She thinks she’s so successful at dating, but she’s with a guy she doesn’t think is hot. And she can only meet guys online, not in person.
Randomly at the gym one day she tells me I should read this. I’m really shy and quiet but I’m not like insecure and just let people do whatever. I’m confused what she means or if she’s just being a troll.
You'll have BETTER luck finding a guy by being kind. Men don't love bitches- they're often attracted to certain bitchy behaviors, but that's the "pump and dump" kind of attraction- if you're looking for something more enduring, guys much prefer the kind of women they'll want to wake up with to the kind they just want to sleep with.
It is, however, true that it's harder to get a guy to notice you if you're behaviorally more laid back- and it's REALLY hard to get a date with someone who doesn't really know you exist. It's still readily doable, you just may have to be a bit more active in the "expressing interest" part.
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You are very sweet as a person. That itself is a good quality. Don't listen to such friend who tell you that you need to change your nature.
You should be who you are. There are men who love women who are open book type, who are very nice, kind and sweet by nature.
There is no need to change, as a man I can tell you that confidently. It is better to remain single/alone instead of changing yourself into something bad/negative.
That’s terrible advice. Just be yourself. There is someone for everyone. I say this not to mean there is only one person but many people somewhere out there that will be attracted to who you are. You just have to get yourself out there. If you start a relationship by presenting to them someone who you are not, it will not last and it will only cause unnecessary hurt to both parties.
That book is different than what you are probably assuming. If you were complaining to her she was probably trying to help. If it was unsolicited then just brush it off
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You surely can. Who wrote that book, I'm guessing a bitch woman with an agenda. We like co-operative women. There is possibly an occasional guy who likes to be a bitches bitch.
Yes, that's the best kind.
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