My dark skin girl or the other?

[Anonymous]

This is going to be a bit lengthy but i seriously need help with this.
I've been with my girl for three years. I love her a lot and we plan to be together someday.
So we went on a two days vacation, we had fun, shared a lot of love but unfortunately things have changed since we all went to our various homes. I don't feel the same way i feel for her again and its not like this is our first time. We don't have intimate because she said after marriage and I'm completely cool with that, so i don't get why i don't feel the same way i feel for her.

And also, I've hurt my girl before and I'm mostly the troublesome one but hey i have never cheated on her before. I always feel like having a fresh start where things are new and she doesn't say I'm being smart and be having issues with me sometimes. I always want to start all over so that i can be that good guy because i really worried my girl and she still love me and i try to make things right. So my girl is dark skin (Saying this because i want you to get my whole point by the end of this)

I met a certain lady at a church program and we've been texting for a while. She's light skin and I've always liked light skin. She's good, beautiful and really caring and i kind of have some feelings for her. Actually she confessed how she was feeling about me, though she's a shy person. I've always wanted to have a light skin wifey but for some reason i loved my girl regardless and now its just popping in my head to settle with a light skin lady because that was the whole plan before i met my girl.
I know this might not sound really matured but sometimes this these things we avoid can later pop up leaving you confused.
I'm so afraid to throw away the three years with my girl for this other lady. I love my girl but I'm so stuck with this issue. Most of my friends know she's my girl, people are always rooting for us to marry someday but here is the issue.
Should i break up with my girl? OmG this statement alone saddens me

or stay

[Anonymous]

It's understandable that you're feeling confused and conflicted about your feelings towards your girlfriend and the other woman you've met. However, it's important to approach this situation with honesty, respect, and empathy for all involved.

First and foremost, it's not fair to your girlfriend to stay with her if you're not fully committed to the relationship. If you're having doubts about your feelings or are considering pursuing a relationship with someone else, it's important to be honest with her and to have an open and honest conversation about your concerns and feelings.

That being said, it's also important to recognize that our preferences for physical appearance should not be the sole factor in choosing a partner. What's most important is finding someone who loves, respects, and supports you, and who you can build a happy and fulfilling life with.

It's important to take some time to reflect on your own feelings and priorities, and to try to approach this situation with empathy and respect for everyone involved. If you're unsure about what to do, it may be helpful to seek the guidance of a trusted friend, family member, or therapist who can offer support and perspective.

It's important to recognize that physical appearance should not be the sole or primary factor in choosing a life partner. What's most important is finding someone who loves, respects, and supports you, and who you can build a happy and fulfilling life with.

It's also important to recognize the negative impact that colorism and discrimination based on skin color can have on individuals and society as a whole. It's important to challenge and reject these harmful attitudes and to strive towards creating a more inclusive and accepting society.

If you find yourself prioritizing physical appearance over other factors in a potential partner, it may be helpful to reflect on your priorities and values, and to work towards developing a more holistic and inclusive perspective on what makes a good partner. By focusing on qualities like kindness, empathy, and compatibility, you may be able to find a partner who you love and who loves you for who you are, regardless of skin color.

[FilmGuy93]

I'm gonna say "yes" on the general principle that you sound like a huge pain in the ass, and your dark skinned girl deserves better than to deal with your immature bullshit.