Do you think the phrase, "You're too good for me" is considered a RED FLAG in dating?

[coachTanthony]

Yes totally

nah it's sweet

see poll ( Coach I am a walking red flag )

other ( see comments )

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Here is a good video on this phrase.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IkFluyZMU_U&t=128s

[FreyaRed]

Yes, if they say it too often. It's sarcasm or lack of self-confidence. Sarcastic people will never take you seriously unless you dominate them. Person with lack of self-confidence seek for compensation. They will take you for granted very soon and they will belittle your efforts, affection, admiration... to improve their virtual value for themselves.

[melanieeeB]

"You're to good for me" or "you deserve someone better than me" is just some bullshit someone tells you to let you down slowly.

[Guy13]

Absolutely as she is moved to second position or back-up plan.

[sheenagwapa]

i didn't finish the video because when you say you're too good for me then you probably have something to be ashamed of or yoy have insecurities that you feel the other cannot accept isn't it? that's reall rhe root cause. you can date people who have the same background like you or date people you who you think can accept you. me personally i get so freaked out when i have pimple because my pimple can easily create a hole in my face. i have to kill it immediately i don't care if it gets dark i prioritize that it doesn't create a hole but my crush before had deep scars on his dace due to pimples and i also saw him with live pimples. so don't judge the person just because yoy have different life experiences. before this i read a question about beinh shy but they're already engage in friends with benefits scenario fir almost two years. i am ignorant how does that happen you are shy but already intimate. i am not mockinh i am curious because it's different from my personal experience

[DizzyDesii]

I think its more of a warning. If i tell someone that, i’m not referring to things like status for example. I’m referring to good vs naughty. I dont like the thought of dirty-ing a pure minded individual. When someone tells me that, i dont think they’re referring to good vs naughty... but something else

[DizzyDesii]

Based off your poll, “i think its sweet” of them to warn me

[DizzyDesii]

Wow so only 2 other people don’t see the fault in it either. How is telling someone “you’re too good for me” a red flag? Its a free pass to get tf out and find something better or settle for less. 🤷‍♀️

[coachTanthony]

Mathew Hussey explains it well in the update vid.

[molonski2]

100 % , The only time I've seen it honestly used is when someone wishes to finish , used it that way myself on occasion in past years " I'm going to bring you down , your just too good for me " , Its like saying " Its not you , its me " , bullshit 5555 , Its you ! I want out , and as painlessly as possible , without feeling bad.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Lol, yes!

If he/she is that good you’re going to go for him.

My ex was absolutely the hottest guy and I always thought he was even better than me, but never cared for him being too good haha

So, that word usually means they think the opposite.

[EmyyWolf]

I’ve never heard that in my life. Sounds like someone who’s a coward or insecure. If a guy said this to me, I’d be turned off. In my eyes he’s go from SuperMan to broke whimp. 🙄🙄

[EmyyWolf]

Sounds more like a tactic to push you away. Honestly 🤔🤔 @coachTanthony

[coachTanthony]

More like he’s not good enough to commit but will have se with you. You deserve better though for a relationship lol

[Unit1]

I have my own view on it without overthinking it.

It is basically a rejection in disguise. Or a rejection styled in such a manner, that the recipient won't feel as much damage as being told being not good enough. Can't blame them for saying it.

My course of action being on the receiving end of it? Thank you, next.

[alice55]

I don't think it's a red flag it's just mean they're not confident in themselves (can be one though if they used it to manipulate you but if it's just confidence issue it's not a red flag).

[coachTanthony]

I guess the only way to find out is if they keep saying dumb shit like that moving forward. Like I don't deserve you would be the next flag.

[mobiusforniner]

Im just impressed you apply the word "you're" appropriately. Bravo coach. The grammatical gods praise thee.

[coachTanthony]

Hey it's funny you say that because my spell check changed it at first to your. I mean the nerve lol

[D_Bone_Steak]

Not sure... I think it's a great way to get a woman to dump you though. Never say that shit to them. Never. Tell them they're not good enough for me. Unless you want her to leave you that is.

[Anonymous]

I think it's funny. When a woman has said that to me I responded, "I know that but I'm throwing a dog a bone". You know, just in case she didn't really mean it. 😆😆😆

[coachTanthony]

LOL.

[TacosRAwesome]

Nah. I appreciate that they think I should raise my standards.

[LazerBean]

Yeah. If someone thinks I'm too good for them then I'm going to take their word for it.

[Riley473]

it is the last guy I thought I was dating who told me that and look at us now we don't speak and he got engaged to some girl shortly after we stopped speaking.

he liked her for years.

[Anonymous]

Not a red flag.

Just could mean the person is insecure.

Can we stop the trend of calling every little thing that deviates from the stagers a red flag?
This place is turning into reddit. “My girlfriend didn’t text me good morning” first advice: “break up!”

[Opinion Owner]

Stagers->standard*

[msc545]

This s a diversion generally used by somebody who wants to break up (or not get together) but is trying to say it gently to avoid conflict. It is very cowardly.

[Shark_61695]

If I'm too good for someone, there must be something seriously wrong with them.

[AngryCarl2]

Yes, because it's probably true. The guy is probably needy and inadequate.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Like the opposite sentence I'm too good for you would be a red flag.

[LeeannaDD]

I'd say it's an indicator or insecurities

[coachTanthony]

Yes because right after you will start hearing damn I don't deserve you.