How would you try to reconnect with an old flame if you don’t have their Instagram?

[Anonymous]

I went on a few dates with a guy just for fun and it fizzled out quick because he was more sexually motivated. Though you never know with people and it is possible for them to be open to talk again. If you have say not spoken in months and want to test waters, how would you go about restarting a conversation? Not saying that I assume it will turn into a serious relationship but I heard sometimes it can be fun to meet an ex again just to chill. So, how would you try to reconnect with them if you don’t have their Instagram?

[megabamse]

After a few months? In the term of time you have just been there seconds ago. Sure you can try again. But why bother? If nothing in you have changed then why would something in him have changed? If it was years then the chance is more would have changed. But you are saying months. It's your life, your choice. But i will tell you this. The story we grow up with that we need someone to be happy and complete. Well that is simply not true. Not completely true at least. The one and only person that can truly make you happy is you. Work on yourself and your interest. Work on your health both physical and emotional. Grow, learn to take joy in just letting life happen around you, not everything needs to be documented, not everything needs to be planned and not everything need to happen all at once. When we learn to enjoy being alone just as much as being with a friend. It's then we truly can be happy. Life is to be enjoyed from our own perspective. But life can be shared with a loved one, but that is two life's co-existiong together and still being experienced separately in each own mind. It's when we co-existiong together a relationship can truly be enjoyed

[AviatorTom]

Call him, or write him a letter, or send him an email. If you went on a few dates, I'm pretty sure you have his contact info other than Instagram. Or, why not visit him where he lives. People were able to communicate long before Instagram.

[Guy13]

Think before the computer age, what could they have done? smoke signals, Morris code, written, called, and etc...

[coachTanthony]

Are you now more sexually motivated? If so then track him down in person and say so.

[Jdjfjcjj]

I thought by the title you were referring to someone in your past that you had more history with. In this case it sounds like you being a little desparate to have anything rather than being comfortable enough to be single and find someone you actually want

[teamvic]

I mean just say hey or something, but if you plan to just "chill" then you're wasting your time

[Jamie05rhs]

You saw this person's red flags and you responded accordingly. You did the right thing. Why are you second-guessing yourself? Are you just feeling lonely?

[strlb]

Yes, give it a shot b/c you'll never know what may happen until you try. Keep us updated. Best of luck! DM always open.

[Jltakk]

You probably don't need social media. just call or text him

[Asker]

Yeah but could I say?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't. I don't give second chances. But if I did I'd contact them on Facebook probably.

[magiusX26]

i would not even contemplate trying.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Find their Facebook.

[cherryxox99]

Email? Friend of friends? Linkedin?

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Phone book

[WanderingLoveWizard]

No, I dont know

[Anonymous]

Maybe they’re on Facebook

[Anonymous]

Ever heard of a telephone?

[LiamJHayden]

Call.

[dinojames22]

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