Why do you think some guys stopped texting me when I put too much effort in but when I didn't, they responded more often?

[TheSimFans]

It seems that when guys stop texting me far too soon, I put too much effort into it. Some guys responded, "I'm sorry I'm too busy.". when i didn't put much into what I texted. i said reply ok. im good. they seem to be reply more. i don't always reply to some guys because they say they're too busy. i make myself look busiers then these men. Why is it happening that i don't seem to bother to reply anymore and find someone who will reply and not be too busy or too lazy.

[SteveSmith1985]

I think that this is a matter of the particular guys. I do not think that there is any link between you putting in effort, and a guy not seeming as interested. I don't think it's BECAUSE you put in the effort. I think it was just that particular guy. I think it would have ended up that way even had you not put any effort in. I really wouldn't start thinking that this is a useful pattern (or even that it's a pattern at all. Even if that's been your experience).

In reference to some of you previous questions: I also think you shouldn't be so hard on tall guys. I don't think that someone's being tall has anything to do with whether or not someone's a good guy. I think you should judge the individual on their own merits, rather than making assumptions about someone because of their height.

When it comes to finding a boyfriend overall, and why you haven't found the right one yet: Don't worry too much that you haven't found the right guy for you yet. Finding the right guy is hard. It's not only hard for you. It's hard for most people. But I think that you are doing exactly what you should be. You're putting yourself out there. You're giving relationships a chance. And you're learning from your own mistakes. I think that you have the right approach, and the right attitude. I think it's just a matter of "luck." You need to happen upon the right guy. But you're putting yourself out there and that's all anyone can do. So just hang in there. Keep doing what you're doing, and hopefully, you happen upon the right guy; sooner rather than later.

[TheSimFans]

i'm also very limited to dating men with learning disability. tried to meet men in real life hasn't gone the good way. met tall men that were not interested in having a relationship. got mixed signal from 30 year man that was also tall then me. i got intimidated by men that are too tall and i don't want to kept looking up to talk to them. mosty of time they can't even hear me.

[SteveSmith1985]

hahaha, I'm not saying to go for guys you aren't attracted to. I was just saying that I don't think being tall has anything to do with whether he's a good guy or not. And you're right, you may be somewhat limited to dating men with learning disabilities. I suppose you know better than I do, whether or not it's worthwhile trying to meet other men irl. I think it's really great that you get yourself out there as much as you do, in light of having a limited selection of guys.

I have to think that there is some guy out there who would be a great fit for you. You seem like a fun and int

[SteveSmith1985]

interesting person. (I don't know why that got cut off. Weird.)

[TheSimFans]

there more shorter guys within learning disability then some tall guys are more rare with learning disability ,

[Jdjfjcjj]

That's actually completely natural behavior and can happen with guys and girls in either position.
One pulls away, the other tries to pull them back

I'm sure you've heard the advice in breakups where the person who was dumped is told to give the dumper space rather than smother the dumper and validate their reason for dumping In the first place

[Jdjfjcjj]

Theyre told this advice because they know they know the natural response is to plead with them even though they've requested space

[Bricealan]

@TheSimsFans... This is THE PRINCIPAL OF LEAST INTEREST... Google that and you will have your answer.