The guy who I've been unofficially dating, "T" (talked with his friends, family knows about us but no label; him saying we're "practically dating") invited me to go on a week long beach trip with 8 of his closest friends. I am kind of uneasy about it because during Spring Break, T and his best guy friend met a group of people; and long story short he is also now inviting one of the girls he met during Spring Break on the trip with us.
I don't know anything about this girl, because she doesn't even live in the same state - other than T says that she got along really well with him and his friend from the Spring Break trip. But I find it slightly off putting considering it's just couples, and single guys going on this beach trip.
She could be really nice, and maybe he thought we'd get along - I haven't had much time to ask more questions about it. Plus I don't want to cause drama - especially since it's for his graduation and I want the trip to be about him and not me. And he assured me that we'd be sharing a room together just the two of us.
Should I be concerned? I haven't been around his entire group of friends for this long and I don't know what to make of this random girl. Like could he just be trying to set one of his guy friends up?
TLDR: Going on a beach trip for a week with boyfriend, for single guys and couples, and my boyfriend has invited a random girl who he only recently met during Spring Break and I don't feel comfortable.
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Unofficially together is such a pointless compensation sort of title. You’re either together or your not, straddling the line in between looks like he’s trying to stay technically single for as long as he can. Keeping that in mind, yes inviting the other woman is a red flag because it shows he’s talking to her without your knowledge. Sad thing is you can’t even tell him not to invite her. I mean you could if you feel entitled to do so but if you’re not his girlfriend it is not your place and that should bother you more than anything.
It's understandable that you may feel uneasy about this situation, especially since you don't know the girl and it's a couples and single guys trip. However, it's important to communicate your feelings and concerns with your boyfriend in a calm and open manner.
Try to have a conversation with him about your concerns and ask him to clarify why he invited this girl on the trip. It's possible that he's just trying to be friendly and include her in the group, but it's also okay to express your discomfort with the situation.
If you're not comfortable with the idea of this girl coming on the trip, it's important to communicate that to your boyfriend and discuss potential alternatives. Ultimately, it's up to you to decide what you're comfortable with and what boundaries you want to set in your relationship.
Remember, open and honest communication is key in any relationship, and it's important to prioritize your own feelings and well-being.
I understand your concern, but in this particular case, I don't think it's a big deal.
Especially since there's so many single guys there, he could be helping her meet someone.
If he continues to want her along with everything you do together, that could be a problem