I really like rejecting love and I don’t fully know why?

[Anonymous]

I don’t really want to get married or have children. I’m super closed off from wanting that.. I almost feel emotionally unavailable.. I used to dream about that fairytale and seeing how my parents had a beautiful love story..

I do feel unworthy of it sometimes and I don’t have the looks to make a man want to marry. I think there’s a lot of trauma tied to why I dont

i like being by myself and spoiling myself. I’m super mean to guys who try ( not many)

[HollyK21]

You’re just uninterested in relationships and that’s fine. There are a great many men and women in this world who have decided to be single for the rest of their lives with no kids and just enjoying a drama free life and that’s ok too. I think the problem comes in when you feel like you enjoy being mean to guys who even try it with you.


Your forever-single life should be a peaceful decision, and rejecting advances should be chill, because you’re happy. So it makes your decision seem somewhat begrudging and like you’re living an bitter, sad life, which I doubt is the case, so why put out such negative energy? Also, the fact that you feel unlovable or undeserving of marriage and whatnot is definitely a result of unhealed past trauma. Maybe it’s something to address with a therapist.

[Asker]

I think me not wanting marriage stems a lot from the past.. feeling ugly, unlovable , undeserving , being rejected, used, dumb, disposed.. I feel like love is to much for me. Instead of love making me feel good it makes me so incredibly angry, vulnerable and sad.. but I do enjoy my own space.

I honestly don’t mind being single and childless.

[HollyK21]

Yeah, and things like that is why I suggest therapy. Getting help in your healing journey is for no one and nothing else but your betterment. Even if you don’t want or can’t get therapy for whatever reason, I’d really advise you start doing some inner work on your own. Deciding to be single forever is totally fine — more power to you! But you at least deserve peace of mind and to rid yourself of those voices that tell you so many untrue, harsh things. Your choice should be peaceful, and the idea of love or being approached shouldn’t turn on your defensive mechanisms. Nor should it trigger so many harmful thoughts. Hopefully this makes sense.

[Asker]

Yes, you’re right. I’ll look into therapy

Thank you

[HollyK21]

No problem! Good luck on your journey.

[Asker]

Thank you! 🙏

[Jamie05rhs]

Maybe you reject love from others because you can't understand why they love you, because you don't love yourself? (Sorry; I know that's a cliché. But I think there might be some truth to it.)

[Asker]

I think me not wanting marriage stems a lot from the past.. feeling ugly, unlovable , undeserving , being rejected, used, dumb, disposed.. I feel like love is to much for me. Instead of love making me feel good it makes me so incredibly angry, vulnerable and sad.. but I do enjoy my own space.

I honestly don’t mind being single and childless.

So maybe you’re right

[Jamie05rhs]

I understand. It's okay. 💜

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks for the MHO.

[UniquelyBasic]

I think it's your way to cope but I could be wrong.

[Asker]

I agree 1000 percent … it makes sense but doesn’t.

[icedragoom]

Men this person name is "megra her friends call her meg well they would if she ever had any friends."

[ArtemisSilver]

You're a sadist, congratulations.

Not to worry though, past 30 fewer and fewer guys will offer lol

[Asker]

Not many offer anyway

None actually

[Anonymous]

Where's the problem? 🤣🤣🤣