (she’s white) recently started hanging out with my friend group a few days ago, i’ve noticed that within hours there were 4 guys crushing on her. asking me about her? inviting her places and etc. then there’s me who’s been friends with them since the very beginning, and i noticed how they don’t invite me and i don’t have 4 guys or anyone crushing on me in the group. j feel like people assume that black girls are intimating or less attractive because i honestly feel like chopped liver beside her.

[Anonymous]

Probably because she’s a fresh face in the group, but even if it was because she’s white and she’s not, who cares? Before you say I don’t get it, I do. I’ve been friends with my white best friend for 15+ years. We met in high school, had a small patch of time from 19-22 where we fell out of touch, then she started coming out with me and my two friends. For a little while it felt upsetting because she was getting so much attention and I never seemed to have any guys interested in me or they just sort of humored me by default because I was there and their friends was talking up mine. It wasn’t until a couple years later I realized almost every friend group has that one who stands out. You’re paying close attention to race, and I don't know maybe you have some deep rooted insecurities around that to deal with, but trust me it is not your blackness. There always seems to be the girl friend who gets more attention, and the one who doesn’t. But tbh are the men even attractive or worth your time? Is she ever in a long term, stable relationship? I met my current boyfriend at 29, and my bestie was seething jealous when he only paid attention to me, pursued and focused on me, while she dealt with guys who wouldn’t commit, played games and just wanted something from her. Basically the winners weren’t flocking to her. So don’t feel bad or racially shame yourself because she’s getting attention. You are fine as you are and maybe multiple men aren’t on you but that’s because the right one will be.

[Anonymous]

Going anonymous for this because I know how people are on here.

As a black woman that has been the only black person in a group of friends, I can confirm that in most instances, my other friends are always approached or receive attention from men over myself. Even black men would talk to them over me! 🤦🏿‍♀️
You can't make this stuff up.

And yeah, it used to bother me until I realized, "They [some men] must prefer white women."

Again, this is only when I'm with women that are not black, not all the time.
But unfortunately most, not all men, tend to be drawn to white women over black women in terms of attraction.

It has nothing to do with your weight, hair, personality, etc... because I already know most idiots on here are going to instantly blame you for this situation 🙄

It just means when you're trying to go out and be flirty, sometimes go out with other people or friends. Or if there's a guy you're interested in and afraid that might be an issue? Have her hang back or keep some distance so the guy has your attention, not hers.

[BJP21]

Ill approach any color if I find interest. What will reflect on you is personality. Show it. Sometimes for some girls you have to approach the guy. Dont be afraid to. We like it when you do.

[Berethor]

White is the best looking race on earth, so you should not be surprised.

[Summeroflove]

Depends on the person

[chicosuave]

white girls are just less aggressive

[Cristinaissweet]

Are you overweight?