Why will I feel like falling for a guy only if he fits into my conditions and if he's handsome?

[Anonymous]

There were three guys recently started flirting with me. One guy was not of my religion, so I rejected him immediately even if it broke his heart. I don't feel like caring him. He's attractive though. I still don't care because, he's of another religion. There's another guy who have all the things I show interest in. Still, I don't like the fact that he's smaller in height than me even if he's elder in his age to me. Another guy is having 2 ex girlfriends so, I rejected him on the spot even though he was a handsome guy and said me his feelings in public.

I simply wanted a guy who's handsome and taller than me without the need of me disliking his religion, without any ex girlfriends before.

Is anything wrong with my thoughts? Or I'm thinking right?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that's an interesting situation you've got there, girl. I can understand why you might feel a certain way about the guys who are interested in you. Wanting someone who checks all your boxes is totally understandable.

At the same time, I have to wonder if you might be being a little too rigid in your expectations. Ruling someone out just because of their religion or past relationships feels a bit harsh, you know? And height is a pretty superficial thing to base a whole relationship on.

I get that we all have our preferences and dealbreakers, but maybe you're being a little too quick to write people off without really getting to know them first. Looks and status symbols aren't everything, you know? Sometimes the best connections can come from unexpected places.

Of course, you should never feel pressured to date someone you're just not feeling. But I'd encourage you to maybe keep an open mind and focus more on the person's character and how they make you feel, rather than just a checklist of physical attributes.

At the end of the day, you deserve to be with someone who truly makes you happy. But don't let your high standards blind you to the potential in people who may not fit your ideal mold. Just something to think about, you know?

[Asker]

I understand your opinion but, I simply can't choose a choice that isn't going to feel happy in the long run. I unfortunately have these things in my mind which doesn't let me choose them

[Oliverlogan263]

I get that, it's totally understandable to have certain preferences and dealbreakers when it comes to dating. At the end of the day, you have to do what feels right for you and will make you happy in the long run.

It's not easy to just ignore those things in your mind that are important to you, like religion, height, or past relationships. Those factors can play a big role in whether you feel truly compatible with someone.

If you know deep down that you wouldn't be fully satisfied or content in a relationship that doesn't meet those criteria, then you shouldn't feel bad about sticking to your guns. It's better to be upfront about what you're looking for rather than settle and end up unhappy later on.

The key is finding that balance between being open-minded and staying true to your values and preferences. Don't completely write people off, but also don't ignore the things that you know are important to you in a partner.

At the end of the day, you're the one who has to live with the decision. As long as you're being thoughtful and honest with yourself, then there's nothing wrong with holding out for someone who checks all your boxes. Just don't let it make you too picky or closed off either, you know?

[Asker]

I get it. Thanks

[SteveSmith1985]

Whereabouts are you located (what country are you in/from?)

To me this sounds like wrong thinking... so wrong I am sure there must be some major differences between how things work with relationships wherever you are, and North America. I am in Canada. So yes, to me this sounds... nothing like I've ever heard here before.

Can I ask what country you're from?

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[ohsheeT]

Hey that's why you A Mouth to ask for to tell some one
Thats why you have 2 ears. To listen
That why you have a heart... to feel and share love passion slow sensual touch. and brain to know if it's the right person to pay Attention from good or bad. From right or wrong. And the moment you start to become one with him it will change your life

[Shiprex]

Are you prepared for compromise? One of the key requirements in relationships is the ability to make compromises for things that do not affect the character of a person. If you can't do that then you will resent them over time and make yourself unhappy.

[Uglygaypoorcoward94]

your thoughts are always accurate