Do I sound crazy?

[Anonymous]

We haven't seen each other for 3 weeks and I miss him.
But I find he can only spend the evening with me.
He told me from last week we'd see each other this weekend. Then he almost messed me around because of his friends dog (dog sitting) but he reconfirmed.
Then he text me after to say he promised to watch the football with his sister. (even though he said he hates football)
He hadn't even asked me what I planned for us to do... Or if I wanted to do something...

My messages:
What do I really say to that?
I''m starting to think that I have developed feelings that aren't reciprocated
I'm starting to feel like you're seeing this as being more casual than I am
I'm starting to feel like if I say all these things I'm becoming demanding
I would never stop you from doing whatever you want to do
But I get the feeling that an extended period of time together is a big issue for you
And that will be a problem for us if this has potential to be more
But it's also an issue for me if you feel that this is all it can be
It's a pattern
So I'm wondering what's going on... And I'm not going to accept an excuse of you being unreliable and or whatever
Because we make choices in life...

[Guy13]

If the girl he is with gets jammed up or he needs something new then he will reach out to you. Sorry but this is the truth as a guy speaking...

[Asker]

I'm worried that all he wants is sex

[Anonymous]

The only thing crazy is you continuing to deal with a man who isn’t reciprocation your feelings and effort. What is there for him to respond to all of this if he’s already showing you his answer? You see what’s going on...

[Asker]

He texts every day. And mostly through the evenings. He lives an hour away and it's been tricky due to rail strikes..
There's been a few weeks of sickness and now his friend and the dog is staying with him. Which made things complicated.
But whenever we plan to meet its evening. I'm happy to meet in the evening if we're planning on doing something but I don't want to just be a booty call especially when we see each other every other week.
Even if we met one afternoon and didn't have sex I'd be happy but it's worrying.
I haven't listened to his voice note as I'm scared he's going to say I'm crazy but I hate his last min. Com, time fillers!

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe it’s just me but that’s so strange, especially being confined to evenings, both texts and meetings, sex is involved, this feels very “other woman” or just him not fully willing to commit. If you want something serious I hope you’re clear about that and have your standards in place.

[Asker]

So we text in the day but we both have work. The messages (voice notes) are more frequent in the evening when he and I have time.
I think he's not willing to commit. This has been an issue before where I've been regarded as just a sexual being. I don't know why but maybe I'm just boring but a good lay.
I don't want to be reduced to just that.

[Opinion Owner]

Absolutely not, you deserve more than that. Why not phone calls and just voice notes? Have you discussed commitment?

[Asker]

No not really... I think he has anxiety he says he voice notes because its faster and I love the sound of his voice

[Opinion Owner]

That’s sweet and all, but maybe you two need a real on the phone conversation. I used to do the whole voice note thing through snapchat and it only takes moments to excuse yourself to the restroom or whatever and send a note. He could easily do the same sort of thing. I guess my point with this is to confirm there’s no one else around and you aren’t someone he’s sneaking around with. A lot of us struggle with anxiety but still...

[Danny_dan92]

Ok so you haven’t seen each other in 3 weeks.




Why?

[Asker]

His friend had landed himself in a pickle, so he and his dog (cane corso mix) is staying with him. He wasn't well at one week. I've also not been well and on antibiotics so needed a weekend to rest.

[Danny_dan92]

Why can’t he just bring the dog with him to your place?

[Asker]

My dog is a Boston terrier. He's friendly but gets hyper active. My concern is that with it being such a big dog and not having met before she might fight. He was attacked this week already by a husky (he has a chunk of fur missing) we live a distance from each other so if he were to come here and problems start it would be an issue also it's not his dog!

[Danny_dan92]

Umm… separate the dogs

[Asker]

I live in a small flat. It's not appropriate or his dog. If he has to dig sit then I'd have to see him another time.

[Asker]

It's big enough for Bruno as he frequently runs around and we play ball.

[Rustyshackelford69]

You sound pretty much right. He isn't going to change he probably just wants to bang and that's it