Should I ghost or should I message him saying I don’t want to be involved with him anymore? (Page 2)

Question

Long story short, me and him have been talking for 3 months. Today we were supposed to go on a date and he has yet to mention us going out and it’s almost 8 pm. I’ve tried talking to him twice about how he has been treating me before today. Should I ghost or is it better to flat out tell him that I no longer want to be involved?

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Message. It's only respectful and he won't bother you because he knows now that you aren't interested in taking things further. Treat him how you want to be treated.

Guccigabbana18 · Answer

Message him. Be nice but honest and straightforward about it. Do not ghost, you've been talking for 3 months.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

The proper & considerate thing to do is to tell him straight to his face.

PhenomenalQueen · Answer

I think you should be straight up and honest.. Please don’t ghost him.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Don’t put all your apples in one basket.  continue talking to others, have a fun life without putting him on the pedestal.

Multi_personality · Answer

I say - speak your mind and be clear.  I dont want to date you ------ You make me feel ----- Be firm and don't back down.

Faith18letsgo · Answer

I’d flat out tell him unless you think he’s going to try to win you back and be successful then just ghost him.

Beop111 · Answer

You should never ghost anyone. It's highly disrespectful and rude. Grow some balls and tell him you're moving on. You can try and do it gently and politely, but you still need to do it.

t_time · Answer

Be Upfront and honest. I have Been ghosted, it really hurt my feelings. If they were upfront honest I would have been less hurt.

aaron210419 · Answer

Rejecting someone may feel awkward or hard to do but it's respectful because it doesn't leave the other person guessing. Ghosting someone is childish and can be emotionally damaging.

AsaKyo · Answer

Tell him you just don't wanna be bothered with him anymore It'll sting for a little bit, but he'll get over it

OddBeMe · Answer

Toughy, as a lot of true crime shows start this way… I’d ghost him slowly. Keeping him at arms length. Be ever endearing…on the phone. But try to get him to lost interest.

ZenJen444 · Answer

He's basically walked away from you already. His behavior sounds very intentional like he's not interested. He will most likely pop up days later like nothing ever happened I'd just block him. Can't ghost someone who has basically ghosted you.

Neilbud · Answer

I would try and meet up with him and tell him how you feel. From the sounds of it he is not that interested anyways. A person's that is interested will make time when he can.

JDAC092299 · Answer

I think it’s a mix of preference and circumstance, I’d like to be rejected rather than ignored but everyone is different.

Tranquility_Lady · Answer

Ghosting is worse for me but then rejecting someone and not getting to be their friend because of the rejection is just as bad

A_Bell · Answer

Don't ghost, it makes you a jerk. Show respect as you'd want to be shown respect.

Evie_Rose91608 · Answer

Ask him (in person is better if possible) if he actually wants to give you and him a real chance, then make a decision based on that.

the_bruh · Answer

It depends on how you see and feel about the other person, if you like them you'd probably get hurt.

dustybiker · Answer

Be the adult in the relationship. End it with a little respect for yourself.

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