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So my new girlfriend has some things I'm wondering are possible red flags.. she has severe Adhd, depression, unresolved trauma, just got out of a abusive relationship and is also poly. Should I let this one go?
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It depends on how much you like her. This girl will need a guy who is willing to be extra patient and extra understanding. She's going to need a guy who is ok with "being there" for someone you're in a relationship with.
It depends on what you want to call "red-flags". Like it depends on what exactly you're trying to avoid.
So these aren't "red-flags" in terms of them indicating a "bad girlfriend" as in the kind that's going to fuck-you over, or pull some crazy shit. There is no reason to think that she wouldn't be an excellent partner and a wonderful girlfriend... for the right kind of guy.
But if you're a guy who doesn't tend to be overly sympathetic to things like "unresolved trauma"... then these are certainly "red-flags" insofar as... this girl has a whole lot going on emotionally as a result of unresolved trauma. If you're not prepared to deal with that. Then you should let this one go. Because it's not going to be a relationship you're happy with anyway.
You are going to need a whole lot of patience and understanding to be a good partner for a girl like this. Just be honest with yourself about whether or not you are the type to have that extra level of empathy and patience.
Now, "poly" is that some newfangled open relationship type thing? Or does it just mean "sexually attracted to a bunch of different types". If it's the latter, not a problem. If it's the former... then problem (depending on how you roll I guess)
Later 👋
Lost me at polygamous..
How so?
I just consider it a red flag. I guess it depends on the person. If you’re the same then thats not a bad thing. The rest aren't red flags for me, just harder/complicated, and if u like someone enough or think they’re worth it, those wouldn’t be a reason to leave them.
For the unresolved trauma, its not a red flag if she’s trying to work through it and heal from it.