Me (21f) and my boyfriend (23m) have been together for 2+ years. I’m in college and I occasionally go out. Not all that often and it’s usually for an occasion like a holiday or birthday. For the first time in a long time me and my friends made some casual just because plans.
We met up for food. Then later in the night my friend invited us to meet her at this Korean bar. We met at around 11:30-12 and I met her friends and had a really good time. Throughout this whole ordeal I updated my boyfriend what I was doing because he’s previously gotten upset when I’m not on my phone when I’m out with friends (even though I never really text him when he’s out with friends by the way). We ended up leaving the bar around 1:50 and I took an Uber. I got home at around 2:20 and texted him I was in and that I loved him.
The next morning he tells me he’s upset I got home so late and that he doesn’t want to set the precedent that he’s okay with me being out late. When I asked why his reply was that I’m not single and he doesn’t do that. He says I should be home by 1. I told him there’s really not that big of a difference between those times. He said he really wanted to say 11-12 but was trying to be far. He tried to say it’s because I’m hanging around a bunch of single women. But my friends are not like that we never entertain men when we go out. I think he’s being either controlling or insecure because I never give him a reason to think I’m doing anything I’m not supposed to. He doesn’t do that because he doesn’t like going out at all. He tried to say I’ve been doing it a lot but I’ve only been home past 2 3 times since we’ve been dating. One was for a childhood friend’s wedding and a birthday celebration in February. I’m notoriously super lax with him and don’t really enforce anything about who he hangs out with and when. Lately he gets annoyed when I hang out with my friends period regardless of the time.
