This is a question for which a misstep can have serious consequences. If a girl wants to go slow and I try to get a kiss, she might assume that I am just trying to get her into bed and that's the last time I'll ever see her. But some girls expect more and if a guy doesn't at least go for a kiss, she might think he isn't attracted or just wants to be friends. I don't want there to be any confusion so. . . I try to read the signals and unless I see something that says "SLOW DOWN!" I go for a kiss at the end of a first date.