How do I stop imagining cute scenarios and falling in love w the guy I hooked up with?

[Anonymous]

[coachTanthony]

Go get some air and clear your head. Talk to someone who can clearly articulate that you are simply pair-bonding with this guy because the sex was good but it doesn't mean you are compatible which in turn your brain wants it to be so.

[CubsterShura]

This is why I believe in seeing more than one men at once or seeing none at all. I was flirting with a guy and was catching feelings, I started texting others the same way and I got over it. If we're not in a relationship we don't owe anyone loyalty.

[Aerissa_Jade]

You don't, you just have to deal with it and move on. Best way is to either find another hook up or find a regular relationship.

Most people will say find a regular relationship, but its your body and your life.

[OlderAndWiser]

Maybe you shouldn't be fucking as a recreational activity if it makes you fall in love with a dude.

[DevikaButts95]

Least helpful award goes to... guy whose opinion somehow wasn't asked for on a website where people get others opinions. Lmao.

[Asker]

@DevikaButts95 😂❤️

[RainBat]

He's right though.

[DevikaButts95]

@RainBat He's not, it's not even an answer to the asked question, just a random claim at superiority.

[RainBat]

It literally is an answer on how to stop though, stopping it at all stops the issue too.

[RainBat]

If you can't handle something like that you probably shouldn't be doing it.

[DevikaButts95]

@RainBat
How would she stop picturing scenarios of this guy even if she stopped hooking up right now? She's probably not hooking up right now because she's focusing on the guy.

[RainBat]

The way the question is framed makes it sound like it's a repeating issue, which means not doing it anymore would be a good idea.

[DevikaButts95]

@RainBat If it were likes "guys I hook up with" and not "the guy I hooked up with" one could argue that, sure. But it sounds like it's just one dude, for all we know, of many that she did not fall in love with.
And it's still not an answer anyways, because maybe she wants to continue the joys of hooking up but wants to learn how to cope with the aftermath emotions.

[RainBat]

Eh, I reread the question, you're probably right she's talking about one, still, even if it really is the one, it's a silly idea to do this without being able to deal with it.

[DevikaButts95]

@RainBat
I think that's a fairer criticism if maybe not posed like this dude does it. Lmao

[OlderAndWiser]

@DevikaButts95 Sometimes, what people NEED to hear is not what they WANT to hear. I would rather give good advice than to simply tell people what they want to hear. I don't care about losing a vote if this is a popularity contest.

[DevikaButts95]

Why didn't you do that here then?

[OlderAndWiser]

@DevikaButts95 I did, but you seem to not want to acknowledge that. Are you trying to be a white knight?

[Inbox]

@OlderAndWiser Game, Set, Match 😂

[DevikaButts95]

@Inbox Lmao dude, no. He just reiterated that he did something he didn't do, and then called me a white knight, There was nothing needed to be elaborated on, he failed to refute anything, he's just being a dick and his advice isn't really intended as advice nor is it very helpful given it comes with a handful of biased assumptions he doesn't know.

[OlderAndWiser]

@DevikaButts95 And your opinion appears to express the minority view. What is "clear" to you is not the way others see this issue.

[DevikaButts95]

Lmao oh fuck not the minority view!!
As if that gives you any sort of validity, still a dick comment, still bad advice, just because people agree with you doesn't really make it right. Lmao.
Not to mention, this is specifically your comment thread, which is why it's attracting more people who agree with you. Most wouldn't give you the time of day. Lmao.

[OlderAndWiser]

@DevikaButts95 If you say so. I will assume that you are right, of course. Are you really laughing your ass off? fIf so, you should stop, because you wll need your ass one day! (And that's good advice, too!)

Actually, what constitutes "good advice" or "bad advice" is a matter of opinion. I don't know of any other criteria to judge the advice other than its acceptance and support by others.

[DevikaButts95]

Whether it answers the question or is particularly useful are two infinitely more helpful criteria to judge if your advice is good or not, more so than if others like you for it. (And that's good advice, too!)

[OlderAndWiser]

@DevikaButts95 "Whether it answers the question or is particularly useful " are both extremely SUBJECTIVE.

[DevikaButts95]

No. Lmao.
The question asked: "how do I stop imagining cute scenarios and falling in love w the guy I hooked up with" Your answer: Don't do the hookup. She already did. Lmao.
Doesn't answer the question. Likewise, not particularly useful because A. doesn't really help her current dilemma and B. At best, it's only good advice if certain assumptions are true, which will OBJECTIVELY affect it even being able to be considered advice. Lmao.

[OlderAndWiser]

@DevikaButts95 She can't undo what is done. The best that she can do is to learn from her mistake. Do YOU have a secret for her to undo what has already happened?

I didn't think so.

[DevikaButts95]

Lmao where did she ask to UNDO what has happened either?
It's like you're incapable of paying basic attention. Lmao.

[OlderAndWiser]

@DevikaButts95

1. You really SHOULD hang on to your ass.
2. Lghten up, Francis. This is getting rather old! We disagree and that's okay. Do you need me to confess that you are right and I am wrong? Is that what it takes to get you to lighten up?

[DevikaButts95]

I only responded to the other guy. Lmao. I gave up on you way earlier, I've literally only been reiterating already stated things. Lmao.

[RainBat]

Why do you say lmao in every message? Sometimes twice, it looks like overcompensation 😎😎😎

[DevikaButts95]

@RainBat
Lmao you guys are so bothered by it, I like to say lmao.

[RainBat]

Not really it's just very silly

[Guy13]

That’s normal. It takes time to pass.

[Starbers99]

What's wrong with wanting a relationship? If he feels the same then you should go for it. If he doesn't, then move on because you're clearly ready for a relationship if you are feeling like this - look for the guy who can give you that.

[heartofgold94]

Don't picture the person you're hooking up with as someone you could spend the rest of your life with. I have attachment issues so i have to take things slow to keep the attractiveness flowing from both sides. Someone you will spend the rest of your life with will be a good (if not best) friend of yours first before a boyfriend/husband. Sex ≠ love.

[Lis-the-librarian]

Stop hooking up. You just get used by guys. And will be in this situation.
Realize for what it was, not a love story. And keep yourself busy to get your mind off it.

[DevikaButts95]

Oh no you went and made yourself anon, I forgot to follow you I think. :(
Well my only advice is to hook up with another guy. Lmao.

[LaineyLuiza]

You can't the more you fight it the more it will happen.

[Berethor]

Why you hooked up if you so emotional in the first place? hooked up is more of a guy thing.

[inhua]

you can't. you've pair bonded to the guy.

[Asker]

Whats pair bonded?

[inhua]

you've released a hormone called oxytocin aka the love drug that triggers feelings of love and attraction towards whomever you had sex with.

[Asker]

This happens to guys too?

[inhua]

not quite. vasopressin is what gets a man to bond with a woman. more often than not when a guy has sex with a girl, he's just horny. if he has sex with her again and again, that's a sign to indicate he has feelings for her.

[PhenomenalQueen]

Wow so that’s what’s wrong with me too.. lol and how accurate is the last thing you said?

[Anonymous]

don't hookup with people if you are this type of person... you are setting yourself up to be sad and disappointed.

[sheikalana]

Well, give it some time and when you're ready start seeing other people.

[Anonymous]

Stop forming emotional connections. That's really the only way. This is why I don't allow myself to get emotionally attached to women. If you don't feel you can't be hurt.

[David_Kek]

Maybe stop hooking up with people and get real relationships if you get attached that easily?

[SpokenTruth]

I never have done any hookups and I don't give advice to those that do hookups either.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately, that’s your natural response to sex even if it’s just a hookup. Don’t worry, though, in a couple months you will stop imagining.

[moonpie89]

Distract yourself.. don't get caught up in it. Talk to someone else

[jshm2]

It's just infatuation. You'll get over it.

[melanieeeB]

Stop the fake scenarios and see the reality lol

[Anonymous]

Tell your vagina.. this is just a snake in me when the guys come

[rosek]

Stop hooking up with people.

[tonamimargaux]

Is he into you or not?