I'm 22 and considering dating a 33 year old. Do you think this age gap is too big? What are your experiences in age gap relationships?

[Lalalove11]

I tend to like slightly older men (5-6years) I also generally get along better with older people and always have.

[lightbulb27]

I think that's fine as long as he treats you as a valued person. Lot of guys are more mature at that age, have more $, maybe more emotionally stable and thus... more valuable.

I've seen age gaps at that level... started in 40 and 50's and fine. I've seen larger gaps than that, last 20 years.

[pupluv45]

larger age gaps tend to have increased chances of divorce

[SnowedIn]

There is nothing wrong with that age gap for any reason. Be prepared, however, for all the haters to come out and tell you its wrong. It's not. Just be prepared for that.

[Lalalove11]

Yes I'm prepared for that 😅 of course, we all have our preconceptions. I personally think it's worth a shot. 👍

[SnowedIn]

I agree with you 100%. And I admire your confidence in it and wish you the best. :)

[SnowedIn]

Thank you for MHO!

[Lalalove11]

You're welcome!

[pupluv45]

you both might want different things.

i remember being 22 when I dated a 31 yr old. He wanted marriage and kids within 5-6 years. I told him that I didn't want to get married until I was 30. I wanted to play the field, date around, enjoy all sorts of different guys. He didn't want to wait that long to start a family so we broke it off.

10 yr age difference may be doable. but anything more than that will eventually cause problems down the road. You can't grow old with someone who is already old. At some point it will lead to problems

[loveslongnails]

You better figure out what YOU expect and find out what HE wants, from the start. It's rather rare that a 33 yr old guy views dating a 22 yr old girl (I imagine you're pretty damn good looking) as much more than a notch on his belt. I'm not saying every age gap relationship is iffy or every single older guy has bad intentions - I'm just saying be very careful how you proceed.

If it's all about sex, or mostly about sex, that's a red flag. If he puts you on display to his friends OR hides you away and doesn't include you, either can be a red flag. Just be really careful and don't get love bombed or swept away if he has money to spend on you.

[Screenwriter]

This is completely up to you. If you're more comfortable with an older man, then date that way.

My experience is I was more comfortable with a man a few years younger. There's no accounting for tastes. People like what they like for a host of reasons.

[bamesjond0069]

It's only 11 years. It's no big deal tbh. I met my girlfriend she was 18 and I was 34. She's now 20 and I'm 36. It's really not bad in any ways at all for us. In fact it's got lots of benefits for both of us. I think if we broke up she would date even older than me and I'd still go for an 18 yo. So clearly we both like a big age gap and have had good experiences with it. My biggest before her was 10 years. Now it's 16 years.

[bowenw]

I don't think you have anything to lose by dating him and seeing where it goes. You will probably regret it if you don't try to see what happens.

[FunkyMonkee]

No. My parents were 10 years apart. Jerry Lewis's last wife was at least 30 years younger than him.

[msc545]

I don't think the age gap will be a problem. Try it and see how you get along with him.

[KostasKouvalis]

I see how it might be awkward, but personally, I don't have a problem with it as long as they have the same mental age as me.

[Pudsmucker]

I have a good friend he had married 11 years older than his wife. They have been together over 30 years now. It doesn't matter on age.

[AimeeKyle]

No. As you get older age difference is not as big of a deal.

[Sparkie460]

If you're both comfortable with the age difference then do what you want. It's your choice

[Mangospacho]

It’s a pretty big gap but it could work out.

[Alex8736]

age is only a number. But mentally some people grow up and others just get older

[Rottman23]

No. I don't think so. I have done it before and like it.

[Tonyblony5150]

No I do not personally I do a lot of older women when I was younger

[jjj101010]

I’ve never dated older. Did have sex with an older woman but we didn’t date

[Ryfyle]

Nah. you're a consenting adult.

[Zbrody1997]

If you’re happy that’s what matters

[panamared1]

Go for it, only a problem if you let it be

[Paulychicagoluv]

If you like it, go for it.