What is your biggest turnoff in potential dates?

Question

What would be an instant disqualification for you?

Biancam13 · Accepted Answer

Bad breath is a huge one. You'd be surprised at how common it is. Yellow teeth is also the same as bad breath. Indicates a lack of hygiene.

Bad style- I know this sounds shallow, but I mean someone who also doesn't groom or take care of themselves.

Talking badly about other people. If I hear any badmouthing of anyone on the first date, it just gives me hater vibes if they're doing this so early on. I like people who are respectful of other people and are generally positive people.

This ties into the last point, but treating women he doesn't find attractive badly or significantly worse than women he does want something from or wants to sleep with. I hate that. Hate it.

Doesn't make an effort. This one is pretty self-explanatory. If I feel like you're playing games, you're gonna be hard to want.

A sense of humour that clearly isn't compatible with mine.

This is more on social media, but if I see his name under hundreds of girls photos, it's a turn-off. Makes me feel like he has no standards and will sleep with whomever.

Cocky. There's a difference between quiet confidence (attractive) and over-confidence to the point it's obnoxious (not attractive.)

Talks about anything sexual too early on. It's ok to make one cheeky comment, but multiple times is a turn-off. Makes me think he's a player or looking for something casual.

If they have a reputation of being a player or treating women badly, it's pretty much an instant no for me. I know some girls like the challenge of trying to change players, but I really am not interested.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Long list here, so bear with me:

Expects sex right away. If I barely know your name, much less anything about you or your intentions? It's not happening.
Poor hygiene. I shouldn't have to say this but apparently some people don't know what deodorant and shampoo are.
Smokers! Nothing against them, I just don't want to kiss someone who tastes like an ashtray
Doesn't know how to hold a conversation or-
Talks too much! Especially about himself
Poor manners
Brings up his ex too much... or worse, compares you to said ex. I don't mind hearing about exes; I don't! It gives me an idea on why things didn't work out in the past. But if he brings up an ex ALL the time? I'm gonna suspect he still had feelings for her.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Most importantly, if she is a feminist, shows any indication of being woke, or otherwise IDs herself as a "modern woman", she is instantly disqualified.

Smoking is an instant DQ.

Obvious tattoos, unnaturally colored died hair, or piercing in her nose, tongue or somewhere other than her ears is an instant DQ.

Any indications she uses drugs or drinks a lot, instant DQ.

Any indications she has a promiscuous past is an instant DQ.

Has children, DQ.

This may sound harsh, but if she doesn't have a good father who has been and is actively present in her life, and/or doesn't have a positive and respectful relationship with him, and/or her mother and father are divorced or estranged, it's a DQ. There are soooo many women today who have terrible attitudes toward men and relationships due to being raised by a single mother or other family problems, and dating any of those women is a huge mistake. I date to marry, and today more than ever, a man cannot be too careful in looking the right women to marry.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

- Transgender/biologically male
- Queer/bi (gay in any way)
- Feminist or woke
- Polyamorous/unfaithful (cheaters/adulterers)
- History of abuse

Any one of those are an INSTANT and IMMEDIATE dealbreaker, especially the first two. Or for anyone replying, no, I don't have to justify to you why I have zero interest dating a biological man or lesbian. No, I don't give a f*ck if you'd date a biological man or lesbian. I have zero interest in such and nothing can change my mind on that.

As for the feminist one; I accidentally dated a feminist once. Never again. No more "giving them the benefit of the doubt." No more woke morons. They're all awful people; just like girls wouldn't want to date an admitted incel.

Guy13 · Answer

After or during conversation, not a questioning interrogation, feeling resistance to simply being and saying who and what you are or are not. It seems by your handle that this is not an issue for you.-That's an immediate draw, whereas, the vibes I receive from the feminists and woke are always of the lying enemy.-Will you please go date a girl or a communists often creeps in with that crowd. Overall, it is an individual vibe and often requires a follow-up date before Judgment...

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

When they Will only communicate by text only… When bring up sex/sex talk right from the beginning. Or ask your bra size, things like that…

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Blameworthy behaviour such as unjustifiable accusations or insensitive remarks or mismanagement of time or degrading human efforts by others.

BlueScorpio · Answer

Just looking for sexual pleasure, mean, smells funny, cold and distant, not commitment minded.

petitedollbabee · Answer

Misogynistic, has a “I don’t want a girlfriend with a sexual past but I want a virgin who’s super skilled in the bedroom and knows exactly what she’s doing” mentality, makes assault jokes then excuses it as “dark humour” (it’s not dark humour, it’s just vile), is blatantly transphobic and/or homophobic unless it benefits them ie seeing two girls kiss is hot but seeing two guys kiss is “disgusting”, refers to himself as an “alpha”, shows manipulative and controlling behaviour, says things like “I’d never let my girl leave the house wearing that” (no one asked), views women as nothing but holes, has a drinking and/or drug problem.

Any of those things are enough for me to block the guy and avoid a date.

HighValue · Answer

1. Democrat. 2. Has kids from someone else. 3. Fat. 4. Promiscuous past. 5. Has contact with an ex. 6. Has dyed unnatural hair color. (blue, pink, purple, etc.) 7. Has a past of using drugs. (Marijuana is a drug too.) 8. Posts provocative/revealing pictures/videos of herself online for likes and comments after being in a relationship. 9. Doesn't want a prenuptial agreement. 10. Dishonest with me. (For example, if she lies about her past and I later find out the truth, even if we have been together for years, the relationship will end.)

Those are my top 10 deal breakers that I can think of right now. I am sure almost nobody could actually live up to them because they would have to be a decent person.

DizzyDesii · Answer

—If he's into weed or other forms of smokin — if he asks to take me out for “drinks” because he probably means alcohol.— If he expects sex or to hookup early on. —If he talks bad about women but says shit like “but not you, you're so different.” —If he's not a good listener and I’m having to repeat myself a lot —If he's too wrapped on family or work —If he sounds desperate —If he doesn't believe in God

Selena1776 · Answer

If he just wants sex. I love genuine nice guys but if it’s for a ulterior motive I HATE it. If a guy pays for a date and brings me flowers and stuff it melts my heart.

But I’m saving myself until marriage. I always find ways to pay him back. Sometimes I pay for the next date. Sometimes bring him a gift. Sometimes I just scratch his back or give him a massage or lots of cuddles.

Sometimes I cook or even do chores for him. There’s more to love then sex. I can like about any kind of guy if he isn’t a jerk or sex crazed

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

I think two things that make it impossible to keep hanging out with a girl if she was really bitchy and petty. I don't find girls who demand things or want to control me sexy.

If she was one of those overly jealous girls who started attacking other women for simply saying hi, don't get me wrong I guess I can understand the logic behind it because I also do sometimes be possissvie whenever a potential guy wanting to hit on her too but damn let not try to act that petty whenever the opposite gender want to chat with us. Men and Women can be friends with each other!

Emiliamazing · Answer

In my dating years, which was a long time ago: children from another marriage, extremist political or religious views, and self-absorption were the big no no's

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Her being a feminist, very active on tiktok, sjw, offended by everything Karen mentality, self entitled  Shallow close minded Not open, hard to talk to No respect, rude Gold digger Jealous, controlling Oversensitive, crying about every little thing and loves making a scene Arrogance

Anonymous · Answer

Assuming I am high maintenance, easy, won't get my hands dirty, or mean just because I like a little bit of makeup.

Generalizing and assuming is the worst thing a person can do. I'm very shy so it's hard to open up.. but don't judge, give a chance :)

Raaj4you · Answer

Ego, rude, arrogance, bad behavior, playing games, playing hard to get, bullying, camparison, argumentative, etc. If a girl has all these bad qualities then I lose interest quickly and I distance myself from her. If you girls don't have good qualities then don't date and waste time. A healthy relationship and marriage is for good people with good qualities.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

There are lots of dealbreakers, but at the end of my dating experience the first question i often asked is how long her last relationship lasted and how & why it ended. If she could finish her story without accepting any responsibility for her part in the breakup, i was out instantly.
Very few women could pass that simple test in my experience.

Sour-rose · Answer

wants to have sex with me, even tho not knowing the important things about me. disrespects women in every shape and form and think it's okay is just a rat in the rat race and their discipline is weak as a twig is a n*gga thinks I'm weird af and says what they really want in a woman... to my face. manipulative vibes

JamesDiaz11 · Answer

Having dated or hooked up with a black guy. Anything that alludes to this, i. e. liking trap music, speaking with urban slang, or just carrying themselves like they're hoodrats (for white or Asian girls) is an automatic disqualification for me.

Crafteroon · Answer

Being rude to the waiter or anyone we meet who is working during our date. Being inconsiderate to others is a big red flag.

Not participating actively. If I have to keep the conversation going alone, asking questions and expected to tell about myself in the process, it's a no-no. Genuine interest is a must.

Labokachulaa · Answer

Them flirting with someone else, talking about their ex, not dressing properly, one sided conversation, etc.. things like that.

YourExLover69 · Answer

If she is racist, rude, smokes a lot, consumes lot of alcohol, judges quickly, poor hygiene, too much lazy, doesn't put efforts for love and relationships, denies blowjobs, talks too less, too much tattoos, cold and distant, cheating history, isn't open minded, disloyal, dishonest, ghosts people quick, not mature or serious. Any of the above, She isn't my type.

Agape93 · Answer

Controlling behavior. I don't care if you're otherwise 10/10, the date ends immediately and another will not happen.

FlowerChild94 · Answer

Cheap. expects sex too soon. Talks about his ex.

kao118 · Answer

If you look like a druggie or a stoner. I mean, my friend is a stoner, doesn't mean he looks like it though. Granted, I wouldn't date him, but still. Maybe, if they seem to have a lot of red flags right off the bat.

Minxxie · Answer

If he tries to make the conversation sexual any chance he gets and if he's rude to service workers.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Previously my main red line was not wanting kids. Now that I've had 2, if I were backing dating scene, they'd have to accept my kids come first till they turn 18.

Tina19 · Answer

If he brags a lot about himself that how good he treat girls because who does never brag about it can be observed by their behavior and someone who isn't over their ex

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

Apart from what I feel is obvious, such as bad behavior, disrespectful, violent etc. I'd say poor hygiene, and smoking

SnowedIn · Answer

Rude to others. Always on their phone. Unable/unwilling to carry on a conversation.

Anonymous · Answer

Calling somebody 'mate'. Why don't you just grow a dick while you are at it? It isn't noticably going to change things at that point. Instant hard pass.

Massageman · Answer

When I was dating in the 60-70's, it would have been smokers, more than "social" drinkers, and gals who just checked their brain at the door, so to speak.

Luffy1990 · Answer

My biggest turn off before a first date Would be if she had a really annoying personality (something that would get under my skin to the point I cannot describe)

tfan1 · Answer

Smoking, drinking alcoholic beverages, piercings other that the traditional one per ear and tattoos. Also crazy colored hair.  Good thing my wife has none of that 😃👍

NatalieKeller95 · Answer

if I were to date, it would be anyone who is far left, or tries to grill me about my voting history

Blackmoonsns · Answer

When she riioff the bat asks how much money I have, or what I got. That's like me asking if I'm getting sex right away.

CA4444 · Answer

Stupidity, not being able to take good decisions and I have to do it myself

rienna888 · Answer

trying to bring up other girls or call girls hot infront of me, talks about sex, bad kisser, stinky, cheap

BJP21 · Answer

Has no positive outlook for anything long term. Quick and instant judgements without getting to know me first.

Pudsmucker · Answer

Somebody that excessively talks. Control freaks, constantly touching, Clingy, not sure of herself. An needs to be straight, no transgender.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

Poor hygiene Rudeness Entitled attitude  Shallow Apathetic towards the date itself, constantly on her phone, general lack of effort, etc

summiter · Answer

If she was a cigarette smoker it is an immediate turn off. Also poor hygiene is right up there also. What about you... what are your thoughts?

TrueConfection · Answer

Self loathing Rude or arrogant Hermit or antisocial Lots of complaining Smokes or uses drugs

Literalbillionaire17 · Answer

When all they do is talk about themselves or they insert themselves in everything

TaureanBull81 · Answer

When they have trust issues and are controlling 🤪

Anonymous · Answer

Flakey behavior. I have a a short list of deal breakers and when I see women nudging towards those things I prepare for the eventually ending to it all.

Andres77 · Answer

Being rude to a server in a restaurant. Being very critical of people

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Talks too much. She's stupid. Non Christian. Whorish. Rude. Arrogant. Liar.

AnUglyBarnacle · Answer

Mood swings. I like a predictable, mellow attitude (taking into account account her possibly having a bad day, of course).

ArtemisSilver · Answer

Signs of gold digging, lack of interest/respect. Crude behavior. Hard drugs... I'm sure I'll keep adding to the list the more I keep on tinder lol.

Fireguy17 · Answer

someone who is self-absorbed, can't put her phone down, posting selfies every 2 minutes, just not really there.

mstbooblover · Answer

Excessive religiosity and jealousy. Otherwise case sensitive I'd say.

RavVid · Answer

I say "You're beautiful". She says "I know". Instant disqualification.

Date_a_Snob · Answer

Being single for so long I have very few turnoffs. I would go out on a date with the first woman willing to date me.

OddBeMe · Answer

Arrogance or talking about themselves constantly. Can’t get a word in. Ironically they’re not aholes, it’s just nervousness. They need to figure out how to talk to people.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

She's texting her friends during the date.

fonduegirl · Answer

Mocks people, me, or even the waiter bcs he's got wads of cash :|

Kreneman · Answer

An extreme Hot quick tempered and very foul pop off mouth.

clampfan101 · Answer

Anything anti-Christian. My religion is the most important thing to me, and I want a Christian family. (Second place might be smoking. Yuck.)

Juxtapose · Answer

Mistreating me at all. The further you are away from a best friend who fucks me the further you are away from my ideal.

Marica70 · Answer

Guys who insist if you have already blocked them on social media…

krin_m · Answer

It has been a long time since I dated, but normally they were"clingy and jealous behavior, extreme religious views, judgmental attitudes...

stratford · Answer

A girl who acts like she is the most attractive girl in the room.

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