How often in your life have you first befriended someone then later fallen for them?

[Still-alive]

Pretty much my love life summarized right there lol.

This has happened to me often

Sometimes

its happened but not much

It rarely happens

I have never become friends with someone first then fallen for them later.

A total of 59 votes were cast: 27 girls and 32 guys. See detailed results

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Once, I was younger.

These days I don’t lose my time on fake friendships, If I call you a friend you are a friend.

But mostly I have female friends, so thankfully I don’t worry about them falling in love with me.

I also have a gay best friend.

Other guys - I lost touch with them when I got my boyfriend at 22 and I am fresh out of break up so don’t really find it interesting to get friends with any guys, unless we are a thing.

That’s just a waste of time for me. I do have some guys who I am on friendly terms with, but nothing that special of a friendship.

If I was interested they’d be my boyfriends not friends.

[red324]

This is why I don't bother having female friends. It's fine and dandy when they're single, but it complicates things if she finds a boyfriend. Jealousy etc. Most girls just cut a guy off when she gets a boyfriend

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@red324 The guy who was my best friend asked me to be his girlfriend instead when he heard I was falling for someone else, I asked him what he was doing the previous 2 years and why didn’t he ask me that.

So, when I got a boyfriend and my boyfriend got jealous about him, I decided I’d rather lose him then my boyfriend, who turned into my fiance soon.

[red324]

He probably liked things how they were and didn't want to lose you by asking you out. This is typically what happens.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

I have never fallen in love with any & every one of my boyfriends from the get-go.

We were all just friends first; learning to trust one another; slowly allowing our feelings for each other to grow.

My husband & I, despite being each other's biggest crush we've ever had, had to earn the chance to fall hard for each other.

[SAMI_DABBAB]

Aight I gotta admit, I do that... on purpose, this is the safest way of developing feelings for someone, constantly being in touch under a temporary label (if transition was successful), if we can be best friends we can certainly be as close romantically, if you can't see a romantic version of this friendship you hold things up the place they're at, you'll end up with a love story anyways because I love my friends : D

[Still-alive]

but does it actually work out that way for you? because for me by the time i develop the feelings they already only see me as a friend. so that sucks lol

[SAMI_DABBAB]

I'm 2/2 lol, but yeah this could happen if you wait too long, it's mostly about building tension, she should be expecting this or hinting to it as well

[Boomchakalaca]

I dont wanna be rude, but is this beta male energy? When u be friends with a gal in fear of rejection as a romantic partner?

[SAMI_DABBAB]

I don't belive in this Beta male thingy, I'm methodical and I get my things done the right way, I'd rather be Beta and get what I want than be Alpha and get what the label gives me

[Still-alive]

@Boomchakalaca for me i just am not interested until I get to know her more. She’s physically attractive but i require more than that if i want to date them. But in my case they already only just see me as a friend when I develop feelings.

[molonski2]

The results are interesting , for me , this has never happened.

[Genie23]

Every guy best friend I had fell in love with me.

Me? I fell for one. It sucks!! I wish neither of us develop feelings and stay close friends all our life without complicating things!

[EricSummer]

I have never had a case in which an existing friendship turned into a romantic relationship.

All the women I was with I had just met shortly before and then directly started dating.

I think I'm a bit on the boring side as a friend. The thrill of novelty helps me keep it exciting for the woman.

[DancingQueen16]

This has happened to me twice the first time was in 3rd grade and I was crushing on this boy in class and the second time was 6th grade I met this boy named Alex and I thought he was pretty cute and sweet and now Alex has been my boyfriend for almost a year

[petitedollbabee]

All of my relationships have started out as friendships, but not all of my friendships have developed into relationships. I usually know within a few months of a friendship whether I like them romantically or just platonically.

[Guardian45]

Same

[Nikki1989]

I can usually tell how I feel about someone within minutes of meeting them, so falling for them later is very unlikely.

[Boomchakalaca]

Sometimes. That is why girls and guys cannot be friends usually. Given that, i would hav 0 friends who r gals.

[Guardian45]

Are you lesbian or bi?

[Boomchakalaca]

Bi, but it dosent rlly effect my social life.

[Guardian45]

Ofc, although it doubles your chance of a date on a Saturday night, right?

[AsaKyo]

Aw, are you talking about me, mister~?

Nah jk jk, but hmmm, yeahhh

[Still-alive]

hmmm :P

[menina]

That only happened once. Then he got a girlfriend and he started acting weird around me. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[electromagnetic]

I think not.
All the people I’ve dated we were never friends or part of the same social circle.

[serious]

Nothing like that ever happened.

[OfMiceandMen]

This is what typically happens to me.

[snackthatsmilesback]

It's happened a few times, but pretty rare.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

This has happened to me often

[Sparkie460]

It only happened once with me. I married her

[domenico07]

Never once bruh. Dont trust no one

[Guardian45]

Yes, I've been guilty.

[fonduegirl]

Almost never

[Pink2000]

Never

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Never.

[WonderSadness]

Maybe once or twice