How did it feel to start dating again, after breaking up with your ideal partner?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

My ex partner wasn’t ideal, but he was ideal for me.

His body type was the most attractive body type for me in the world and a quite rare one actually, because I have only seen about 2 guys with the similar build in the last 6 months.

So, it feels like what was perfect for me - is in the past.

And while I have some really nice people interested in me, they are not as ideal as I thought my ex was.

He was physically the most attractive man for me.

How am I going to live with the knowledge that every next partner will be most likely less than him in a way?

Because if that’s not the case, then my dating range would be very shallow and only limited to the beat looking guys out there, which I don’t think is a good idea.

I know I do pay too much attention to looks, I just wonder who am I going to like the way I liked him?

He was just a dream man for most girls out there, when I walked on streets with me, girls looked at me jealous.

[ShadezMcgee]

I am taking away a few things from your points here.

1.) You are admitting you value looks most of all and do not want anything to do with a man that does not have the exact same body type as him. This seems to be a high standard if you are looking for that body type specifically and one that will only leave you unsatisfied and hurt at the end of the day.

2.) You said your ex wasn't ideal then literally a couple of words say he was ideal for you. Either he was or he wasn't. The fact you are comparing every guy to your ex is telling me you are not over him. You need to do one of two things. Either take time for yourself or get back with the guy. Every man will more than likely just be wasting their time with you at this point.

You answered your question already.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

He was the hottest guy I’ve met, literally.

He was ideal looks wise, maybe someone would disagree about him being ideal, however, what everyone has admitted and has always told me is that He is extremely good-looking, very hot, very handsome, very sexy!!! Very, very, very!

So, I’ve not been told he is ideal but I’ve been told very often that he is a type of man just about any woman would desire in the world.

So he was ideal for me and I am sure he could be ideal for most other women as well.

He had his imperfections though, which I loved and admired.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

He broke up with me after 3.3 years, we were engaged.

He is now dating someone else and head over heels infatuated with her.

[ShadezMcgee]

I feel I wasted my time replying to the question at all.

Regardless, it felt alien to date for me after breaking up with am ex who I thought was the ideal partner for me.

[ryanrhino]

His looks didn't change, so that shouldn't be what the main thing that keeps you together long-term. Your dream man will make you feel beautiful and loved, with you truly knowing that other women will be jealous of what you have - happiness. Looks fade, but love lasts if you love the person for who they are.

[kayjay17]

I know exactly how you feel. it took me a long time to get our my ex and for this reason you speak of I dated a lot of guys after and they never lived up to my ideal type. you want what you want and there's nothing wrong with that. be willing to put love and effort and time and kindness into yourself and eventually you will get your ideal again in more ways than one and will even be suprised

[sheikalana]

It felt refreshing but not something I advise people doing in case they're not completely over their ex.

[coachTanthony]

Took a while until I figured out that my ideal partner was all in my head.

[Guy13]

💩 ty…. It took me year and two months until one of you B-es looked good enough…that long before I had a feeling of good towards any of you B-es 😎.

Scary…uncomfortable…like 13 years old

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

What is B-es?

I am going through that right now. Even the German guy I have a date today is extremely good looking, I’d still pick my ex over him any day, If both of them were present.

I just want to see someone so ideal to my mind that I’ll totally forget my ex, like the one so sexy, I’ll finally think my ex was nothing special.

I am yet to see anyone I like that much though…

I am so shallow… But I just don’t feel attracted otherwise.

[Guy13]

Btches

[Guy13]

Well I’m too far away for us to get together so it definitely will be a long wait for you 😎

[Twalli]

Because looks don't make a man or woman. Personality does. Clearly, he was deficient in one or more ways beyond looks. You should also realize that people don't stay looking the same all their life. You need someone who you can love even if they don't look like a greek god to you.

[Gibbons44]

I suppose the benefit of not having dated anyone I'd consider anywhere near ideal is that such a thing never ended.

I also suspect that 'ideal' will mean 'genius' like me - so that I won't have to deal with what is the usual female (and common male) problem - utter idiocy.

[Adam1978]

Logic failure, if it was my ideal partner there wouldn't be a breakup. If there is a breakup they clearly aren't your ideal partner. Because something must be off.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

He was my ideal partner physically.

Our breakup was inevitable. Not because he wasn’t ideal, but because of the circumstances that we were in.

[Adam1978]

What circumstances can't be overcome with an ideal partner?

[GoingDownSouth]

You are definitely too focused on looks. Which tells me you are a little immature.
I advise casually dating different type guys. Gain some insight about other things you value in men. Physical beauty wains faster than any other attribute as we get older.

[msc545]

If all you care about is appearance, you will never find the perfect man.

[Crankor]

A good topic since I just got out of my ideal... no idea when I'll actually be able to commit myself again but doesn't mean I won't still attempt some dates in the meantime to see how they go.

[magiusX26]

wouldn't know. seeing as my ideal partnerbwouldnt cheat and cheating has been the number 1 reason i have EXes.

[megabamse]

Felt like shit, why go for dirt when you found gold? But several years later i found diamond.

[Freyke]

Fun. Confusing. Refreshing. And no, she was far from ideal.

[Anonymous]

Never have had an ideal.
I’ve had two long term; 1st was angry closet door head. 2nd was hostile temper angry roofer.


I’d be an idiot to go for a 3rd. That would be insanity.

[Bklynbadboy12]

It felt good like I was getting back into my normal routine

[Anonymous]

His friend asked me out.

[eagle1951]

i don't remember

[jimmy2]

Well good you still can find him

[In_Trance]

great