19f He’s barely texting me anymore and it’s giving making me feel insecure. how do I handle this?

[strawbeemilk033]

I 19f am in a relationship with a guy a few years older than me, we’ve been together 7 months now. The last two weeks, we barely text and probably only mostly communicate the two days I see him on the weekends, and it’s starting to bother me. Usually I wouldn’t care, but when my ex did this and I didn’t think of it, he was entertaining 25 girls. And I have a little trauma from it. I told him on Sunday I was feeling a little insecure, but I didn’t want to say anymore to ruin our relationship or make him feel pressured because he also did address it on Friday and told me work has been kicking his ass and he felt bad, But lowkey all I can think about is it’s bothering me, and I don’t want to repeat myself so he can get upset (he likely wouldn’t) or so I could look even more insecure. He is definitely the best guy I’ve ever been with no doubt, I just feel like he might be losing interest in me, or maybe I’m just seriously overthinking this but I truly feel like I’m not. How do I navigate this? I don’t know how to bring this up to him again or if I even should.

[21Cowboy21]

It sounds like him texting you isn't actually whats bothering you. Its that if he's working ling hours you may feel more distant from him than normal.

I would see about doing something fun when you are both free next on his day lff and enjoying the day together. Mention you want to do an afternoon together like shopping or waterfront with some ice cream - or a public skate outside - give him a 2 week period heads up so he can plan his schedule around it.

[21Cowboy21]

And if he is resistant on that - I would evaluate the feeling of the dynamic and ask yourself - if this was the dynamic ling term - would that be something I want long term or is there something else that may be a better match for you both woth others instead if your dynamics you each want are different in the relationship.

[WaterIsland]

That’s a big struggle. But for now, you have to give him the benefit of the doubt I’d say. People do get busy. The reality is there isn’t much more you can do about this. Even if you pressed the issue further, you likely wouldn’t get what you’re looking for. You just truly have to be patient and let it play itself out.

[Nikki1989]

Here we go again - texting fails.

Doesn't anyone know how to talk anymore?

[lightbulb27]

I don't like what I hear either. If he's committed to you, he doesn't entertain 25 other girls without you being there. As well, you need to see how he communicates about you.

Otherwise, you're a text friend and that's it.

maybe he needs training, maybe he needs cut loose.

[BarryLiverstone]

If you see him every weekend that is healthy for your relationship. But during the week have you and him scheduled time to talk or meet?

[strawbeemilk033]

No not at all actually, we usually only text during the week.

[BarryLiverstone]

So try that. Start with a call on a weekday and move to FaceTime or meeting. You can’t only communicate every 6 days and build a healthy relationship

[BarryLiverstone]

If he’s talking to other girls what will you do?

[strawbeemilk033]

End it very quickly.

[BarryLiverstone]

Why would you end it?

[strawbeemilk033]

We are supposed to be 100% exclusive.

[mark000h]

Maybe he's got other girls?

[strawbeemilk033]

I’m hoping that’s not the case.