Feeling blinded by my own love, I need to know what it looks like others. Am I just her backup plan?

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Known her for 5 years, been close friends with her for over 2. she's confessed her feelings to me once but only did so to make me feel better after a rough day and says she doesn't feel that way anymore. Now she constantly tells me that I'm her perfect partner and jokingly says she would marry me any day, hearing things like this constantly eventually broke me and I confessed my feelings to her and how I felt hearing her say this. She says she is relieved but is not ready to commit yet before having her sexual experiences but that she would eventually come back for me.

Hearing this I feel like maybe I should have been happy but the emotions I felt immediately after this was; 1. relief, that all these feelings I had were finally out. And that's as good as it gets, eventually I felt insulted that she asked me to wait for her but my heart keeps going back and forth.

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An update on her reasoning for this; She believes that she would grow to resent me if she doesn't have these experiences before we get together (she makes it sound like a sure thing). Normally if it was another guy I wouldn't be so back and forth but from what I understand she is bisexual and is with other girls.
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Ok yea im done with this, she's told me things that have pretty much ended things for me.
Feeling blinded by my own love, I need to know what it looks like others. Am I just her backup plan?
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