In what sense?
I’d say I take charge in some ways and I let him take the lead in some ways. I wouldn’t be happy if he was always passive and I had to do everything, no. That feels lazy and will have me questioning if he’s really interested. My boyfriend and I met online and he was taking charge at first, when it came to asking me for the date and making the date plans. I liked that, and I had just cut things off with a guy before that, who was like waiting for me to plan things for the first date up to the night before. Not into it. I know I’m a naturally dominant and assertive person, so I was looking for a take charge quality in his first approach so I knew that I wouldn’t have to plan and lead every thing, which I did not want. His energy was very assertive at the beginning, and I like that. Now it’s both of us - sometimes I’ll plan things and sometimes he will. I’m more of the social one, but he has planned dates for us, knowing I’d want to go out somewhere. That meant a lot to me.
I initiate sex sometimes, sometimes he does. We really take turns in most things except money - he pays for most dates and all our food. I’d say my personally seems more dominant to me than his when it comes to conversation, because he’s more laid back and quiet. But he will share things with me and challenge my perspective and if I challenge his views and he doesn’t agree with me, he won’t just pretend to agree to let me win - he’s honest, direct, and actually quite bold at times, he’s just laid back, very introverted (I’m an extrovert) and quieter (I’m loud and talkative). I wouldn’t describe my boyfriend as shy at all though and he has his dominant moments.
I always say that people assume all naturally dominant women are domineering in relationships and that’s not true. My boyfriend says I’m both one of the most dominant women he’s dated and also the most considerate of his feelings, accepting, and validating. Some women who are socially less dominant are more domineering than women who are naturally dominant people, believe it or not. My mom isn’t dominant socially - she’s an introvert, not social, kind of loner, quiet, keeps to herself, not the first to speak up, not a natural social leader, but in her relationships / with me she’s domineering af and kind of toxic in some ways. I’m the opposite in both respects. Well, I can be a loner too sometimes (only child) but socially I tend to end up being a leader, very talkative, very assertive, and I do have some social anxiety but you’d have to be my close friend to know it and no one ever thinks I’m shy. I’ve learned throughout adulthood how easily it is for me to dominate so I actually go out of my way to make space for people and I really care about my partner feeling all those things he feels about me. Im not perfect and I am intense too, but when he tells me those things, it lights up my day.
On our first date, I wanted to watch the concert on his shoulder. He was trembling under my ass and holding my beer for me while I danced on his shoulder. From the very beginning of the relationship, I showed him who's boss :D
u I asked my now husband out on our first date. The situation did kind of dictate that I be the one to ask. Now that we are married and can look back and talk about the whole beginning, he will admit that as much as he wanted to ask me, he felt it not appropriate because was at work and in a professional setting.
Good thing I didn’t wait. I work as an office admin at a healthcare practice. He had come in for a sports injury. I did not ask him the initial visit because I knew he was in pain and would have to come back.
So, I waited…and waited. He came back for evaluation and physio instructions. That is when I made my move. On discharge, I struck up a conversation and flirted a bit how only I know how to do. When I saw there was some smiles and posting body language, I asked if he wanted to have lunch sometime. The rest is history and we are now married.
There is a lesson to be learned. Don’t hesitate or wait. If you want something, go and get it.
Well I've never had a boyfriend but i started flirting first with my last crush then i asked him if he wanted to do something, so i like to think i could try and take charge, so he knows where the boundaries are and when no means no, but i could be quite the filth when i want to be.
It hurts so much i might never get this chance 💔💔💔
But id also like him to comfort me and lead sometimes.
I an naturally active and take charge. But i currently am in love with a passive guy and i know he wants to take charge so he needs a passive girl. And now i dont even know what to do. Tho it is easy for an active girl to be passive, she just has to chill 🤪
When I found someone I liked it came together naturally.
I wouldn't say take charge, I don't care who does what first I just make sure to get what I want.
If he needs me to take charge.. he got the wrong girl
Tbh I'm both. If ik a guy is shy, I take charge. But if the guy I like is more dominant, I'll let him take charge
Depend if he's dominant or passive if he's dominant I let him take charge if not I do it myself
I prefer for him to ask me out, do the first step. That's just how it is. After that I do act and lead if needed or when I want to.
But the first step is for guys.
I usually take charge with a shovel to the head lol
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