Has kids,
People who excessively sleep around.
Drug taking or smoking.
Overweight girls.
Masculine or big girls.
If you're talking about dating profiles in particular.
Anyone that is obviously whoring or trying to elicit money. Obviously.
Pic's that are all the same or obviously trying to hide something.
Too much light used, only part of face in shot, other suspicious tricks.
Can't work out which in the pic is you.
Mean and bitchy eyes.
Dating profiles that shout they want this and that. 'If you're this and that don't bother' just makes the whole thing really unpleasant. It's a really unpleasant attitude to display on your first impression. Some things are so ludicrously specific that they're obviously discounting 90% of the male population over some triviality.
And yes, I'm an arsehole. But I have my reasons.
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First: i never used a dating app and never will. That's been said, all above and more will be a turn off for me. That's why i go on 8k quality dates face to face. How i meet before going out on a date with them? Work, going out, being smooth talker without flirting, be polite and some will ask you out. Just being out can help a lot in finding a date and well manners are good too. By the way! I have been a gymholic for many years and I never took a selfie in a gym or infront a mirror, i have taken maybe 5-7 selfies in my whole life.
My turn off's on dating sites are
1. Has kids or wants them
2. Is prolife
3. Using old pictures while he doesn't look like that
4. Lying about his age
5. Gym pics, shirtless pics, ONLY filtered pictures, a picture with that weird angle where you look down (seriously what is that) , only 1 picture or only group pics (which one are you mate)
6. Having one of those profiles that just scream "show me you're worthy of my time before I talk to you"
7. If he's looking for a one night stand
8. Bad hygiëne and doesn't dress good
9. Is immature and can't communicate when there is something wrong and desides to sulk instead
Let's see:
-Smokers
-Drinkers
-"Bad boys"
-Criminal records (not including speeding tickets)
-Racists
-Having a nasty attitude and/or personality
-Cheaters/liars/manipulators
-Guys just looking for flings and one night stands
-Poly/open relationships
-Trying too hard to impress others
-Constantly posting selfies online
-Bad hygiene
-Using "text talk" and emojis all the time. Type in complete sentences and use real words please!!!
May add more later, but these are some of the main things that I thought of~
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Leeches / People who do not tell you anything about their lives or lie to you about their lives / People who don't like you and are trying to use you for money or sex or help around the house / People with no curiosity about your interests / People who don't offer regular attention and keep ghosting you
Guys with their pants half down pretty much showing their weiner, drugs, photos with other women (makes him look like a sleaze and what standards I have to be for them), ab photos (makes you look self centred, leave the shirt down lol)
I wouldn't use dating apps, but in terms of turn offs
-smoking and heavy drinking
- excessive coffee drinker (the smell makes me feel sick unfortunately, otherwise the drinking it wouldn't be an issue)
- finding them boring is a big one... if I run out of things to say I dont really want to date them
- too showy (I'm all about being competitive and confident, but showing off is not ok)
- making assumptions about things rather than asking
-mentioning sexual prowess is a massive one
-and I dont mind someone who likes taking pictures, just not to obsessive... I dont take that many selfies myself so it would be werid for meI love that picture 😂
"I want someone that does not play games or mess around, if you are here for that then just leave"
"If you can't handle my kids, then you can't have me"
While there is nothing wrong with those two points that is not the way to get attention. That is an instant swipe left. Mainly because you are trying to attract someone not boss them around. Reword it to be gentler or simply say "I'm not interested in just sex", "I have two kids that I love" that's a non bossy way to say what you are feeling. Also I would rather see a girl relaxed at home rather than in a fancy diner. I'd rather have a girl that enjoys the simple things rather than have the pressure to lead a money maintained life style. Now a place of interest, like a festival, baseball game or concert, that's fun to see over a fancy restaurant or dinner party.My dating turnoffs:
1. Smoking, drinking, drugs.
2. Aggressive, abusive, or violent behaviour; cursing.
3. Mixing with homos or criminals.
4. Not being a natural born and fully heterosexual female.
5. Tattoos and body piercings.
6. Thongs and such.
7. Not being a Christian; feminism, racism, or supporting abortion.
8. Having an SO or not being completely over the ex.
9. Too many secrets.
10. Wanting oral, anal, or period sex.
11. Being large or overweight, or else flat chested or too short.
12. Being below the legal age of consent.My dating turn offs are:
Living in a quite physically unhealthy lifestyle, it reflects badly on their care for their own body
Being anti-science or cherry picking what science they listen to. This reflects badly on their honesty and ability to adapt with the times. I like open-minded people very much.
Not having a sense of humor. I'll quite the jokey kind of person, and if they aren't fun to talk to (surprise) I'm not going to be interested in maintaining a relationship. I'm a fun kind of person, if someone clearly doesn't like fun I'm not going to be able to engage well with them.
Apart from that though my interests are quite open and I love meeting different kinds of people and learning more about them and just generally having fun. And I keep an open mind myself too in these situations, I can't and shouldn't judge someone until I can converse with them.Smoking tobacco. It's worse than bad breath, as it the smoke gets on clothes, too.
Expectations that I pay for their expensive meal (I don't mind paying for a reasonable meal, but if you expect me to pay for lobster (or something just as expensive) on the first date, I'm going to go to the bathroom and continue right out the door.
Unintelligent. I don't expect someone to be a doctor, but if she's illiterate or can't do simple math, it'll never work.
Online (Tinder, Bumble, Match, etc.), main profile pics of a group. Unless we're told which one the profile is for, we have no idea which person we're supposed to be looking at. Group photos elsewhere on a profile is fine, just not as the main profile pic.Baseball caps ( looks childish), chav clothes like grey sweatpants (makes you look like a drug addict), bullshitters, over confidence, anyone who thinks he has "game", stupid gangster hand singles, having the spelling and grammar of a three-year old. But the biggest turn off is mass marketing, guys who are just hiting on everygirl in the hope one will say yes.
If she's fat/unattractive.
If she's a bitch for no reason.
If she's an uninteresting, social media-obsessed cell phone zombie.
If she's stupid, like votes Republican or something.
That's pretty much it. Most guys have pretty simple standards.- Unhealthy (Mentally/Physically)
- Too short ( 5'2 and under)
- Aggressive
- No similar interests
- No sense of humor
- Uncaring
- Political beliefs significantly different than mine
- Not compassion/caring
- Too lazy
- Really tan skin and blonde hairNumber one without a doubt is feminist (brain cancer) mindset
then it’s entitled spoiled brat mentality
then false victim bullshit
A female who thinks that exposing more of her body for cheap attention is ok
so if you wear cloth body paint,
extremely loose exposing materials like rompers and mini skirts and anything that’s going to essentially flash your vagina for cheap attention not my thing
also if she has a VSCO account, Instagram, tiktok or any web attention whore app
I expect women to have class and dignity
not entitlement and cheap attention whore mentalityBiggest turn offs:
- Face tattoos/piercings (earring is ok)
- Smoking, drinking, using drugs
- Arrogant, doesn't listen
- Violent behaviour (physically and verbally)
- Lack of communication skills
- Cheater, one night stand, friend with benefits type of guys
- Lazy
- Doesn't want kids
- Talks bad about people
- Doesn't shower often
- ImmatureWhat's wrong with mirror selfies and piercing XD (If tattoo aren't considered a turn off why is piercing considered one?)
For me turn off are guys I find physically ugly, those that are rude / tease too much while I don't know them at all, agressive (in the ways they want to force me to give more pics or my number, or get agressive with me when I don't text them everyday, etc...)Dirty jokes work best with a certain kind of individuals. also workwith many other female's too. even many of those that states otherwise.
Everything has to do whom you're after and a lot of other factors.
The funny thing is.
This list applies both genders when it comes to it.Asshole, likes to insult or criticize other people, sexist, basis of relationship is only physical attraction (it never works), despises girls with flaws and only looks for hot and perfect women when they don't deserve one. Greed, has history of cheating, doesn't want kids, not a college graduate (unless he has proven himself), and lazy.
I'm assuming this is at least partially about online or app dating.
Facial piercings, short boyish haircuts, mirror selfies, photo filters or edits, tattoos, photos are all very distant or hide face, or clearly centered on boobs, butt or thighs. If all of their photos are group photos and I have to figure out who the profile is even about, that's a problem too. Vegans. Someone who has kids, or is just looking for a friends with benefits or open relationship.Basic/sheep-minded/no mind of their own, non-intelligent, dishonest, unloyal, smoker, tatooed head to toe or pierced, unnatural hair color, too overweight or underweight, unkind, selfish, overly dramatic, easily offended, has kids, bad hygiene, bad addictions
Don’t use dating apps or sites. But my turn offs are.
Smoking, insecure both mind and body, poor hygiene, unwilling to work, high maintenance, unable to cook even the basics, anorexic, obese, unnatural body, poor personality, poor attitude, heavy drinker, drug user, double digit sexual partner history, lack of compassion, lack of honesty, unfaithful, lack of sexual desire, feminist, lack of moral, bad credit, dresses in an overly reveling manner, social media addict.The biggest one is if she does not have faith in Jesus. i'm not asking for her to be perfect, but I do want a wife who shares my beliefs and is not afraid to correct me when I'm wrong or be corrected when she is wrong. Others are simply being a jerk/entitled and not taking care of herself. Smoking is an INSTANT no for me. Outside of this, not many things are instant turnoffs.
stupid stuff added to their pictures (cat ears, animal noses, that pucker lip stuff, posing between wings painted on the wall behind-"how original"-NOT), smoking, flirting with someone else in front of me, phone absorption, "entitled" attitude,
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