To ghost or not to ghost?(a friendly outing, not a date)?

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

Am I being extra? I don’t think I am. Here we go a guy plans a date at a scare park but it’s Christmas themed and has an escape room. It sounds different and fun so I agree. I should’ve just pushed for a regular escape room. Anyway I end up paying for my own tickets and adjust my thinking to this is just a friendly outing. But why was he trying to treat it like a date? As soon as I have to pay for my own things other than the gas for me to get there it is no longer a date you are one of the bros. Then because I don’t scare easily that made him feel some type of way. He interpreted it as me not having a good time. I just don’t scare easy. Then he says he took off a night of kick boxing for me. I said “and I drove 98miles backtracked 20miles to be here and I still have to drive that same 20miles back to my moms house.” So he stopped. Then we end up going to McDonalds because everything was closed other than that the MTO gas stations and this bar deli. I wanted to go to the bar deli but he says that’s expensive. I really wanted to know how expensive? Is it like 30$ plus tax expensive? As I have paid that much for a sandwich before but it didn’t look like that kind of place. He laughs it off. I google it, no lie nothing is over $12. I watched him pay 50 dollars on mostly himself at the park. This is no longer a “we” situation. He ends up taking me to McDonalds per my request. He says well since I’m being a chauffeur am I getting paid? I said sure In compliments and not giving you a hard time like I should. Thanks for your limo service would you like some nuggets? He said no. I buy my fries. I ask did he want some fries? It was still no. So then he grabs my my bag digging in my fries. He got upset because I told him “nope they’re your fries now just have em.” I don't know why I’m even asking because the more I type the more I’ve made my decision to ghost him. Hope you find entertainment in this.

[Labokachulaa]

Definitely ghost his ass! That sounds absolutely boring and not only that, he's cheap. I agreed with you when you said, if you're paying for a "date" that makes him one of the bros. I couldn't agree with that more, it annoyed me reading that. Like who is he kidding, I'm willing to bet money, he's going to message you after you ghost him. 😂 Block him and run!

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

Yes he did text me. He knows he messed up now all the sudden it’s back to “Hi good morning”. It’s one thing to be broke but it’s another to be cheap and have the nerve to call this a date. I get him stating he’s looking for friends with or without sex. I was fine with that. If he just said hey let’s hang out just as friends this is an activity I’m interested in do you want to meet there. I would’ve been fine. He labeled it a date, like where did all this mind changing happen? All in all my stance is “Nah bruh I’m good.”. Clearly he needs to date himself and examine the definition.

[Labokachulaa]

Wow, that sounds like a familiar situation. I think he's just doing that to make you more open to the idea of going out with him. It definitely gives me player vibes because he should know that friends don't have sex. As soon as sex is involved it became a romantic relationship. Don't let people try and convince you different. Situationships, friends with benefits, casual sex, all of that bs is the same thing. It only works out for men a majority of the time. So, as soon as they say any of the "going with the flow" "see where things go", "seeing my options", etc.. any of that, you know your time is about to be wasted girl.

[NathanDavis]

low effort, bad attitude, cheap... petty, lol... not that it would make a difference, but did he at least got something right or good?

I have a feeling that if he contacts you again could be to complain or worse, lol... so I guess why even bother? skip

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

No, we had decent conversation but that’s about it. I wouldn’t have him as a friend either. That behavior to me also translates as he’s probably going to think he’s entitled in some way down the line. I don’t have that to do either.

[NathanDavis]

that sounds exactly right... when some people just go around feeling entitled to something and see everyone else as that, this is what happens, and I agree, they are not worth any further effort