Do you think it’s weird to find somebody unattractive in person who you’ve seen photos of and on video who has honestly represented themselves online?

[Anonymous]

When I met this woman, I thought the issue was my personality in person. She told me she was unattracted to me. My photos are a very accurate representation of me. We video chatted before. I’m just surprised how she can be unattracted after that. Based on things that have nothing to do with my personality..

[Guy13]

Vibe, nonverbal, and what she talks about can kill it for me…

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I've been there. Even if the guy looks exactly like his photos, it's very different meeting someone in person. That's why I'm not a huge fan of online dating, I'd rather find someone in person.

The thing for me is that even if I'm attracted to the photos or personality a guy posts online, when I meet him in person sometimes it can be a shock. We all have this mental picture of people that we create in our brains so when that mental picture is broken by reality it's kind of a turn off. It has nothing to do with you being attractive or unattractive. It's also not something I've ever been able to really control.

Also, sometimes it really is just the vibes. You can't get vibes from a person off of the internet, it's the kind of thing you can only get in-person. Some people we get along with instantly while some people we hate without any explanation other than vibes/feelings we get from that person. That's why in a lot of cases when one person thinks a date went really well, the other person thinks the date went poorly. Simply just vibes.

It's best that you respect her feelings, her decision and move on to the next person.

[asomeone]

Not at all. Chemistry is even more weird.