How do I introduce an open relationship to my boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Asking for an open relationship can be tricky business. Even if your monogamous setup is genuinely no longer working for you, bringing the idea up can be nerve-wracking. You want to broach the topic in a way that’s reassuring to your partner, but also want to make it clear that you’d like to connect with other people. But when exactly is the right time to present the idea and what are the right words to use so your partner doesn’t feel insecure? “The key to beginning an open relationship is to start an open conversation.

Read this article.

www.purewow.com/.../how-to-ask-for-an-open-relationship

[Ricky1966]

She just told me she had a new colleague that she really liked and things were getting serious but she didn't want to end our relationship, either. I thought it would be just the little fling and that was 11 years ago and we've been married 12.. We're married but they have a kid together. she splits her time between us

[Asker]

Sounds a little hard. Maybe even unfai

[Asker]

Unfair?

[Freyke]

Very difficult. You can try and bring it up but to all people listening and reading my cimment here who are still dating, heed the following: Let your date know Beforehand what your longterm goals are in a relationship.

[boggboss]

By asking him how he would feel about it

[boggboss]

Do u know how he feels about such things

[Luckycharms12]

🤣🤣 be good starting point

[Asker]

Hed be down for it but he says he'd no longer give me oral which isn't fair... so he's down to suck off his other girl but not me? I'd understand if it was just me and not him fucking around but thats not gonna happen. Also I mentioned it'd be protected. He still declined

[Luckycharms12]

Life isn't fair. you want to be with someone else why you think he should want to give you oral. You do know you can get STDs and STI from oral

[Asker]

@Luckycharms12 I understand

[OatmealMuffin]

There are ways.

[riverrat3]

how would you do it

[OatmealMuffin]

@riverrat3
Discuss fantasies
Mention that threesomes are your fantasy

Have a FMF. The next day you say: “You know, at first I thought I would be jealous seeing you with another woman, but I wasn’t jealous at all. As a matter of fact, I thought it was kind of hot. I was thinking that our schedules don’t always match up, and I go out of town a lot to visit family; I would be totally fine with you having fun with other women when I'm away. But you just have to let me know before you do. If you don’t tell me first, I’ll feel betrayed. So just let me know. But when I’m available, it’s all about me. I’m not playing second fiddle to anyone. I’m going to be out of town the week after next. Let’s make you a Tinder profile!! It will be fun. We can swipe left and right, together.

Husband: But that doesn’t seem fair to you?
Wife: Why?
Husband: Because I get extra women, and you don’t get extra guys.
Wife: No, silly, we’ll both have Tinder profiles. I can meet guys out of town where my parents live. I’ll just say I’m going shopping, and maybe go meetup with a lover for a few hours. It will be fun for both of us.

[riverrat3]

perfect,

[OatmealMuffin]

@riverrat3

You're not saying you want other people, (that would be devastating) you're saying that your availability is less than perfect, and this would be a perfect solution. He hates visiting your parents, and you totally understand that. But rather than feel guilty about leaving him home alone, you give him an open hall pass.

[riverrat3]

@oatmealmuffin i agree, and works both ways

[OatmealMuffin]

@riverrat3
And if he says it's not going to work both ways, you have to do some soul searching. You can either pull the plug on the whole thing, or you can let him have side chicks, and hope he leaves you for one of them.

[riverrat3]

@oatmealmuffin why just when one of you is away, why not anytime

[OatmealMuffin]

@riverrat3

For the same reason you don't say you want to have sex with other people. It would be devastating for the other partner to hear. So just start out with the idea about solving the problem of availability.
You're trying to sell the idea, so take baby steps. When Sally gets home from visiting family, she can talk with Hank and ask him if he had fun while she was gone. Hank will say he hooked with Tiffany.
Sally can ask to see her picture. Hank shows Sally the pic.

Sally: Wow, she's hot. Do you think she'd be up for a threesome? Or even better yet, my friend Steve would be totally down for a foursome. You talk to Tiffany, and I'll talk to Steve.

It will evolve into what you're talking about, but just take baby steps.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

You don't.