Guys, To the men, did you all know what you wanted in your 20s?

[Bre_0611]

For example were you sure about the type of women you wanted, commitment or dating in general?

For the guys still in their 20s, can you confidently say you know what you want right now when it comes to women and relationships?

[Summeroflove]

Honestly. Most people don’t really know what they want…. Also people change. I’m kind of the same way. I have things I know I want. Other things I will know when I see it.


There is many people who end up marrying someone who really ain’t their type at all. But I mean…. If someone is always dating a type let’s say. None of it worked out I mean… hey lol

[Leapfrog00]

I thought I knew what I wanted in my 20's. I thought I was with a decent girl, I almost got married, but then her cheating started.
After that, I found it best not to be in a hurry. I realized there was a better relationship waiting for me out there, and it's better just to wait for something better to come along, than to search for it.

[Bre_0611]

I'm so sorry you had to experience that💔

[Anonymous]

Nope. That is to say. All I wanted was her to want me. At that age I had no clue as to even why. All I knew is what attracted women. I had no clue how to keep one once I got her. You COULD make the argument that I still don't. But the DIFFERENCE between me now and then. Is I know I'm a solid guy now. I had good intentions before, but that's not enough. And I know at this point if she doesn't want me, then the problem ain't me.

[Bre_0611]

That's right! You'll have the woman that deserves you❤️

[Anonymous]

Other than getting laid no I had no idea. You think you know what you want because at that age it’s based on pure looks, but as you get older you realize more in the ways of what a real relationship is.

[Bre_0611]

I love this answer. Why don't more guys in their 20s admit this? It's not a bad thing bc it's apart of growth and learning but they don't wanna admit this

[Opinion Owner]

Well for one I’m in my 40’s so I’ve had more time to learn this. Most men, including women think they know what they want but they really don’t. As I’ve gotten older I’ve realized what’s important, what’s worth fighting for, what’s worth letting go. As it is it’s hard for men to admit their feelings when we’re younger. Mainly due to how we’re raised, what society, at least when I was in my 20’s, what society says a man should be.

[exitseven]

Yes, I just wanted frequent sex from a girl who was hot. It changed by the time I was 24. I was ready to find somebody who could be my partner.

[RavVid]

Started sussing it out in my late twenties. In early twenties it was just does she give me a diamond cutter?

[Googlemyahoo]

In my 20s my goals were knowing where we planned on partying not much else

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes; I knew what I wanted. The idea that men take all of these years to figure out what they want is a myth.

[shades777]

there's no way that would be possible unless you had a single goal for all of your short life and even still you need alittle luck and connections

[Anonymous]

I would say I've known for at least 6 or 7 years what I want. I haven't found her yet, but my goals haven't changed over that time.

[shortster]

I did. But then I don't think that I am normal. I knew what I wanted when I was 8.

[Anonymous]

When i was in my 20s i had no choice but to be successful n make money n work hard while my age guys having fun in clubs with girls... lol.

[RingOfFire]

Had no clue in my 20s.

[LiamJHayden]

Partner, no. Financially, yes.

[MementoMori777]

Yea I do