What’s your biggest dating turn offs?

Question

Levin · Accepted Answer

Has kids,
People who excessively sleep around.
Drug taking or smoking.
Overweight girls.
Masculine or big girls.

If you're talking about dating profiles in particular.

Anyone that is obviously whoring or trying to elicit money. Obviously.
Pic's that are all the same or obviously trying to hide something.
Too much light used, only part of face in shot, other suspicious tricks.
Can't work out which in the pic is you.
Mean and bitchy eyes.
Dating profiles that shout they want this and that. 'If you're this and that don't bother' just makes the whole thing really unpleasant. It's a really unpleasant attitude to display on your first impression. Some things are so ludicrously specific that they're obviously discounting 90% of the male population over some triviality.

And yes, I'm an arsehole. But I have my reasons.

Jaximus-Lion · Accepted Answer

First: i never used a dating app and never will. That's been said, all above and more will be a turn off for me. That's why i go on 8k quality dates face to face. How i meet before going out on a date with them? Work, going out, being smooth talker without flirting, be polite and some will ask you out. Just being out can help a lot in finding a date and well manners are good too. By the way! I have been a gymholic for many years and I never took a selfie in a gym or infront a mirror, i have taken maybe 5-7 selfies in my whole life.

CoffeePossum · Accepted Answer

My turn off's on dating sites are
1. Has kids or wants them
2. Is prolife
3. Using old pictures while he doesn't look like that
4. Lying about his age
5. Gym pics, shirtless pics, ONLY filtered pictures, a picture with that weird angle where you look down (seriously what is that) , only 1 picture or only group pics (which one are you mate)
6. Having one of those profiles that just scream "show me you're worthy of my time before I talk to you"
7. If he's looking for a one night stand
8. Bad hygiëne and doesn't dress good
9. Is immature and can't communicate when there is something wrong and desides to sulk instead

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Let's see:

-Smokers
-Drinkers
-"Bad boys"
-Criminal records (not including speeding tickets)
-Racists
-Having a nasty attitude and/or personality
-Cheaters/liars/manipulators
-Guys just looking for flings and one night stands
-Poly/open relationships
-Trying too hard to impress others
-Constantly posting selfies online
-Bad hygiene
-Using "text talk" and emojis all the time. Type in complete sentences and use real words please!!!

May add more later, but these are some of the main things that I thought of~

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Leeches / People who do not tell you anything about their lives or lie to you about their lives / People who don't like you and are trying to use you for money or sex or help around the house / People with no curiosity about your interests / People who don't offer regular attention and keep ghosting you

ItzLaura · Answer

Guys with their pants half down pretty much showing their weiner, drugs, photos with other women (makes him look like a sleaze and what standards I have to be for them), ab photos (makes you look self centred, leave the shirt down lol)

BusyLizzie321 · Answer

I wouldn't use dating apps, but in terms of turn offs
-smoking and heavy drinking
- excessive coffee drinker (the smell makes me feel sick unfortunately, otherwise the drinking it wouldn't be an issue)
- finding them boring is a big one... if I run out of things to say I dont really want to date them
- too showy (I'm all about being competitive and confident, but showing off is not ok)
- making assumptions about things rather than asking
-mentioning sexual prowess is a massive one
-and I dont mind someone who likes taking pictures, just not to obsessive... I dont take that many selfies myself so it would be werid for me

Jjpayne · Answer

I love that picture 😂
"I want someone that does not play games or mess around, if you are here for that then just leave"
"If you can't handle my kids, then you can't have me"
While there is nothing wrong with those two points that is not the way to get attention. That is an instant swipe left. Mainly because you are trying to attract someone not boss them around. Reword it to be gentler or simply say "I'm not interested in just sex", "I have two kids that I love" that's a non bossy way to say what you are feeling. Also I would rather see a girl relaxed at home rather than in a fancy diner. I'd rather have a girl that enjoys the simple things rather than have the pressure to lead a money maintained life style. Now a place of interest, like a festival, baseball game or concert, that's fun to see over a fancy restaurant or dinner party.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

My dating turnoffs:
1. Smoking, drinking, drugs.
2. Aggressive, abusive, or violent behaviour; cursing.
3. Mixing with homos or criminals.
4. Not being a natural born and fully heterosexual female.
5. Tattoos and body piercings.
6. Thongs and such.
7. Not being a Christian; feminism, racism, or supporting abortion.
8. Having an SO or not being completely over the ex.
9. Too many secrets.
10. Wanting oral, anal, or period sex.
11. Being large or overweight, or else flat chested or too short.
12. Being below the legal age of consent.

Liadon · Answer

My dating turn offs are:
Living in a quite physically unhealthy lifestyle, it reflects badly on their care for their own body

Being anti-science or cherry picking what science they listen to. This reflects badly on their honesty and ability to adapt with the times. I like open-minded people very much.

Not having a sense of humor. I'll quite the jokey kind of person, and if they aren't fun to talk to (surprise) I'm not going to be interested in maintaining a relationship. I'm a fun kind of person, if someone clearly doesn't like fun I'm not going to be able to engage well with them.

Apart from that though my interests are quite open and I love meeting different kinds of people and learning more about them and just generally having fun. And I keep an open mind myself too in these situations, I can't and shouldn't judge someone until I can converse with them.

letssee89 · Answer

Smoking tobacco. It's worse than bad breath, as it the smoke gets on clothes, too.

Expectations that I pay for their expensive meal (I don't mind paying for a reasonable meal, but if you expect me to pay for lobster (or something just as expensive) on the first date, I'm going to go to the bathroom and continue right out the door.

Unintelligent. I don't expect someone to be a doctor, but if she's illiterate or can't do simple math, it'll never work.

Online (Tinder, Bumble, Match, etc.), main profile pics of a group. Unless we're told which one the profile is for, we have no idea which person we're supposed to be looking at. Group photos elsewhere on a profile is fine, just not as the main profile pic.

purplepoppy · Answer

Baseball caps ( looks childish), chav clothes like grey sweatpants (makes you look like a drug addict), bullshitters, over confidence, anyone who thinks he has "game", stupid gangster hand singles, having the spelling and grammar of a three-year old. But the biggest turn off is mass marketing, guys who are just hiting on everygirl in the hope one will say yes.

Thatsamazing · Answer

If she's fat/unattractive.
If she's a bitch for no reason.
If she's an uninteresting, social media-obsessed cell phone zombie.
If she's stupid, like votes Republican or something.

That's pretty much it. Most guys have pretty simple standards.

AaronKrieger · Answer

- Unhealthy (Mentally/Physically)
- Too short ( 5'2 and under)
- Aggressive
- No similar interests
- No sense of humor
- Uncaring
- Political beliefs significantly different than mine
- Not compassion/caring
- Too lazy
- Really tan skin and blonde hair

Anonymous · Answer

Number one without a doubt is feminist (brain cancer) mindset

then it’s entitled spoiled brat mentality
then false victim bullshit

A female who thinks that exposing more of her body for cheap attention is ok

so if you wear cloth body paint,
extremely loose exposing materials like rompers and mini skirts and anything that’s going to essentially flash your vagina for cheap attention not my thing

also if she has a VSCO account, Instagram, tiktok or any web attention whore app

I expect women to have class and dignity
not entitlement and cheap attention whore mentality

jazzy628 · Answer

Biggest turn offs:

- Face tattoos/piercings (earring is ok)
- Smoking, drinking, using drugs
- Arrogant, doesn't listen
- Violent behaviour (physically and verbally)
- Lack of communication skills
- Cheater, one night stand, friend with benefits type of guys
- Lazy
- Doesn't want kids
- Talks bad about people
- Doesn't shower often
- Immature

alice55 · Answer

What's wrong with mirror selfies and piercing XD (If tattoo aren't considered a turn off why is piercing considered one?)

For me turn off are guys I find physically ugly, those that are rude / tease too much while I don't know them at all, agressive (in the ways they want to force me to give more pics or my number, or get agressive with me when I don't text them everyday, etc...)

crazy8000 · Answer

Dirty jokes work best with a certain kind of individuals. also workwith many other female's too. even many of those that states otherwise.

Everything has to do whom you're after and a lot of other factors.

The funny thing is.
This list applies both genders when it comes to it.

Anonymous · Answer

Asshole, likes to insult or criticize other people, sexist, basis of relationship is only physical attraction (it never works), despises girls with flaws and only looks for hot and perfect women when they don't deserve one. Greed, has history of cheating, doesn't want kids, not a college graduate (unless he has proven himself), and lazy.

BCA6010 · Answer

I'm assuming this is at least partially about online or app dating.

Facial piercings, short boyish haircuts, mirror selfies, photo filters or edits, tattoos, photos are all very distant or hide face, or clearly centered on boobs, butt or thighs. If all of their photos are group photos and I have to figure out who the profile is even about, that's a problem too. Vegans. Someone who has kids, or is just looking for a friends with benefits or open relationship.

Slim57 · Answer

Basic/sheep-minded/no mind of their own, non-intelligent, dishonest, unloyal, smoker, tatooed head to toe or pierced, unnatural hair color, too overweight or underweight, unkind, selfish, overly dramatic, easily offended, has kids, bad hygiene, bad addictions

Reaperbot666 · Answer

Don’t use dating apps or sites. But my turn offs are.

Smoking, insecure both mind and body, poor hygiene, unwilling to work, high maintenance, unable to cook even the basics, anorexic, obese, unnatural body, poor personality, poor attitude, heavy drinker, drug user, double digit sexual partner history, lack of compassion, lack of honesty, unfaithful, lack of sexual desire, feminist, lack of moral, bad credit, dresses in an overly reveling manner, social media addict.

jgokgotit · Answer

The biggest one is if she does not have faith in Jesus. i'm not asking for her to be perfect, but I do want a wife who shares my beliefs and is not afraid to correct me when I'm wrong or be corrected when she is wrong. Others are simply being a jerk/entitled and not taking care of herself. Smoking is an INSTANT no for me. Outside of this, not many things are instant turnoffs.

dmgstarfleet · Answer

stupid stuff added to their pictures (cat ears, animal noses, that pucker lip stuff, posing between wings painted on the wall behind-"how original"-NOT), smoking, flirting with someone else in front of me, phone absorption, "entitled" attitude,

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

For starters if a girl showed up on a date with a sausage that would be a huge turn off for me or if she has had a sausage removed that would do it too. On the other side of things I’m no into smokers, drunken slop buckets or booger sugar users.

BestUserName100 · Answer

Someone to judgmental for starters. Makes you insecure and don't provide that any basic relationship needs. You would be more happy and comfortable with someone else.

PrincessBunBuns · Answer

Biggest Turn Offs: Face Tattoos, Immaturity, Heavy Drug Use, People who look for friends with benefits, and I think that’s it. I’m not incredibly picky.

Shamalien · Answer

Tattoos

piercings

vapid boring interests

shitty conversationalist

kids

died hair

shameless cleavage or booty pics

contradictory personality (ex says not into hookups but posts really revealing pics)

any feminist anything

jeeze its no wonder im single XD

StephenCF · Answer

—Overly liberal/feminist views —Health freak —Noticeably limited sense of humour —Philanthropy —Lazy/urban dresser —Narrow mindedness

foxrider77 · Answer

When a girl or guy passes gas loudly. Just throws me off. I got it people have to pass gas but there is a way to do it silently. Makes me lose 100% interest if it’s done intentionally.

savagelyfe0612 · Answer

Bad hygiene, lack of self awareness, lack of self confidence, too much makeup.

trumpetplayerforlife · Answer

as long as they aren't controlling and abusive I'm good

Lyndsielee666 · Answer

Someone judging some else for having tattoos or piercings. Dirty shoes Bad teeth

jabbahut · Answer

Someone who is self obsessed and high maintenance- these are qualities I would run a mile from when it comes to girls.

Smiley_face101 · Answer

Smoker, short, too many tattoos, only looks for sex

likelyOK · Answer

Tattoos, beards, hook up types, people who don't returns texts for a while. "what's ur Snap" Into music festivals,

msc545 · Answer

Women who are late and don't text or call. 15 minutes and I am gone.

coffeewithcream · Answer

When they actually show up.
Then you have to talk to them. Who knew they would take it all seriously?
:)
No idea. Maybe slurping coffee? Maybe if she suggests getting matching first date tattoos?
Maybe bringing her 300 pound dog who eats cheeseburgers?
Still can't think of anything that's a turn off.
:)

MaggieClover · Answer

Vain  drugs camp Lacking in confidence  over emotional  feminine  poor relationship with mother and father self centred

ThiccNigro · Answer

Just when girls do the typical things. Beach selfies, mirror selfie, massive group of college friends. Putting "I like going on adventures in their bio", complaining about men in their bio

silvermoon84 · Answer

Dull personality  no hobbies criminal record alcoholic abusive (physically and emotionally)

ItsTheNephilim · Answer

Being immature, insecure,  stuck up, stupid, ugly, smoker, drinker, drug abuser, carelessness, too religious, promiscuous.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Girl who texts  Girl calls her ex while were on the date A girl tells me she hates where we went to eat

PrinceNeo · Answer

Eating my leftovers, if you eat my leftover food without my permission that's the quickest way to get thrown out of a window.

saffoler · Answer

Smoker, sexually active, has pets, and doesn't want kids.

CupcakeKiller · Answer

Not that I think the following are wrong but they aren't compatible with me. My deal breakers are: no conservatives, no religious people of any kind, no kids or desire to have them.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Entitledness Generic bitchiness Tunnel piercings Feminine clothing

mariana10 · Answer

I am impressed that almost everyone on here are so shallow. Wow! Mostly for me is smoking because she the smoke makes me feel bad. Other than that, just need to shower at least once a day and share same views as me.

MalcolmNZ · Answer

Large tattoos, having breasts out on campus, slutty look.

loveslongnails · Answer

The biggest single turn off is always the same --------- stupidity.  If the girl turns out to be a dolt, it's over.

cloud9vortex1234 · Answer

1. Coming Off As crazy 2. A Drunk 3. Smoker 4. Bad Character  5. Lack of Self-Awareness 6. Too Many Tattoos

Not_A_Samsquamsh · Answer

If i'm going through a dating site, one of the first things that will stick out is an obvious, terrible filter. I don't understand how anyone thinks it's a good look. That aside, their attitude. Someone with an obvious "I'm great on my own" or "not here to play" attitude is no fun to be around.

Hepy82 · Answer

Any girl who uses Snapchat filters with stupid ears on them.
Single Mums.
Religious nuts trying to convert me.
Passionless.
Too Easy.
You ask them what music they are into and they reply 'pop'
Vegan.

LEADFOOTboi · Answer

any kind of drugs... unattractiveness... unrealistic expectations... hoes... not having any kind of relationship with God...

legalboxers · Answer

controlling, badgering, nagging, and to add to the list.. smelling like cat litter (I dont mind cats, Im a fan of cats) but when you smell like the cat litter..

CharlieDMX · Answer

Smoking, grammar and asking too much for a date (I know you have a very defined image of your perfect partner, but a checklist of more than 4 qualities for a mere first date is an exaggeration)

adidas0169 · Answer

Being anti 2nd and being a liberal/dem or socialist

Baldbever · Answer

I hate cheap men As well as men who don't listen when they ask a question

7771999 · Answer

Tattoos, smoking, anti European views, shallow and immodesty.

DiscomfortZone · Answer

Feminazism and religion. That would really turn the date into a murder scene, which would actually be quite fun for me.

Shark_61695 · Answer

Filters
Low quality pics
Mirrored text
Only face pics
Tattoos
text spk Or LiKe DiS
Overtly sexual pics
Emojis

And that's before I start chatting to them. Not that I actually have anything to say once the chatting starts :)

Matthew2222 · Answer

Girls that are always trying to loose weight or have lost weight, massive and total deal killer.

ATLAS-1 · Answer

If I read "not here to play games" is usually a sign I won't like the person. Just makes them sound aggressive and combative.

ManOfTheMatch1 · Answer

Stupidity  Bullshit talk Slow reactions ( slow mind processor)

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