If you are attracted to your companion, do you want a kiss at the end of the first date?

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This is a question for which a misstep can have serious consequences. If a girl wants to go slow and I try to get a kiss, she might assume that I am just trying to get her into bed and that's the last time I'll ever see her. But some girls expect more and if a guy doesn't at least go for a kiss, she might think he isn't attracted or just wants to be friends. I don't want there to be any confusion so. . . I try to read the signals and unless I see something that says "SLOW DOWN!" I go for a kiss at the end of a first date.

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Lliam · Accepted Answer

I voted D. But as you said, you have to recognize signals. You don't just grab her.

I think I kissed after every first date I ever had. Two were initiated by the girls.

After one date, I walked the lady to her door. She unlocked it and turned. Stepping forward, she placed her hands on top of my shoulders, rose to her tip toes, and kissed my lips. Her lips were so warm and tender that my head buzzed.

My future wife did the same thing after our first date when I walked her to her car.

But I initiated similar kisses with girls. Just a tender kiss, no tongue or passionate hugging or anything. That stuff is for the second date.

Likes2drive · Accepted Answer

I don’t usually expect a kiss on the first date even though I wouldn’t mind, but I never know what they’re thinking

19magic · Accepted Answer

Personally I'd like to have a kiss but I wouldn't expect it, but honestly I think the best bet would be a kiss on the cheek. The few times it's happened to me it's been a really sweet gesture.

I was at a Queen tribute act and there was an after-party and I ended up dancing like ballroom style with this older guy, maybe in his 60s for 10/15 mins. He thanked me for dancing with him and kissed me on the cheek, it was the sweetest thing ever, had it been anything else I think I might have freaked, but it's always been quite a sweet gesture to me.

midnightmoon05 · Accepted Answer

No…first date is kinda like an interview/getting to know them. I have to like them a lot more than just the initial attraction to become physically intimate.
although i did stayed in the same hotel room with him in two separate beds. Im was okay with that. 😂

Guy13 · Answer

Whether I like you or not is irrelevant. I will know if there is anything electric in our relationship. It is the Time to define a physical “connection or not” .

AviatorTom · Answer

Start with a D and expand it to an E if she's willing. It worked for my SO and my first date... that was 6 years ago.

RavVid · Answer

I think it is decided on the way in.

If you are going for the lips she might turn her cheek to you. Or if you are going for the cheek she might turn her lips to you.

I don't think there is that much to read unless you are planning to stick your tongue in.

I'd additionally go for a hug as well and a little caressing. A girl complained to me once that a guy she had just hugged hadn't felt her tits and she seemed to think he should have. I'd probably compromise and feel her ass.

If the girl blocks me on the way in and offers me a handshake that's the first and final date.

CubsterShura · Answer

Depends. If it'd my first time meeting or talking to this guy then a kiss is out of question, it's NOT happening. However, if it's a date with someone I have already known, for example if we've been friends for a while and hung out many times before, then I wouldn't mind.

Kori1236 · Answer

Honestly depends on how the date went. I’m not someone who likes a lot of touch, so a hug might be a little awkward for me. If the date went really well, I can see myself with this guy and I want to kiss him or give him a hug I’ll be outright with it. I know dudes don’t take signals and hints well so I may initiate the hug and allow him to go in for the kiss, or I’ll just tell him it’s okay.

Looksnicholas · Answer

I voted B, hey at least a hug is better than a handshake, a handshake is if there was no attraction or one sided attraction LOL 🤗😋😋👀

TheNameIsRob · Answer

I wouldn’t expect a kiss and most likely wouldn’t look for an opportunity to try and kiss her. I’m not saying I wouldn’t, I just feel it’s best to save some of the mystery maybe until the next date.

I did meet a woman for a date once whose first words to me were “I’m not going to sleep with you today” lol. Funny thing is she invited me inside when I took her home and she almost made a liar out of herself.

melanieeeB · Answer

I don't like kissing at the first date, I always just go for the hug but no kiss yet

Twalli · Answer

When I first went to kiss my girlfriend (she was not my girlfriend at the time) I aimed for the cheek. She moved intentionally so it would be on the lips, which pretty much confirmed that she wanted to be my girlfriend. We were just friends, not even dating at that point.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

A kiss on the first date is usually way too early for me. It's about getting to know each other. I'm already nervous enough if we get to hold hands at some point. And then a good hug by the end.

ShellyB · Answer

A handshake is funny to me. That would have been a bad date. I would go with B or C. A hug is always OK and a peck on the cheek is prob. OK if the date went well. No more than that, though.

annabananna · Answer

As long as you are pushy and annoying for something more than a kiss I don’t think you should worry too much about if a girl thinks you just want to sleep with her. If I’m attracted then yea I’d want a kiss.

desperatelyhungry · Answer

I would be ok with that, but I don’t wanna have sex for the first few dates and until we get on the same page about what we want

Sun_Kim-Ai · Answer

No kiss, and maybe no handshake as well. I don't like kisses too much, despite being forced to give some at times.

Emiliamazing · Answer

A friendly kiss was how our first date ended. :-)

VanillaSalt · Answer

Every person that said banging like monkeys only said it to say it lmao

katiesmuff · Answer

A short simple kiss works fine usually for both parties.

QuietVerbena · Answer

I could go with either B or D depending on how much I like you

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I do not want a kiss on the first date. I view kisses as very intimate, and I don't feel comfortable sharing that level of intimacy with someone that I just met.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

No, that is too soon. We can have a friendly hug. . . but don't get handsy!

If you are attracted to your companion, do you want a kiss at the end of the first date?

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