Why am I the only one that feels heartbroken and sad that we can’t move out right now because we don’t have any money (it’s been almost 3 years)?

[Anonymous]

Almost 3 years of this cycle. My boyfriend is working yes to save but I’ll have to wait another year. I’ve been trying really hard to get a job assembly, housecleaning you name it and I haven’t had any luck due to a lack of experience. We’ve been together for 3 years almost and it just breaks my heart going through the same cycle of having sex with him then having to go back to an empty house. I cried so much yesterday after sex because of this cycle it’s starting to feel empty I don’t want to have sex to go back home to an empty house. Why am I the only one that feels so sad and heartbroken about it? I told him how I felt and he said things like “do you want to live in the street?” “well what do you want to do?” . And it’s 12pm he hasn’t even checked if I feel okay after crying so much. I did tell him that he’s 25 and supposed to have his own place already that upset him a bit and I don’t know if that was messed up. I never cared about money before but now I have so many regrets just because we don’t have enough money. Now we only get to see each other for a few hours Tuesdays, Fridays, and Sundays.

[Pegases]

You're both quite inconsiderate of each other. He deosnt respectfully respond to your emotions. Irregardless egardless of how irrational they may be, its still worth comforting you as your boyfriend. And you should never have told him that he should have his own place by 25, because we are on the verge of a recession, gas is the most it's ever been, along with things like even eggs. So everyone to some degree is struggling, and he is actively working towards that future house, meanwhile you're not working, so you had no right to say that to him. You both can use some sensitivity training. If you're in this together, the last thing you want is to make your partner feel unheard, unloved, and unappreciated.

[Asker]

I was working too until last week they let me go due to them not having enough work but im actively looking for any job and interviewing

[Asker]

Are you saying that it’s irrational for me to feel tired of the same cycle (having to sneak into his room in his parents house and then having to go back to an empty bed later for almost 3 years now)

[Pegases]

I'm saying it's irrational for you to expect him to be the only one to do something about it. Emotions in and of themselves are nothing more than information. They aren't based in rationale, so you're entitled to feel however you feel. Just don't forget to acknowledge your ability to change your circumstances into more favorable ones. What makes men and women a great team, is that good men craft a vision, and good women find ways to bring that vision into fruition sooner. So you've gotta work with him, and do your part.

[Asker]

I’m trying really hard to get a job and not even a good one I’m talking assembly warehouse etc. I have had no luck at all