Why would an attractive successful man want someone like me?

[Anonymous]

So I met this person some years ago on a dating website and we never got to meet in person until 3 years into knowing eachother. Once we met it seemed like we did have a good connection and even before then we would have good communication and some things in common. But now I'm realizing that we are very different people, he works in a warehouse job, has amazing looks, cool, personality wise very different from me. I'm not working at the moment, I'm unattractive, introverted, awkward, very uncool tbh. So I just don't see why someone like that would be interesting in me in anyway. What are you thoughts on this? Ty

[OfMiceandMen]

You have to get past the whole appearance thing. Shallow guys base their opinion on women's appearance alone. If he is that type of guy, you're better of not knowing him If you had a great connection and he liked you, then contact him again and keep things moving along.

I think sometimes women get in their own heads, overthink things, and often don't realize how truly great they are. If you show some confidence when your are around him that will win you points. Guys are attracted to women that have some confidence.

[Guy13]

Opposites do attract. There is obviously something very peaceful and reassuring about you to him. That is over 50% of the struggle eliminated. Do not give off negative vibes as he will interpret as you not liking him.

[Asker]

It's hard to not give off negative vibes unfortunately bc it's hard to trust that for me. I try not to tho

[Babygirl_S]

I know about celebrities that dated and even married girls like that. Maybe some guys love being the centre of attention. They feel more masculine with a less attractive girl and might even think of her as beautiful because beauty is subjective.

[SphynxUK]

As an outsider, it’s clear you have no self esteem.
What you should be thinking to yourself is ‘is he good enough for me!’

[SlothySlob]

What you have is what he wants. Simple as.
Maybe it's the tits, maybe it's the ass. Maybe it's because you remind him of someone else, maybe it's because you don't remind him of anyone he's ever known.
Maybe he believes you're easy, or maybe it's because he believes you'd be easy to live with.
Maybe, just maybe, he just loves you.

[FilmGuy93]

That’s the kind of thing that makes more sense when you stop thinking about it, honestly. You probably bring the guy a sense of peace; it’s best not to think too much about these things. You’re looking for a rational explanation for something that isn’t rational

[rabbitzzz]

Not having a job, being introverted, awkward, uncool etc is a non issue for women. In terms of attraction, its subjective. Maybe you have a thicc ass lol. Shake it. He'll go mad.

[Asker]

Lmaoo

[Asker]

I also have no ass so even more concerning

[rabbitzzz]

It all looks great in doggystyle. On the plus you don't have to diet. By the time you have a baby you will have ass.

[Randalama]

Men aren't interested in socioeconomic status. Society demands we create that for ourselves. Most men, I think, are looking for someone who provides kindness and affection, loyalty and femininity, and perhaps that's what you could/can supply. I think maybe you are viewing it through the wrong lens.

[SnowedIn]

I'd get rid of the question all together. It actually doesn't matter why he wants you/likes you, only that he does.

This man wants you. Let that be enough.

[Anonymous]

You are creating a self fulfilling prophecy. But this is a clear sign that you need to be working on the relationship that you have with yourself, not him. People can only love us as much as we love ourselves...

[whereismyjohnny]

You are being too hard on yourself. I'm sure you have good qualities, and he saw them.

[boggboss]

Because your opinion of yourself don't matter to other people

[RockyHammock]

You are your worst critic. Just because you see yourself that way, doesn't mean he sees you like that

[anon1903]

Let him decide. Why are you judging yourself for him? Lmao.

[driven159]

what he sees in you is deeper than looks and that might be what he is looking for

[bamesjond0069]

I was 34, multi millionaire athlete... met an 18 yo pt retail worker who loved fast food. We been together two years now. Now she's on my program. Things are great.

[Anonymous]

You are humble, which is very attractive to men, and very uncommon among today's women.

[captain_voidwalker]

The bad news is they won't. The good news is you can attract an ambitious man and if your will to put in some work you can both build success together

[Jamie05rhs]

Lol. You can THINK you're unattractive all you want. But if a man likes you, he LIKES you! :)

[Anonymous]

Most likely you're one of about a half dozen in the bullpen.

[Asker]

What does that mean

[Opinion Owner]

Don't worry, you'll find out soon enough.

[EaterPeter]

Have you used positive affirmations or any kind of meditations?

[Cheerfull009]

You both are not attractive as me and my girlfriend

[suzzieQ]

Maybe he likes you lol

[ItalianKing02]

Wym?