Have you ever lost attraction for someone because they revealed too much about themselves too quickly you? Therefore no mystery?

[Still-alive]

Do you need mystery to maintain some kind of attraction? So if a person reveals a little too much in a short amount of time the mystery is gone and so is the attraction?

https://www.developattraction.com/maintain-mystery/

what do you think?

Yes i have lost attraction because there was no mystery.

There wasn't any mystery but i was still attracted to them

I actually prefer there be no mystery about a person im into

[Rosexøxø]

I don’t have to spend my whole life learning about someone.. likable lol.

I love my family and as much as I want to say I know them- (and who knows maybe I do, but don’t give myself enough credit), I still don’t know a lot about them and I always (understandably) stay amused, intrigued, and happy, despite us clashing many times than not.

When a person is so efficient to “have learned” much about a person they consider to be a companion or so, or even a friend, then they get to move to the ‘next level’ of doing life together or doing life-activities together,

and not only are those even more engaging and a bit multitasking, (sometimes rewarding), but you get to experience learning with all 5 senses, 🖐 and seeing their ability to process and make decisions 🧐 in different atmospheres/arenas.

That’s why it’s important to have a tribe (friends/ family); a team (work partners); and/or a companion (pet or life partner). Doing life with them is more mentally stimulating/engaging and to say the least: the most memorable.

Can one do life in solitude? For certain. It just takes a higher level of self-discipline and passion. To be able to do that and not really get bored with self or activities surrounding us.

[Rosexøxø]

I voted:
I have lost attraction because of the lost of mystery, but I learned why that was, thankfully, and now I know how to combat that any time I encounter it.

The option as it stands, is that one can also consider finding a new potential mate or friend to become acquainted with, as well.

[itsalyssaagain]

No. In my experience the attraction is either present and it’s strong or it isn’t. The best way to describe this would be like some kind of energy… it’s either there or it isn’t. Revealing too much, saying something wrong etc etc is likely not to change things unless it’s something really quite bad.


I think the reason I caught feelings for someone so quickly in the past was because for 2 weeks we spoke constantly and he revealed everything about him. Obviously the attraction - the spark I was talking about - was there. But the feelings developed quickly cause I got to know who he was as a person and I liked him for who he was.


On the flip side a mysterious person can be a turn off. I remember when I met this guy off a dating app a couple of months ago. The attraction was definitely there from my side but I could tell he was trying to be mysterious. He hardly told me about himself and I only knew about the shallow stuff like what he did for work and how many siblings he had. It ended for other reasons but as time went by I did lose interest. He just got boring.

[Still-alive]

Hmm interesting. I have definitely also fallen for a girl quickly after getting to know them fast myself so i get what you’re saying there

[Sparkie460]

I would rather know everything about the woman so there are no surprises. I can make a better decision on seeing her or not seeing her if it's all on the table.
I am so glad I'm not in the dating scene anymore. I thought it was difficult when I was but it seems so much harder now.

[snackthatsmilesback]

Lol how I caugtch people was basically trauma dump, except 1 girlfriend. 1st date just, find break ice & go info. Then u know n can move to common shit, inside joke, etc. Skip mystery phase 4 me.

[Nikki1989]

I couldn't care less about someone's past. I am only interested in where they are going in the future.

[Still-alive]

But hearing about their past can tell you a whole lot about them and they can feel like they connect to you better.

[FireGodGoesSeeknFire]

Never not once.

Objectively bad stuff is different. That matters but would have mattered later too.

[melanieeeB]

Nope but the journey of learning about the people in your life and about yourself and them about themselves... well that never ends anyways lol

[SnowedIn]

Nope. I enjoy mystery but I also enjoy learning about people.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

No. I lost attraction either due to being rejected, which I then did what I could to get over them or in one case, she reminded me too much of my mom in being irresponsible.

[Guardian45]

True love doesn't care about mystery. It matters more that couples care, respect, support and communicate daily!

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I don't mind a certain girl, as long as she's honest with me

[Pink2000]

Absolutely. I hate people who over share.

[Still-alive]

So you prefer mystery?

[LoveBuggy]

No. I don’t want a mystery guy in my life.