How many dates until I bring him back to my apartment?

[Anonymous]

After first date

1-3 dates

3-6 dates

6+ dates

[OlderAndWiser]

I assume what you are asking is: how many dates before I agree to have sex?

That depends on your goal in dating and your standard for yourself. Are you just looking for casual sex and physical pleasure wth no commitment? f so, and you feel attracted, the only other concern is whether you trust him. When you get naked with a guy, you are very vulnerable and the wrong guy can take advantage of the situation and do things to hurt you.

If you are lookng for a loong term relationship, do you want to jump into bed on the first date and send the signal that you routinely have sex on a first date? That doesn't make you girlfriend material. If he really likes you and wants something long term, you should wait until you have developed some trust and have agreed to date exclusively.

Your question implies that you do not have moral/religious beliefs that would influence this decision but that adds another layer if it is an issue.

[Asker]

It’s not about sex. I’m a virgin and I live alone and I keep hearing about of horror stories about guys that won’t leave or try to attack the woman in her condo. So I want to know how many dates so that I can rule out he’s not a danger at all

[OlderAndWiser]

Okay. There is no rule for that question, other than to do what makes you feel comfortable. And don't do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.

[DaveJord]

It depends on what you are talking about. I have had women invite to their apartments on the second date, but they made it very clear that they had no intentions of having sex just because they invited me over.

But honestly, I would recommend not until after the 3 to 5 date personally. Even if you trust the guy, it has a potential to send the wrong message.

If you ask a guy to place, the guy may not expect sex or anything right away but does make him think he is one step closure to having sex eventually. Thats the just the honest truth.

I would say never invite him over, if you do not see that eventually you might be interested in sex at some point if not right away. It is a next step type of thing to do. So, if you are not interested or unsure about that next step at some point... then never.

[MaazHussain]

Deciding when to bring someone back to your apartment is a personal choice and there is no set number of dates that determines when it's appropriate. It depends on a variety of factors, such as how comfortable you feel with the person, how well you know them, and what your intentions are. It's important to make sure you feel safe and comfortable with the person before inviting them into your personal space. It's a good idea to communicate with them about your boundaries and expectations beforehand. Ultimately, the decision is up to you and what you feel is right for you and your relationship with the person.

[Luckycharms12]

Definitely depends on the person. But take your time build trust comfortable confident with person before bringing them in to your space

[Still-alive]

whenever you feel comfortable doing that. no set time

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Should be ultimately up to you on when you feel comfortable, not some arbitrary number of dates others vote on.

[Wise4myage]

I say at least 6 dates, but its all about how long it takes for you to be comfortable.

[Jessica405]

As many as it takes for you to trust him.

[EmmaMary]

@Jessica405

My turn to say Spot On. x

[Jessica405]

@EmmaMary LOL! Great minds... as they say!

[Mayo503]

Up to you really ….