Can bluntness intimidate people?

[be_real101]

My oldest brother is so blunt with people, sometimes I wonder how he gets girls and is not afraid to say no. We are ten years apart and there are 4 of us and I'm the youngest.

On the weekend, we were going somewhere and he (John) was driving, 7 people in the car, 3 guys and 4 girls. What shocked me during the drive was when a girl was begging to be his friend for the past 12 months, apparently, she wants him, tried to get close, and now she figures if we are friends then something good will take place but his interaction with her is so limited that it's driving her crazy.

there was another girl who he likes but was rejected, now he treats her like a sister and moved on. She (Jessica, the girl who rejected him) will flirt like crazy, constantly teasing, touching, and laughing hysterically at his jokes but the moment she sees him talking to another girl, she will stand so close to him without saying a word, is always in his line of sight.

He's caring, understanding and doesn't tolerate shit from anyone. he puts a girl in check for her bad behavior and the people in the car went quiet, there was no yelling/screaming, and he was so calm when he checked her. The girl even apologized and told him she won't do it again then he proceeded as if nothing happened.

I was told by one of the girls they respect him highly and that no one dares to cross him. One of the girls told me that his aura/presence is intimidating but he has a gentle heart/soul.

Jessica's friend will hint that she likes him, but she will just laugh it off what is shocking to me is every story she tells, she will always mention his name but John is busy banging other girls on the side. They've known each other for 40 months, he asked her out twice, once 2 years ago, and the second time last year. He told me the first time, she said she wasn't interested then he tried again last year, she told him she wasn't sure what she wanted, therefore he moved on and never looked back.

Why do women behave like this?

[Anonymous]

Bluntness can certainly intimidate some people, especially if they are not used to or comfortable with direct communication. However, it's important to note that everyone has their own communication style, and what works for some people may not work for others.

In the case of your brother, it sounds like he is very direct and doesn't tolerate bad behavior from others. This can come across as intimidating to some, but it can also be a sign of strength and confidence. It's possible that people respect him for his honesty and willingness to stand up for himself and others.

As for the behavior of the women in the car, it's difficult to say why they are acting the way they are without knowing more about their individual personalities and motivations. Some people may be attracted to the challenge of pursuing someone who is not interested, while others may be genuinely interested but unsure how to express their feelings. It's also possible that they are simply enjoying the attention and flirting without any real intention of pursuing a relationship.

Ultimately, people's behavior is influenced by a wide range of factors, including their past experiences, personality traits, and cultural influences. It's important to remember that everyone is different, and what works for one person may not work for another. It's up to your brother to decide how he wants to interact with these women and what kind of relationships he wants to pursue.