If your partner cooked for you for the first time and it was terrible would you tell them?

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CassandraSpender · Accepted Answer

I am reminded of a story if 3 mountain men who had a deal, whoever complained about the cooking was the next one to have to cook until someone else complained... one if the mountain men had been cooking every night fir a month straight and the others had started teasing him about it.

One day he decided he would show them and he went out and got some moose poop and mixed it in with dinner. He served it and the men sat down to eat. Almost immediately one of them stood up yelling "this tastes like moose poop... but it sure is good!"

Don't complain unless you want to take over.

katiesmuff · Accepted Answer

Hell yes I would! Wouldn't want him to think it was good and I liked it or it could become a regular menu item.

Bethany22 · Answer

No that is cruel. I'll just show lots of appreciation, and maybe that will inspire them to cook better next time

OlderAndWiser · Answer

No! But I might say, "That was pretty good, but t might be even better if the next time, you cooked the pasta a lttle less" or something like that.

big_ben_007 · Answer

There's a lot of ways to tell someone they need to improve their cooking skills.

1. Blunt honesty with a good ending. Tell them in the nicest way possible that you didn't like the food, what it was lacking, and tell them that you didn't enjoy it, but you would enjoy a different meal that they're better at.

2. Tell her how you like food to be made. Dont say anything negative about the food, just go along and say its nice. Then make time to watch an episode of the Food Channel with her. After the judges give their takes on the meals, discuss with her which meals u liked and why u liked them. Tell them how u liked your meals growing up and ask her how her meals were made growing up. Finish the conversation by saying you would like it a lot if she made meals in the way you like, so u can enjoy it.

3. Play the early dinner game. Depending on how stubborn she is, she might not care how u want her to cook the food, maybe she's just bad at cooking, or maybe she thinks u just need to get used to her style. Either way, you never like her cooking. So, while you're at work, text her and tell her that you're eating out somewhere because you're starving and u won't make it home to eat. If she's smart, she'll get the hint eventually.

4. Add sauce or salt or pepper to the meal before u eat. Garnish it or something.

There's a lot of other ways. I just named 4. U can get creative and think of your own way, but don't let it slide and not say anything because it will become a bigger problem the more u ignore it

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Honesty is the best policy. Lying just to not hurt their feelings or giving some empty platitudes could prolong the issue. They might keep doing it the same way they did it before and do it more often... the 'nice' lie only exacerbates the real issue that they cook like shit.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I would tell her that the recipe needs work. I've said that to my wife multiple times when she tried to make something different. If it's not good after the third try I just tell her to skip it and find something different to try. She doesn't get upset.

FreyaRed · Answer

Of course. I would pack it in some Gordon Ramsay joke and deliver it with devilish smirk on my face.  Honesty is important but the fun is priceless.

CubsterShura · Answer

I'm always very honest so I'll say it lol. I wouldn't be mean like saying that the food is horrible, but I'd honestly let them know what I think could have been done differently.

Wish4UrB00ty · Answer

I would try hard to fake it and then tell them later how bad it actually was. Like once they were a good cook.

molonski2 · Answer

No , I'd cop it , and encourage them to continue " trail and error " as thats all cooking really is , you learn as you go via experience.

Randalama · Answer

Absolutely. I would also demand sex immediately as reparation. Otherwise what the point? Perhaps that's why nobody likes me.

Christsdisciple15 · Answer

yeah I would tell them but I would think we’d have a dynamic where they wouldn’t be hurt by it as I wouldn’t be intending to insult them. also I can barely cook myself!

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I would just accept their offering and maybe next time ask her to help with the cooking at my place. Maybe some of it would rub off.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I'll try to kindly tell them that it's not the best meal I ever had but I'll also try to find the reason why first before complaining.

LovingJo · Answer

Not necessarily  tell  them.. But might point out how things could be done better for next time and/or give suggestions in a funny way 🥰

DizzyDesii · Answer

I’d tell them what i liked and didn't like, bt that i still appreciated the gesture... constructive criticism

Anonymous · Answer

I didn't like it the first time he cooked for me, I'm always brutally honest but I just couldn't tell him I didn't enjoy it. I told him I liked it since I understood he was nervous, the second time he cooked for me was delicious.

Mangospacho · Answer

I had a date cook for me on one of our first dates and it did not go well. I was polite about it and didn’t tell her it was bad but I always prefer to cook my own meals anyway so it was not a dealbreaker.

melanieeeB · Answer

Yeah but kindly and also thanking him for the cooking

magiusX26 · Answer

depends on how terrible terrible is. are we talking so terrible flies will avoid it or just terrible enough that its barely eddible (if you really force yourself) ?

jlee99 · Answer

Yes. Otherwise I'm setting myself up to eat terrible food from that point onward!

msc545 · Answer

I would be so surprised that I actually knew a woman that was willing to cook that I don't think I would even notice the food. What I have noticed is that women are so unwilling to cook that you could literally starve to death by depending on them.

ElGato31 · Answer

I would say something as they might want to cook again and I might not survive. 🤣

Sukaaa · Answer

Maybe in a finny way or if we reached a point in which we are close enough

RobT312 · Answer

No i wouldn't. I wouldn't lie and say it was great , but i wouldn't crush them either

najekim · Answer

Yes. For example, the wife made us this Mexican casserole for the first time (her grandmother's recipe) and it was alright, but greatly lacking in many ways, IMHO. I asked her for the recipe and added what I thought it needed and she had to admit it was 10 times better than the original and we've been making it that way since.

lottiebannotie · Answer

I probably would 🤣 but I would make light of it and still show appreciation for the effort they went to

TheeTrybrid · Answer

It's not what u say , it's how u say it. I would 0refer not to feed my date food they think is terrible😂 . It's okay to tell me but don't be a jack ass about it

Blackcupcake · Answer

no… I would tease him but i wouldn’t say his cooking is terrible cause that’s just mean

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

I'd tell them while encouraging them to keep trying. Cooking is a skill, one that takes effort to learn.

Apulu_Imback · Answer

"This is great for your first trial! But let me in the kitchen next time."

PatriceONeal · Answer

Those of you not willing to be honest will suffer bad dinners >:D

Nikki1989 · Answer

I would be nice about it, but I would tell them.

Adam1978 · Answer

Yes otherwise she won't improve in cooking and, I will have to keep eating bad food.

Anonymous · Answer

Do call out concerns regarding food safety. Don't announce food flaws to the room. Do give feedback when asked for it. Don't criticize a first meal.

fonduegirl · Answer

I never lie about food. If they expecting me to bs them, they're dating the wrong person.

clampfan101 · Answer

Yes, there’s polite ways of getting that message across. I’d take cooking classes with her if she was struggling.

douride2 · Answer

As cruel as it would be yes I would tell them. In a nice way hopefully.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Yes I would tell her but would choose my words wisely.

electromagnetic · Answer

My partner did. But he said so nicely.

Anonymous · Answer

No  But if will then not directly, indirectly so that he won't get hurt.

justabuddy · Answer

Ask any cook, not every dish comes out tasting good the first time. The best dishes take time.

Wilsonkojo · Answer

Maybe before next time she wants to cook again

Lovely210 · Answer

A little light constructive criticism won’t hurt. I’d probably still act as if I enjoyed it.

LivingExample · Answer

Effort is more Important than bad cooking!

notwoke · Answer

nope, I wanna have sex this decade

Orion76 · Answer

No lol of course not

PointTaken · Answer

Yes of course.

Anonymous · Answer

I'd politely tell them the truth.

Pink2000 · Answer

Yes I would.

chicken_nugget24 · Answer

Yes :)

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