Why are so many young guys done with dating?

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JamesDiaz11 · Accepted Answer

Many young guys are "done with dating" because there is nothing in it for them except for rejection, or at best paying full price for something that others have gotten for free (or that they could get elsewhere for free).

Young guys don't have anything, and before they "settle down" they need to go out and "conquer the world," or whatever that means for them. Yet, they still want female affection/ sex; so, they still pursue women. However, I'd say most young women engage in hookup culture, so dating for a guy means to take some girl who has gone over to Chad/ Tyrones house at 2am, gotten her cheeks clapped for 5 minutes before she's sent on her way, and treat her like a princess (which costs time and money)- that's not a good deal. Alternatively, if the girl is actually moral, the guy will still primarily want affection/ sex, because even the moral girls don't know how to offer the guy anything extra (peace, support, submission, etc.)- to say it plainly, even good girls have little to offer beside their pu$$y. This isn't meant to be mean, but young women are usually not raised to be wife material (they're taught to be career-focused, strong, independent modern women).

Alternatively, many guys may be "done dating" because they experience nothing but rejection. They don't know how to attract women, let alone how to treat women they get the attention of (and don't tell me women just like being treated like a person... this doesn't mean anything) so every time the try they get a hit to their ego.

This is why many young men have opted out of "dating," and those who can get female attention just choose to pursue sex.

TheUniqueOne96 · Accepted Answer

I don't know how true that is, but I'd guess and say that's it's due to women's delusional standards that feminism and 'dating coaches' justify, acting as if the worst woman is still entitled to a quality man.

Prime example:

Why is women on GaG brag about their list of requirements for guys but then attack and berate men who won't date fat chicks or single moms?

What are your thoughts on this woman's list of dating requirements? Is there any man who'd be able to fulfill them?

Notice the difference in attitude for men and women.

Men aren't even allowed to have basic standards anymore either, without some body positivity movement being created which basically says accept me for being a fat bitch and I don't have to shave my body hair either.

If you get divorced as a guy, you lose everything too.

Some women also want tradition, but can't live up to their own values themselves, because a woman's body count 'doesn't matter', nor can some of them cook.

So called 'dating coaches' and other women need to call out their delusion instead of acting like men are the problem and always have to improve, instead of basically becoming female excuse generators like the example I gave or talking about male and female 'nature' when they're about 57 without kids, lol.

Haha456 · Accepted Answer

Take this from an experienced woman. Men will never ever stop pursuing women. Women will give up on men before men will ever give up on women.

Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

They are scared from older men, they have a lot of financial pressure- economic wise. They realize too much about jerking lol

DaveJord · Answer

So, this is a theory of mine, not any scientific proof or anything just and Indvidual perspective of my or observation.

Dating is really hard; I mean it is tough. So younger guys can get seriously frustrated and younger women make it at times extremely difficult. Young people in general tend to believe everything they see on the internet or social media and think that is how dating is supposed to work. Truth is that it's doesn't really work anything like that. So, it easy to get super frustrated and feed up with the games. Which leads to the hook up culture, and honestly sex and love is not the same thing. So a lot of young people would rather stick with sex, and eventually as they get older, they figure out how love really works.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Many never got started, they tried and didn't succeed so after awhile, they give up.

When you think about it, many people give up on things if they do not succeed at it, it seems crazy to keep trying for something that you don't believe you'll ever succeed at.

Avicenna · Answer

There are always some who aren't interested in it for one reason or another (this was the case when I was a young adult), but they are a relatively small minority whose size is inaccurately amplified by social media.

coachTanthony · Answer

Most young guys are playing video games and chilling with some weed in their suburban apartments. They no longer wish to be bothered by women at all. Little weed little porn they good.

Guy13 · Answer

Inexperienced and insecure, therefore, immature.

ChillaxingLove · Answer

Because a lot of women are delusional and have unrealistic standards, and if you tell them to lower their standards in order to actually meet someone right for them those women refuse because they feel they are settling. women don’t want the regular guy, some do but it’s few.

I say it all the time. Men are simple: be fit and take care of yourself don’t need to be a super model, have standards an actual human can meet, don’t be selfish, and a good personality, and also being submissive is sexy not to the point like your a slave but that you allow them to be a man and lead. Men will want you, even more so because not a lot of women are doing that.

The truth is most women are seeking to be with that 1 percent and so essentially a great amount of women are chasing that same highly desired man. Those men want super model type women and some have multiple women. Look at Terry Crews and his wife, she was with him when he was poor, you will not ever find a women like that in this day n age, that’s in it for love and not what you got. They want the finished product, not the grind.

I remember watching a YouTube channel, you can YouTube it if you want, and this dude went around asking women who would you rather date a 9 to 5 man, a drug dealer, or a scam artist. And can you guess what 99% said… they said drug dealer lol their reason they gave was because they are making moves.

MCheetah · Answer

Because  so many  women out there have extremely sh*tty attitudes towards men and have zero respect for them, and many men are collectively being told they're sh*t, inferior, worthless, "don't earn enough money," are too short, or otherwise having their self-esteem destroyed by sh*tty immature women who lack basic life skills and can't even cook or clean (for themselves.) We have a generation of 4 out of 10 women feeling uber-entitled to 10 out of 10 men. I'm not even young and I've long been fed up with the sh*t out there from modern Western women between 25 and 40. I say this as a romantic who did want a serious relationship with a woman, and came close to marriage a long time ago, too. But times have changed, and Manosphere groups like MGTOW and the Red Pill, didn't come out of nowhere.  Good women who are still single, are almost non-existent, leaving just the lesbians, gold-diggers, feminists, E-whores, "strong independent women who don't need no man," and 30-something single mothers who slept their way out of the dating market. And even  they  all still feel entitled to 10 out of 10 men. Dating is a sh*tshow out there for the 90% of "imperfect men" out there, and the tiny fraction of genuinely-good women out there who aren't the trash I mentioned above (like @lucy68 here on GAG.) The good women 100% will find someone soon, though. The rest of us men are screwed in being alone in our 30s and 40s, but also liberated by avoiding the trashy women out there who want to marry a pathetic simp in their late 30s. You may "lose," but at least you avoid divorce court and child support.

Anonymous · Answer

Because most young women make it so easy to have sex with them. Why would a man put in effort towards a relationship with a woman that everyone has already slept with? I think women shoot themselves in the foot with sexual liberation, because they don't realize that men benefit from them not requiring any Investment prior to sex, but then also dont want them for a long term commitment, because its embarrassing to be in a relationship with a known hoe. Neither men or women are exclusively to blame tho. I think it has more to do with how feminism has conditioned most women to value themselves so little that they now believe empowerment is objectifying themselves. It's an interesting reality that I think women ironically get the shit end of the stick on. In closing, there's no benefit for a man when it comes to relationships anymore, because not only are more and more women hoes, they've also mostly been conditioned to hate all men, and as a result no longer care to show them any love outside of sex.

Anonymous · Answer

Personally I got sick how the music videos of gangster rappers portray girls as gold digging bimbos. I've witnessed something similar happening back in high school but at a much smaller effect.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/xdVknLqOM9A

Worse is how they refuse talking with me only because I refrain from being on social media.

However the girls, that I have interacted with (mostly those at work or when I was the customer) were friendly and sweet. Other than that random girls were mostly meh.

I have not given up dating. But it does feel discouraging when girls expect me to pay for them. I don't know about their resourcefulness or family situation but I grew up with nothing but abusive family. I don't have mama or papa or whatever helping me out financially or emotionally whatsoever and staying with them is not an option. I am forced to make my own provisions by myself including my professional growth and education. The discouraging part comes with added liabilities for someone, who may not even truly care about me and I wouldn't know until it's too late.

Anonymous · Answer

Because there's no benefit anymore.

Any sexual encounter could be your downfall even if you had consent (the man's doesn't even matter in a legal sense) if the girl just lied and said it was rape later on. There is very little recourse from that and the very idea that men deserve their due process rights for rape cases is sexist for some reason.

No fault divorce completely defeats the point of marriage. Can you imagine dumping a shit ton of money into a massive ceremony, family and friends in attire as formal as formal can get and ready to witness someone they care about advancing to the next chapter in their life, lot of food and desserts, wedding vows etc. All tossed out the window because, for all we know, one partner got bored and wanted out and still get the benefits of the divorce?

With divorce rates being as high as it is, with women being statistically more likely to initiate, why bother? You risk alimony, child support (even if the child isn't yours), possession of your house, pets or kids and who knows what else all for no fault of your own. It's such a bad deal.

I guarantee you, if you allow due process for rape cases and abolish no fault divorce, you will be seeing improvements overnight.

Lionman95 · Answer

I´d say many inexperience, frustration and insecurity. A wide range of guys nowadays are clueless when it comes to dating. Because guys handle more than often alone, chances are they´ll never figure out why a woman rejected them. We live in a culture that promotes the lone wolf as a rolemodel for guys ignoring that wolfs that live alone often don´t survive in nature because they are not strong enough alone. I think one of the reasons because dating isn´t easy for everyone and there are so many goals people come into dating with that it´s hard to me them. Especially for younger guys it´s hard to figur out what women want and what you are interested in. So they give up especially when they´re insecure because they make too many confusing experiences.

BCA6010 · Answer

Pick your poison (some of these work both ways):

- Fear of false or exaggerated accusations of sexual harassment or assault.

- Unattractive and/or undesirable trends becoming normalized, and manlihood being vilified by the culture.

- Biased divorce courts and laws.

- Decline of religion and tradition as major factors in daily lives, and the related celebration of self and individual identity over families.

- Substituting physical relationships with porn, and prioritizing digital lives over physical lives more broadly. This is extremely common (90%+) at your age range.

- (Most common at older ages) Repeated bad relationships, failures, or rejection causing hesitation at best, or resentment at worst at the prospect of attempting to date.

lightbulb27 · Answer

not being healthy emotionally, they can't handle a female and what she brings.

guys can get really hurt and the system leans towards supporting the female. If they don't learn the lessons... about themselves and the world... and how to get to a better place, they'd rather avoid the pain and suffering.

These truly are "matters of the heart" and can do a lot of damage.

That leads to the inevitable decline in society as they still have a hormonal drive, but without commitment, and the women then offer themselves without commitment, and then those that really do want a lifelong commitment end up having a harder time.

Anonymous · Answer

While I don’t think at 35 I qualify as young. My reasoning for being done with dating was mostly due to “dating” more or less being dead. Its really more about hooking up and one night stands anymore then it is about two people legitimately getting to know one another and trying to build a real, lasting relationship. And while that might Be fun for awhile and some guys may like that well into their 30’s and beyond. I didn’t. I wanted to settle down with one woman. For awhile I stayed in the scene. Kept on getting cheated on, ghosted, what have you. Eventually I said “screw this” and I decided to work on me. Focus on work, focus on myself as a person etc. next thing I knew years went by. Eventually someone found me when I wasn’t even looking or giving a shit about it lol. Funny how life can work.

blissinanarchy1 · Answer

Our generation became much more socially liberal. Which that is fine to a degree. Shutting down racism, sexism, homophobia, etc is great. But it also spawned this generation of hating on men. Gaslighting men is very common when they have boundaries. I experience this a lot. You don’t want a girl to have onlyfans? You’re a sexist, insecure, jealous pig. You don’t want her to talk to people she slept with before? You’re narcissistic, controlling, and abusive. Men, and it has nothing to do with race, men of all colors, are basically being told that unless they change their values to being that of absolutely the lowest stands, then they are a problem and have “toxic masculinity.”

So often the simple solution is this. Don’t date. Focus on getting your money and getting life together, the drama is by no means worth it.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Well... I can only speak for myself, but I know that I'm not interested because of the sheer amount of work that goes into courting women.

It's a huge amount of work; women rarely and barely put in any effort at all, and they often change their mind/lose interest over such seemingly arbitrary things.

If they don't change their minds, the relationships often don't contribute much of anything to my life. When the relationship ends, I'll have some spiteful chick trying to destroy my reputation.

Rogue_Agent · Answer

I can't speak for young guys, but I think the dating scene has become very competitive due to dating apps these days. I think there's a fear that women have more options than ever now, and relationships are difficult. Hookup culture is having an impact.

Beardedman1996 · Answer

For every 1-2 times a woman has been screwed over a guy gets screwed over 20-30, wether it’s money, material items, being rejected, bullied, shamed, judged and emotionally manipulated and invalidated. Women are no better at being better than men are, we all are hiding behind the fake facade of potential when in reality we disappoint ourselves by trying not to be dissatisfied and disappointed with out partners and dating has become a waste of time for everyone involved, don’t be fake, get what you want out of each other and try to cause as little pain as possible

Anonymous · Answer

I’m 24. Not sure if that is “young enough”.

i would love to date but never had the courage to talk to a girl i like, or girls in general.
I have gotten signs/hints from a few girls that they were interested but again, i never had the courage to talk to them. One of them knew i was nervous and she outgoing enough to take the first step, initiating convos irl, asked me if i have a girlfriend, and then one day she became bolder and touched my abdomen. She did the guy’s work in a sense.

Anonymous · Answer

Women and relationships are very different today than they were in in years gone by. In the past most guys dated to marry, but marriage is not longer the "prize" it used to be. Half of marriages end in divorce, women file 80% of those divorces and men get screwed in divorce court and child custody. Most men are realizing marriage is now a bad deal for men, so that removes a lot of the motivation for men jumping through all the hoops required of them in dating.

Also keep in mind that women themselves are very different now and do not offer men the same things women of the past did. Sex is really the primary thing keeping men interested in women, and even that is not always worth the effort anymore.

What we are seeing today is the crumbling of western civilization as it destroys itself from the inside out, and women are leading the charge.

Darklydarkened · Answer

I mean, I'm not dating for 4 years now

Not that I don't want to have sex or anything. It's just most women to me, really don't justify suffering them for any sexual or social need with their behaviour.

Most women bore me, and I kinda got a lot of distance between a few women whom I'd really like to be around.

SnowedIn · Answer

Fear of rejection plus dismay at having to navigate what appear to be endless unpublished and ever changing rules. There's also a lot of negative messaging about dating. Then add in self esteem and body issues that are compounded by social media.

None of that means you can't find a great guy. Guys want to date. Be up front, transparent and honest.

chicosuave · Answer

humm yet you dont realize why men stop trying. 50 percent of marriages end up in divorce and who initiates most break ups? 70 percent of women. This tells me that women do the same in regular relationships. Yet we still deal with how picky they are and how delusional they are. its a joke. Thats why it was predicted that 50 percent of women in the USA will be single by 2030. could be single moms, divorced etc etc. thanks to feminism and social media.

RavVid · Answer

Assuming the assertion is true, then it can only be that young guys are finding it unrewarding or else so difficult to get dates that it is not worth trying.

You're under 18, so as a young girl are you finding that young guys are not asking you or your friends for a date?

Anonymous · Answer

Because it's on the guy so often to ask the woman out, to start the conversation and such things. The fact that online dating sites are terrible. So many duplicate profiles, scams, and people who just waste time and the amount of ghosting. It's just hard work and feels hopeless. Even those that send a message first rarely seem to reply or it's just a smiley face or something.

Others put what they want on their profile. Dont bother if your under 6" and the like. There are many reasons sadly.

Tracker1958 · Answer

How many reasons do you want? Women are no longer wife or mother material. 30+ percent of kids born in a relationship are not the husband's child. Divorce is filed 80 percent by women and 90 percent by college educated women. Nothing about women today makes it a good idea to marry.

Coyote12 · Answer

For me it's the "I have options" mentality. Most girls are talking to 4-5 guys at once (and some guys too). If they would commit to get to know a guy for a month or so I believe the dating scene would be better. But all these options have really put the women on their high horse.

WeirdoFriendly · Answer

Most young guys just want to experience sex. Dating is not on their minds. Just to see what a girl looks like underneath her clothes. I think dating is more for when you reach 18 and up. When you want to start getting a bit more serious than just messing around.

Although I did date before I was 18, it was never serious enough to keep going but it wasn't messing around either. I actually tried in the relationship.

Chthou95 · Answer

Women have unrealistic standards and won't settle for less. Which is fine but they complain though when the high value men they want disappoint them or hurt them and then they bitch and say stupid shit like "all men are trash". So a lot of men just say fuck it and focus on other things in life

Anonymous · Answer

Post #MEETOO guys were told repeatedly by women they were not needed, so guys are not bothering with dating and doing 'Guys night out' instead, and that women 18 to 30 are acting like guys which is a turn off, I know that is blunt, but that is what guys are feeling, it is up to women to change the circumstances.

Anonymous · Answer

Women make it virtually impossible. You have to be either absolutely flawless or a mess. If you don't immediately form a connection in the first 20 minutes, good luck hearing from her again... If she shows up. You have to do a super tightrope walk on being a butthole and suave. Anything short and you're friend zone material. The only thing that can start anything in dating is the guy's ability to show the exact personality a woman is attracted to instantly. Eventually you just give up.

Subarugirl · Answer

Lol because they can't handle it and do not have the characteristics of an attractive partner. So, it's easier for them to say they dont want it instead of admitting they can't get what they want.

Anonymous · Answer

Because they are sick of the games women play

Sick of paying for everything in such an expensive world when women also have jobs

Lack of trust - women continually snooping and violating privacy

Social media - sick of their lives being broadcast by women

Women being all take and little give

Emilyis · Answer

Probably because of porn and all they do is stay home now. There are a lot of girls that do the same also.

oddwaffle · Answer

They found out it's pretty much a stupid game where all they do is to work to be a slave to some woman. It's better to just be themselves and buy whatever they want.

Qdbrown · Answer

American and most Western women are simply not worth it. Too much risks, and not enough reward.

SpokenTruth · Answer

I'm not a young man although I stopped dating when I was 20 or 21 years old. Why? By then there was enough damage done by feminism I saw the writing on the wall back then way before it got to the point where it is today.

Anonymous · Answer

not just younger men but older men too. because to many women cheat and not loyal and faithful and women are whackjobs sick in the head mentally unstable and bitch and complain about a guy not liking them if they're skinny as a rail or big and fat. normal faithful loyal loving caring compassionate empathetic women don't exist anymore those days are long gone

mb120101 · Answer

i dont know any boy that doesn't want a girlfriend or already has one in my friend circle. Maybe you're younger

AdithyaR · Answer

Personally I gave up cause nothing ever seems to work out for me. Tired of getting rejected and getting hurt. So I'm just gonna focus on my art and my career.

4ngelic · Answer

they aren't, this website or andrew tate simps don't represent real dudes

Anonymous · Answer

Because they see that even if you manage to defy the odds, find a compatible partner and get married, the likelihood of getting a divorce is so high that it’s not even worth it. So short of hooking up, what’s the point of dating?

DavidRaul · Answer

Many of them are immature and have a different attitude. And some would just not make a move because they have so many insecurities.

Surely · Answer

With the economy of today. It would be expensive for a guy your age to pay for an actual date. Especially if they don’t have a car or job. Dinner and a movie could cost a hundred dollars!

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Take a quick tour through Tik Thot and other social media platforms and you will see how women have collectively failed to reach a basic standard of decency.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Fear, MGTOW preaching, easy access to pornography.

Anonymous · Answer

Some are done because they have been rejected too often. Some are done because they don't want to commit to women who expect too much and don't offer back. Some are done because they have high standards.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I can guarantee without actual facts it's less than 10% of young men that don't date at all.  Most young men and women date. It's the cycle of life.

Deserter · Answer

Probably cause women that are 4s think they're superior to men that are not only 4s but also 5s 6s and 7s. They think they deserve chad when they absolutely don't. Men are sick of their shit.

IHateBeingaMan · Answer

maybe guys are growing tired and angry, resentful, of having to approach and be the initiators, especially when there is the risk of making a woman feel creeped out and uncomfortable

MountAverage · Answer

Because they are being radicalized by right-wing grifters like Andrew Tate and Jordan Peterson.

boobliker · Answer

I think that the expectations are too high, it seems to me that men and women want everything set up and perfect but life doesn't work like that

Anonymous · Answer

Women give it up to anybody an just sleep around too. Men dont want that in their partner

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Because young women are frustrating and complicated. That’s why so many of us hook up, cheat, or pump and dump. The rest of us just prefer to remain single and keep things simple though.

Anonymous · Answer

It depends on how you define "dating." The bars and clubs have long lines to even get in.

suzzieQ · Answer

Because boys would rather blame other than take responsibility

Heolurt · Answer

Because of females and all the double standards and the fact society seems to be just against us men.

Pohjolan · Answer

Are they  really  done with it or just concentrating on themselves for a while?

peedy · Answer

Because women treat them like shit take advantage of them  The courts are set up that way For a guy itd a no win scenario

Anonymous · Answer

At first, i thought the picture for this question was of the idaho 4 students killeer

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