Do people still see it as creepy if the younger woman is the one also pursuing a guy who’s older? Why do people judge it?

[Paulalove98]

For example say there’s a 24 year old woman and she got to know this guy she works with (he’s 33) and they ended up talking more, getting to know each other somewhat and she developed a crush on him, she didn’t care about his age because she thought he looked young himself and they have slowly been progressing in their friendship and teasing one another. I don’t find it creepy because it’s not like I’m 18 or even 20 even though people tell me I look younger than 24, I’m still way more mature than I was 6 years ago, I definitely don’t feel uncomfortable as I’m attracted to this guy.

[NamerOfStars]

Sadly, they do- a lot of people have a (n often subconscious) bias against women; they assume that they're not capable of making their own decisions. Now, are young women more readily able to be lead astray than older women? Probably. More than young men? Maybe. And are there older men out there who'd try to take advantage of younger women? Doubtlessly. But women can think, too. And just because an older man wants to be with you doesn't mean he's taking advantage, or in any way doing wrong.

Is it creepy? No. But there are those who will see it that way. In the words of Aral Vorkosigan, "Guard your honor. Let your reputation fall where it may. And outlive the bastards."

[SnowedIn]

Definitely not creepy or weird. Totally okay. What matters is whether they two are compatible.

That said, there are judgy people in the world and people who are going to snarky with you about it and make snide comments, etc.

But nothing wrong with either the age difference or the woman pursuing the man.

[Anonymous]

When I was 14 I was pursued by my teacher. She got found out and avoided jail because she was pregnant. When I got my first job after college she hit me up for child support, tried to get me to back date it too, nearly 7 years back to when I was a minor

[Paulalove98]

Wow that’s some story… hope all is okay now in your life. Yeah when I was with my ex boyfriend he was 18 at the time and I was 22 but when I talked about it people would comment stuff that was negative since I was older, so I’ve gotten some frowns either or :/ I think at the end of the day people will always judge us on something even if it’s not our love lives.

[Opinion Owner]

The kid turned 18 so really I was only on the hook for 10 years. She tried to get me to help pay for his college but I refused.

[Still-alive]

You are fine with your age gap but if she's 20 years or more younger than him people assume she likely has daddy issues and a deep deeeep desire for security in a relationship. its like their primary goal and if they can't get that they flee. there might be some truth to all this.

[Still-alive]

so he's the creepy one and she's damaged basically is what some people think.

[Yumix]

Nothing wrong with it. My parents have 10 year Gap and got to know each other around the age too

[DarkLegacy]

Nope it is not creepy at all. I would prefer it that way. People these days are far too judgmental on this sort of thing.

[Anonymous]

its not creepy or weird, you're both grown and in an environment where its normal that you two wouldve interacted

[riverrat3]

that is not that far apart

[Alex8736]

all the power to them