Would you ever date someone who disagrees with you politically?

[coachTanthony]

No because republicans are intolerant

No because democrats are intolerant

Yes I would

see poll ( Coach we know you are a pescatarian independent )

[Lliam]

I wouldn't want to date someone who was strongly politically partisan. It would mean that they are 1) uninformed, 2) brainwashed, 3) closed minded, 4) angry, and 5) intolerant.

I have no problem with mild affinity for one party or another, or with strong opinions on certain issues, as long as a person is capable of discussing them rationally and respectfully. I actually appreciate differing opinions.

[coachTanthony]

yes thank you

[Lliam]

Thanks, bro.
I forgot to add that I learn by listening to other opinions. If someone makes good points or presents information that I am not aware of, I can modify or even change my previous opinions.
I love learning new things.

[Lliam]

Thanks for the MHO, Coach.

[Heterosketero]

Used to be they made a first date exciting, sometimes... Very much agree with you.

[zagor]

It depends on how and why they disagree. I wouldn't date MTG or Ms. Boebert or someone who thinks like them. But I also wouldn't date Maxine Waters even if she was 50 years younger. Political differences, sure. Irrational fanaticism, no.

[coachTanthony]

Political differences, sure. Irrational fanaticism, no

Love it

[Avicenna]

Yes, assuming she isn't extreme in her views, isn't constantly talking about politics, isn't intolerant of differing opinions, doesn't work in politics and isn't an activist. Now, if she is anti-Semitic, no way.

[AviatorTom]

My SO and I often disagree on politics. We agree sometimes, disagree others.

[Phoenix98]

I guess it'd depend on how radical you are politically and what we disagreed on and to what extent, how tolerant they were.

And people are different even if we agree on mostly the same stuff there will still be things we disagree on. But there are some lines I won't cross and won't be with someone based on their opinion of certain topics. But at the same time we do have to keep in mind people are not alike even people with the same political beliefs believe those beliefs differently or have a different outlooks on the same things thus may not necessarily agree.

I know and converse with people with different political beliefs sometimes we agree on things and sometimes we don't though I do always enjoy the conversations, sometimes I learn something I didn't know, or it gives me an excuse to research what they said to make sure that it was actually correct, that they weren't making it up etc.

I don't shun them though, your beliefs should be challenged because if you can't defend your own beliefs much less political ones was there really much merit to those ideals in the first place? Where they really that great or just to begin with? So having different opinions on things isn't necessarily a bad thing if your actually able to defend your own views and care about actual deep intellectual discussions and not the rampant tantrums we usually see.

But with the political sphere the way it is some people are pretty intolerant and thus even saying you are this or that can basically get you ostracized or even verbally and physically attacked in some cases.

I'm a conservatives I have old fashioned values, morals and beliefs, I believe in the constitution, the amendments and the like. But I'm more then happy to converse with people on the other side of the aisle or anyone really assuming they can actually have a intellectual discussion and just well scream. But the same can't be said for some people on the opposite end of the spectrum. Though that goes for both sides sadly.

So like I said it really depends on a lot of things.

[Mybeachlife8888]

You’re not going to like my answer but that’s ok because you don’t know enough and ignorance is bliss. I’m not trying to bash anyone here for beliefs. You can have your own beliefs about whatever you want. I myself wouldn’t date someone who falls for the tricks of the Republican Party’s bullshit rhetoric. That itself is just blatant idiocracy. In my opinion it’s not something that someone who is educated enough in life should fall for. If you have problems with the Democratic Party that’s fine, because I do too. But to be a person who supports this new age Republican Party is insane.

(A little side note for those of you who are behind, Democratic Party is pretty much a combined beliefs system of the old Republican beliefs and the democratic beliefs. The new Republican Party is basically the Christian Taliban extremism party.)

I’m sure so many idiots will be triggered by this statement and that’s ok, I won’t waste my time explaining anything to you because if you’re still on the trump bandwagon then you’re too far gone to even comprehend what’s going on.

If you agree with my opinions at least sort of, shoot me a follow and we can be friends haha 😂

[coachTanthony]

LOL the Dems are woke and are now against free speech. New age dems is what you should be against.

[normalice]

There is a certian addiction to wishful/hypothetical thinking I have found to be correlated to republicans. Whereas democrats seem to have a dependence on wishful thinking but would cheerfully abandon it if given a viable out. If she is a republican who isn't hooked on wishful thinking then I don't see a problem with a relationship but I would be a little baffled over how she can be a republican with any kind of resolve if she necessarily can't take any of the far right narratives seriously.

[coachTanthony]

Well there are far right and far left people and I think the "far" are the ones who have no tolerance for one another.

[normalice]

Yeah, there is a bit of a horse shoe going on but I would say these days if you come across a republican they are more likely to be supportive of far right candidates like Trump or DeSantis than more centrist ones like Romney, whereas democrats nearly have to be begged to even vote at all because they don't support any of their canddates. So it's a substantially lopsided horse shoe.

[Sabretooth]

I'm not on the left... I often agree with them. I'm appalled by how they view abortion as some great things... Some comments have just been sickening... Some even calling it cheaper and merciful for the children. There's also their snide remarks on my Christian faith. Not to mention their misinformation about weed. And some who venerate the media and bash them for expressing an opinion or who being family on. Though, the other side just lives in La La land.

[normalice]

@Sabretooth yeah, I try to push people on the left to sift out the rhetoric designed for the purpose of reach from the intent and the practical elements behind it. But I'm just one person. And some portion of those I try with end up preferring the bedazzlement of the rhetoric anyway. The left is definitely not immune - after all the right uses our human instincts against us, not conservative instincts.

[normalice]

But what the left does have going for them is the rhetoric and the practical elements are at least in the same direction. Celebrating abortions is bizarre but it's still the case that we shouldn't expect anyone to donate their body to someone else. That's just not something you can shout to a crowd and expect them to react with much energy, but i like telling people on the left to calm down and consider that its enough to make their point in any serious venue. Same with drag stuff. Celebrating things like drag shows is arguably a little odd but it's still the case that everyone has the right to the equal protection of the law.

The right, however, has no such alignment. Their rhetoric is "get government out of your life" but then when a train full of toxic chemicals dumps all over a republican town, suddenly it's "where the fuck is the government?" as though they hadn't spent four decades actively sabotaging everything the government could have done to prevent it or at least respond quickly. The right almost always does the opposite of what they say and so they rely on telling their voter base a heavy fantasy narrative to stay in power despite doing the opposite of everything they promise. Their leaders make them feel clever for picking up on subtext that the left can do nothing about. And then they use those same subtext channels to suggest that "get government out of your life" means stopping oppressive laws from hampering daily activity. They never mention that what they meant was sabotaging the things in place to protect you from the powerful and greedy. I just couldn't live with someone like that.

[midnightmoon05]

Yes I would. Because I respect their believe system. If he can’t do the same for me…then love will not happen.
when I met my hubby, he was so into religion and politics because his world like most Americans were surrounded by these dinner table “fights”. Topic of discussions.
slowly…he realized…even though I’m not like any of them…but I appreciate his ideas and his beliefs and support his life…I just be that good listener…

at the end of the day…it’s how we get along in the house and the day to day things to work out rather than focusing on fighting about something we can’t change.
the divide of the country sure brings divide in the house.
keep the love, family together/strong regardless of what those clowns 🤡 🤡 are doing.

[lightbulb27]

You are what America is supposed to be like!!! XOX

[FunkyMonkee]

If we were already friends before the divide and she wasn't pissed at me for not agreeing with her. I used to have a friend that HATED Trump but, we still had nice long friendly talks via phone and e-mail and would go get a pizza once in a while. On the obverse, I had a friend from, generally, the same location as her, who loved Bush and, as soon as she found out I hated the sleazy weasel, she stopped talking to me! There's also a girl that was our bass player a few years before I joined the band in `80 and we'd been pretty good friends ever since I met her in the mid `80's but, as soon as she heard I was a Trump supporter, she refused to talk to me, anymore!! Oh, well! Her loss!!

[DizzyDesii]

As long as we dont talk politics much, maybe. But if they go around screaming stuff like Trump/Biden 2024 then i dont want them. There is a lot on both sides that i agree and disagree with so its probably best that they be on the same page and have moderate thinking as well

[bolverk]

Yes I would, but then I live in the UK where politics are between you and the ballot box, unlike the US where you basically go around with your political affiliation on your sleeve, When I worked in the US for 10 years my co-workers could never understand how I could look at both sides of a political argument and come up with a totally different conclusion to both sides.

[coachTanthony]

That is true. Politics define many people in the US and if you disagree you should be hung lol

[Cubus]

It's because Labour and Tories are much more similar than Democrats and Republicans, when it comes to policies.

[coachTanthony]

@Cubus Yeah over there you can't really tell the difference most cases.

[ShadezMcgee]

Yes, but it depends one two factors.

1.) How extreme is she with her politics? Regardless of where she falls? Any woman who is an extremist is a hard no.

2.) Can she put politics in the rear view mirror in the relationship or is it going to be at the forefront with everything? If she can't avoid putting them near the front, cut her loose. If she can't do that, she will never prioritize the more critical aspects of the relationship

[blissinanarchy1]

@Lliam pretty much summed up my opinion. I’m not partisan, my whole idea is whoever is right, is right. I’m liberal in some aspects, conservative in others.

If I say the word “Black” to describe a skin color and you call me racist for it, obviously you’re too “woke” and too far to the left.

However, if you start saying the n word, and go off on a racist rant then saying they’re too sensitive, obviously you’re too far to the right.

I need balance.

[Lliam]

I agree.
Ideologues are irrational and I don't have patience for that.

[Sirenboobzilla]

Yes. BUT depends on how hard headed they are. Some people can't seem to handle someone having different views and will start acting like it's the end of the world - I can't handle people like that. We can respectfully disagree all day long. But don't belittle me for my views and expect me to welcome you in to bed

[nitsuj86]

As long as it wasn't too extreme then I wouldn't have an issue.

I find other people often have an issue with the way I lean politically which is "I really don't fucking care" it's all a different brand of shit to me for the most part.

Man, woman, black, white, republican, democrat. I personally don't care who is president. The world continues to turn regardless of who is in power. And in my opinion, my people are really qualified to have an "opinion" on politics.

The average American has very little knowledge of our own politics, let alone the politics of the world, and why things are the way they are. We all think " I know what's best" and those same people can barely run their own lives.

I have been yelled at for telling people I don't vote, or really care. I always just tell them, fine I'll go vote for the guy you don't like. Then they are fine with it. lol

[Jdjfjcjj]

I hate talking about politics with women in general. They can have a opinion on something based on an experience or emotion while my beliefs are generally based on logical reason. Trying to convince the other why you disagree is futile. You can't convince of a logical point a view when they have some kind of personal experience

[Jdjfjcjj]

In my experience though, the women who held far greater levels of trust in my ability to lead, and saw me a higher regarded light, often were more willing to change their beliefs to align with mine

[AmyHew1tt]

Depends on how much we disagree about. My parents are in that situation, and while I admire them for making it work regardless, I don't want that extra conflict in my own relationship, as I think the most success will come from being, at least generally, a united front on all subjects.

[SnowedIn]

Yes. There are people in the world who can have conversations and who can disagree and still be civil and be human. Life is more than politics and political parties.

[coachTanthony]

You would hope.

[HighValue]

Modern politics has a lot to do with morals. I won't even be friends with someone that is a Democrat anymore, let alone date one.

[coachTanthony]

Because they don't believe what you believe? Or because they are toxic and spew hatred for you for believing what you believe? I have a ton of friends on the opposite side it can be done.

[Exterminatore]

@high

I’m mostly the same. Political views stem from one’s values. I can get along with, and be cool to anybody, but I only let people who generally share the values I have into my life to be more than just a casual acquaintance.

That’s why I could never be with a left winger. Their values are going to be way different than mine and that’s not gonna make for a healthy relationship.

@Coach

You’re right, it can be done, but I think it’s human nature that we tend to associate with people more similar to ourselves than different from ourselves.

[genericname85]

i would say a certain ammount of disagreement is tolerable. but not too much. there's boundaries to what i think is acceptable disagreement in a relationship. it's hard to pinpoint them tho.

[coachTanthony]

I would say disagreement is encouraged but disrespect to another based on your views is simply not.

[genericname85]

respect is another layer of complexity in my opinion. i think that even given the maximum respect possible, opinions being too divergent can create a gap too large to bridge with respect between partners. so a relationship would not be fasible.

[coachTanthony]

Politics these days is all about respect of another's views. If we can agree to disagree then all is well.

[genericname85]

xD i percieve politics these days to be mostly about creating more unnecessary separation by focusing on the microscopical differences instead of the giant similarities.

like "respect of anothers view" is only afforded to "opinions that agree with the current paradigm". not to the "unacceptable views". like people try to force acceptance for every liberal bullshit but not a single inch of tolerance is afforded to more conservative views.

[coachTanthony]

I don't disagree.

[OfMiceandMen]

I would for sure, politics is one of the lasts things on my mind when I am looking for that awesome person. As long as she can joke about it, if she takes politics to seriously she needs to find another pass time, or get laid.

[Anpu23]

My wife and I don't always agree on political issues. She's almost pure Democrat and I am more independent depending on the issue.

[coachTanthony]

Anyone can be democrat or republican. The issue is when someone says if you are republican or democrat you are the scum of the earth or have no values or intelligence. That is the difference. I respect anyone who doesn't agree with me that is their value system. it's the ones who say there is only ONE value system and it's mine.