I’ve just started dating again after being with someone this past year and traveling for a month. I went on 4 dates all which I walked away feeling good, the conversation was fun, honest, and filled with substance, not a true connection but good enough to see the person again. 2 of the guys told me that they wanted to be friends after thanking them for the meal. The other 2 told me they wanted to see me again but never followed up. The first told me he thought I was fascinating but felt more of a friendship vibe, the other I told I didn’t know he was just looking for friends, his response was that he didn’t feel “it” but said I was amazing he just didn’t feel intimacy. If I’m being honest I haven’t really felt a connection with myself lately since I have so much changing, I have been very honest about my state of transition when asked, but haven’t felt anything really when going out with these people, when he said intimacy did he mean connection or is it attraction? I know that this is a small piece of information and you would need to know the other side, but I would really love to know. I’ve been trying to really keep perspective on this, but I would love to know from a guys point of view, because maybe it’s simply I just need to find that connection with myself again.
What does it mean when a guy says he didn't feel intimacy but said he thought I was great?
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That kind of dating is kind of a shot in the dark in my opinion.
It typically takes more than a few days of knowing someone before you can feel a connection with them.
Going on different dates with random people and waiting until you feel "it" is like fishing in a well. There might be something down there, but probably not
I was just wondering if it’s me, if I’ve like lost my mojo or something. I try to take these things with a grain of salt, and I know it may be attraction, but when he said intimacy it sounds like that wasn’t necessarily it. I went out with a guy once and he said I think you are really hot but I don’t know if there’s anything there. I don’t know why, but I just wanted to know if maybe it’s me.
I seriously doubt it's you
Tell those guys to enjoy the company of crows. You seem pretty cool to me