My son needs help asking a girl to prom what should I tell him?

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

My son is 18 and has never had a girlfriend or been on a date, he told me, he’s good looking kid baseball player. He should have no issue getting girls. But he’s extremely shy around gurus and awkward. Anyway if he can get over that lotsa girls would love to date him!! He is trying to get the courage to ask this girl from school to prom and he said he got so nervous he couldn’t sleep last night! He asked me how he should ask her! I said just pull her aside ask her to join you for pizza after school or coffee and get her talking to her you like her and you would be honored if she would be your date to prom! He said she’s shy too but here’s the thing a mutual friend of theirs already told my son that this girl will absolutely say yes if my son asks her like it seems like he’s waiting for him to ask her!! What’s the big deal? I don’t get it she’s gonna say yes! What do I tell him I don’t get what he’s even nervous about! He already knows the answer is yes

[Anonymous]

It's understandable that your son is feeling nervous and anxious about asking this girl to prom. It's a big step to put yourself out there and ask someone out, especially when you're shy or inexperienced.

Here are a few things you could tell your son to help him build confidence and prepare for asking this girl to prom:

1. Reassure him that it's normal to feel nervous: Let him know that it's okay to feel anxious or nervous about asking someone out, and that these feelings are a natural part of the process.

2. Practice with him: Role play with him and practice what he might say when he asks her to prom. This can help him feel more confident and prepared when the time comes.

3. Encourage him to be himself: Remind him that he doesn't have to be anyone other than himself when he asks this girl to prom. Encourage him to be genuine, sincere, and respectful in his approach.

4. Focus on the positive: Remind him that this girl will likely be thrilled and flattered that he asked her to prom. Encourage him to focus on the positive aspects of the situation and to try to enjoy the process.

5. Support him no matter what: Let him know that you're proud of him for taking this step, and that you'll support him no matter what happens. Encourage him to be brave and to take risks, even if things don't always go according to plan.

By offering support, encouragement, and practical advice, you can help your son feel more confident and prepared as he takes this important step in his social life.

Here is an example of what your son could say when asking this girl to prom:

"Hey, I was wondering if you're free on the night of prom. I would be honored if you would be my date. I know we haven't spent a lot of time together, but I think you're really cool and I would love to get to know you better. What do you say?"

Encourage your son to be confident, respectful, and sincere in his approach, and to be prepared for any response. Remind him that it's okay if she says no, and that there are plenty of other opportunities to meet new people and have fun at prom. Encourage him to enjoy the experience and to be himself throughout the process.

[strlb]

Does he have her #? If so, I would encourage him to meet somewhere that he is comfortable and in his realm and have a sign that asks "will you go to prom with me" this allows him do it with confidence w/o actually saying anything. He is afraid of rejection, in his head, believing he's not deserving. Positive reinforcement should provide the confidence he needs.

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

Thank you

[Anonymous]

JJ is a handsome well behaved and very polite young man any girl would be lucky to have him remind him of that!!

[SteveSmith1985]

Awww, this is hard. I see exactly what you're saying. I see ALL of what you're saying. I can sympathize so much with how you feel in that situation.

The problem is... that to your son... the answer isn't forgone. He doesn't understand that she's going to say "yes" and that he has every logical reason to think his proposal will be well-received. That's not his reality. If it were... then you're right he wouldn't be nervous.

Now, obviously I don't know anything about your son's history. But... this sounds like more than shyness. Even extreme shyness. This sounds more like some genuine anxiety. (like I'm thinking diagnosable anxiety... but I'm not a doctor. At all).

The only times I've run across anyone this totally illogically uncomfortable and anxious about some social thing (even a big-one like a prom proposal... and given the evidence she'll say yes... as you say... it makes no "sense"... welcome to anxiety).

So I don't know if you're like "yea. I know. He's been seeing someone about anxiety since he was 10 years old... thanks internet stranger".

Or if you maybe just think your son is actually just "really shy." But is it possible that this is social anxiety? Just throwing out the possibility. Because I've seen my share of shy people (on here mostly, these days). Some are extremely shy. This... seems more like anxiety. Just a thought. 🙂

[Summeroflove]

He’s just gotta do it and get it over with.

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

He did this is an old post

[Summeroflove]

Okay

[ShadezMcgee]

Is this your son by chance?

How do I ask a girl to prom when I already know she’ll go with me but im still scared to ask?

[Static_In_The_Attic]

It’s easy & all you have to do is tell your son if he wants a date for prom he has to ask someone to go. As much as you want to be momma bear your cub is 18 & has to man up & start doing things for himself.

[bowenw]

All he has to do is ask her if she would like to go to the prom with him.
Maybe have him practice several times with you so it becomes second nature. If he is still too nervous to ask in person suggest he text her.

[Mansearching]

This brings back so many memories. Tell him to put his big boy underwear on and ask. Sorry to be so blunt. But there is no other way to say it.

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

He gets nervous his dad, my husband, passed away almost 4 years ago so he never had a dad in his life for those things

[Mansearching]

I'm sorry to hear that. You gotta take over both jobs to best of your ability.

My advice is still same. Don't beat around bush.

[Wish4UrB00ty]

Just tell him to relax. He is getting all up in his own head and it is messing with him.

[Marked_Man]

Be respectful. Dress nice, comb hair, brush teeth and go up to his lady and say, "I'd really be honored if you'd be my date to prom".

[Anonymous]

lmao mr mcgee connected the mom-son duo. Gotta give you (whoever it is. maybe the mom? or son?) credit for what could likely be the all-time winner for a GaG fictional drama lmao

[Anonymous]

If he's got a big one send a dick pic. Does he have a big one?

[Anonymous]

This makes me mad cuz it's a reminder that guys always have to be the ones to go after the woman

[Anonymous]

Payback's a b****.