Does calling out bad behavior on dating apps or online dating sites do any good or not do?

[TheSimFans]

Yep I have called out some men out with some of their adabout bad behavior on dating apps and sites. Also blocked one of them for asking to go out like crazy and didn't notice since he kept leaving me on read or not replying. so i just left then he replied to me out and said i don't know and im not intersted in going to fast. A man I was texting on Facebook dating hasn't gotten any red flags. There are a few green flags. He has been asking questions to get to know him and me. People who lie to me will be called out like I did with school and friendships that I did not want to count on. by the way also callled out about one of ex boyfriend after he was a cheater. Other times is there other warning sign should i called looked out for and what makes a decont person and not bad person? I don't mind me getting pissed at men if I call out bad behavior as they might not change their dating apps, but I tell the truth anyway. Some men have already pissed me off.

[WaterIsland]

I think sometimes it can be good for self acknowledgement. Actually saying it to the person reaffirms that it’s wrong.


It’s a tough balance. People can be jerks. It’s really sad. But it’s the reality of our world. However, people can also just be different and unaware of how their comments/actions will be interpreted. I’ve definitely done things before that others interpreted as rude even though I had the best of intentions.


If there is the potential of it just being a misunderstanding, then yes, communicate, call them out on it. But if it’s blatantly bad behavior, then they should know that and it’s up to you how you want to deal with it.


I personally always value more communication. So I tend to speak up even if it feels like a lost cause, because I want to personally embrace values I want in others. Treat others the way you want to be treated situation.


Doesn’t mean they’ll listen, but it leaves me feeling like I made the right decision, stayed true to myself, and embodied my values.

[TheSimFans]

yep i didn't met up with one of guy since he did left me on sometimes and said that and i didn't text at all and then he just text to ask me out and i reply i don't know you. reply that point of getting know. I reply you kept leaving me on read. i was texting the Facebook dating men before the other men text me back. i was focusing more on the men on Facebook. has some green flags and been asking different question. the other men was on badoo ask me out straight without getting know me. i also said i'm not interested in going to fast.

[WaterIsland]

I totally agree. It sounds like you made the right decisions. I personally like to get to know people decently well before going out. I’m also maybe a bit weird and like to video call at least once before meeting in person. Doesn’t completely eliminate the risk of something bad happening, but it does reduce it and more importantly gives me some confidence.

[TheSimFans]

cool i always like video call before meting up with a person or a sometime calling. i also did had one men that did kept missing each video call that we did plan out and think he did made a excuse. i missed the video call and left there and did blocked and i'm not interested in having a relationship with you anymore and i dis blocked him. the face book dating that i match on and said texting been over week so far.

[WaterIsland]

I hope it works out for you! I’ve never tried Facebook dating. I definitely like the ones that feel more personality based and encourage people to focus on personality instead of photos

[SteveSmith1985]

I think that you are good to call out bad behavior. Always. You should never be afraid to do that. That's a good thing for sure! I am glad that things seem to be progressing well with the guy from Facebook though. I hope those green-flags continue to present themselves as you get to know him better and better.

To answer another question you had from before: The reason a guy would ask you out without even knowing you, is simply because he thinks you're attractive. You are right to think that's strange, because he should want to get to know you a bit before asking you out. It shouldn't just be about your looks. It's a bad sign if a guy asks you out right away like that on a dating site. He should be trying to talk to you a bit first.

[TheSimFans]

that was from badoo. i think there was more then one guy that did try to ask me out but one them did ghosted me through and i did found one of men did have a girfriend from snapchat stoires and did blocked. i only reply thart im sorry i couldn't make for date but did canled but then reply to seem to be too fast to be a men and i did blocked him after i found out he did had a girifrend. the men is still on badoo i saew him again. liking me. the other men just ask me out after leaving me on read when i did try to text back but when i did stop and left until he reply instead me. I reply i don't know. that point of getting to know. I reply you leave me on read sometimes. after he did reply i can't help sometimes with leaving on read and i'm not interested in going too fast. i did blocked him after that.

[Summeroflove]

Well. It really depends. There is also trolls over on dating apps. I try to avoid dating apps to be honest. Too many weirdos and who knows who.



But. Honestly more often then not it’s better to block them.

[TheSimFans]

Already done blocking but is not going to solve anything with bad behavior. Going to keep happening and people will complain.

[Summeroflove]

Well. Then honesty it’s better to avoid sites like that. If you block those guys you don’t have to deal with them anymore

[Summeroflove]

Call it out. If calling it out doesn’t help. Then block

[OfMiceandMen]

I think that goes with dating sites. You're going to meet people on these sites that are there for the wrong reason. Whether they get off on leading people on, or they are bitter people bc they've been trampled on in the past, so they take it out on others.