He wants me to be his girlfriend… just not right now?

[Anonymous]

I recently started seeing this guy, and from the start he’s said he’s looking for something serious. The last date we went on he started complaining about how “he was so conflicted” and when I asked him about why, he answered “I want you to be my girlfriend, but I need to graduate first”

As someone who’s just recently out of college I can understand and wait the 3-4 months left… but my question is should I?

I think he’s great but I’m worried about being strung along!

[DaveJord]

You should be worried, sounds like some bullshit to me. he basically saying he is conflicted about you and dating you. Trust me if a guy wants a woman, he is not conflicted about it, sounds like some bullshit so he can get laid.

Like he would like to hang out when its convenient for him and maybe sting you a long for whatever reason, but he does not want to commit to anything long term. Like a friends with benefits thing, that is what he sounds like to me... a back door attempt to get something out of you.

if a woman did this to me I would say I understand, I would hook up with her and then string her a long while I looked for someone else. But if I was a woman, I would have nothing to do with this man. Not unless I was fine with just hooking up with him.

[OfMiceandMen]

I think he needs to explain things a little more. Is he worried that he may meet someone in college before he graduates and want to leave that door open?

On the other hand, if you graduated and your elsewhere, maybe he doesn't want to tie you down in a long distance relationship till be graduates. So maybe he is being a nice guy and looking out for your best interests.

[Asker]

I think that’s it - because we’re both from the same area locally but he’s 4 hours away otherwise when he’s at school.

He said multiple times he wants to date me. And has my photos from iMessage saved to his camera roll, so that makes me hopeful that he’s not entirely playing with my heart

[OfMiceandMen]

Sounds like he doesn't want to drag you through a relationship. Maybe it would be best to tell him, let's see if you come back after graduating and start something up then? In the meantime you can still stay in touch as good friends. Afterall, friends become the best lovers!

[OfMiceandMen]

Thanks.🙋

[serious]

I am not sure but I think he does not want a committed relationship with you till he graduates. Meaning education is his priority and not you.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like some bullshit answer. You having sec w him?

[Asker]

Our first date we didn’t have sex and he said he was looking for something serious. Hooked up after the 2nd and by the time our 3rd date he’s “wanting me to be his gf” , so yeah~ but I don’t think that’s the reason bc we had sex before he said it

[Opinion Owner]

Sounds like it’s just about six. He’s telling you what you want to hear in order to get you to drop your panties.

[In_Trance]

He wants you to wait around while he rails other girls guilt free