I'm not interested in dating, but I am open to friendship. Should I join dating apps?

[la2243]

I'm just seeking friends right now.. no sex should I join dating apps?

Updates

10 mo

I own a business and do charity work for dv women I domt have time too meet people sorry and no I don't want to date

Updates

10 mo

I've made it clear that I use Bumble and I'm not interested in sex as I'm celibate yet you have men posting who can't grasp that? 🤔 I never mentioned sex and I never limited myself to one sex , but it seems I'm safer around gay men and straight women when it comes to friendship

[Screenwriter]

Why not try meetup apps. People are just getting together to be involved in mutual interests: gardening, Frisbee golf, volleyball, contra dancing, softball, sailing, gardening, painting (as in oil, watercolor): all things that involve other people, but not dating.

If you go on dating apps you're misrepresenting yourself immediately. You're saying intrinsically, "I want to date," then adding caveats, "but I don't want to get sexual".

Maybe there are OTHER sites you can research for "friendships." There might be local clubs that are set up simply to expand your friends base. Explore a host of options. Good luck.

[la2243]

The whole point of this post to find out what thise other apps are noone can seemingly answer and I'm on meet-up and Bumble. Most of the groups I'm in are online. I'm looking to interact with people when I have free time

[la2243]

I made it clear that I'm on Bumble multiple times

[Screenwriter]

But isn't Bumble a dating app? Meetup is not about dating. It's about interacting with people with like interests, but isn't about being sexual. It's about having fun IN PERSON. Are you not having success going to Meetups?

[la2243]

Bumble is just a dating app there's an option too meet friends at this point I sound like a 🦜 repeating the same thing over and over

[Screenwriter]

Sorry. I'm not on Bumble. I just know my son's used it to meet women. Well, sounds like you're doing what you can. Only other suggestion is to search out other apps that offer the same options. I don't know what they are. But use the grand Google and see what comes up.

[la2243]

Thanks based on these comments idc anymore folks really know how to sour a party 🥳 I thought it was interesting since a lot of people are online since covid

[Screenwriter]

Guess most folks use Bumble to date and may not be aware of the "friends" application. But thank you for mentioning it. Makes it a viable option for other folks like you... Don't be disheartened. We're only one group of people. We don't know everything. Good luck darlin!

[la2243]

I don't online date but try and meet people

[MrOracle]

"Dating apps" aren't for making friends. They're not even for dating. They're for SEX.

You are trying to use these apps for a purpose that literally no one else who uses them is looking for, and then you are disappointed with your results. Everyone here is telling you this is a bad idea, but you seem to be determined to do it anyway. But your chances of success are so close to zero that you might as well just say zero.

The way you make friends is to get involved in some kind of activity - a cooking class, an adult sports league, a bowling league, a dog-walking club, etc. You'll have to leave the house and you'll have to meet people in person. You simply won't get what you want online, ESPECIALLY not on a dating app. It makes NO difference what you put in your profile - no one is using dating apps to be "just friends."

[la2243]

Did you read my profile

[la2243]

Updates before posting noticing men only responding

[MrOracle]

Even women aren't using dating apps to be "just friends." There's a reason it's not working for you.

[la2243]

Idc what most women are doing - I'm not even on a dating app nor do I deal with straight men ao why does it matter? I deal with bi / gay men

[la2243]

If you read my profile you would have saw that before commenting and what I updated

[la2243]

Like I said you men are the only ones commenting line you crazy

[RespectfulGuy]

if its platonic friendship that you're seeking, then you don't even need dating apps.

Let me suggest some careers where you can meet a lot of guys:

Event management, tour guide, museum curator, beer garden staff, air stewardess.

Charity part time jobs: help up in orphanage, join a church, help in local fund raising projects, chess club.

Paying courses: IT course, ballroom dance class, mechanic class, any short course that are known to be "guys jobs".

Ya, stay behind the screen won't help even if you agree to sex. Much worse platonic because those apps are full of guys trying to get laid.

So get out and find jobs and charity and clubs where guys flock to. And enjoy the activities as well.

[la2243]

I'm self employed and own a business

[la2243]

I don't have a time too meet people I run a business 40 hours a week

[la2243]

Been single 1 years and decided too try and meet people online

[la2243]

I don't do friends with benefits nor seeking sex with men

[RespectfulGuy]

Wow! You run a business! That's nice.

Is it online or retail or service? (I also run a small IT business)

[la2243]

Online

[RespectfulGuy]

Sincerely, from your update, you don't need to find friends on dating apps.

You already have them.

[la2243]

Same small business owner

[RespectfulGuy]

May I ask what's the nature of your online business?

[la2243]

Holistic business/ im. a Holistic practioner

[la2243]

I'm a holistic practioner

[serious_miss419]

Men are not capable of being nice to us unless they want some hanky-panky. It’s just in their DNA. No matter how nice and clear we are about what we want or what our intentions are, they simply are not capable.
It’s like raising an Ape or a Chimp from a baby, eventually it will turn.
Companionship even is a clear word, men still can’t wrap their brains around it.
I understand what you’re getting at and what you’re looking for but looking for such thing in a male is not possible. They’ll hoot and hollar insisting they can or they’ll get aggressive and defensive if you make them be accountable.
In all honesty, it’s best to just do more inner soul work and go from there 🌸🌸😘

[justJoshua555]

Looks like someone friendzoned you or a friend just proposed you that you think "ALL" men are same, whatever you are going through, hope you will get out of it with peace.

[la2243]

I don't even date men and totally open to dating women.. I don't have any experiences with men and you're right men can't contain themselves unless sex is involved. I've blocked so many men because they constantly bring up sex and talk about it. It's annoying and they are like animals with women.. it's cringe... I avoid men like a plague in my walking life.. the constant need for sex is an obessession. I don't have time to dwell in sex 24/7 and feel safer around gay men then straight men this is how bad it's become. I don't online date and haven't dated in 11 years.

[la2243]

Something is wrong with American men as a whole.. these twisted views about American women... I'm better off friends with women are gay men

[serious_miss419]

Yea 🙌 live your life Gurl !!

[la2243]

Yes 🫂 🤗

[DaveJord]

NO when you go on dating apps and say you are just looking for freinds, that is actually code for hookups. Like you want to hook up with no relationships or strings attached.

What you really need to say is that you are looking for a simp, with no sex involved.

“'Simp' is slang for a person (typically a man) who is desperate for the attention and affection of someone else (typically a woman),”

[la2243]

Who said I was only looking for male friends? I'm open to both sexes -

[DaveJord]

Well, whatever it is you're looking for I would think you would find it that way on a dating site.

[DaveJord]

* would NOT think

[la2243]

I don't know 🤷🏽‍♀️

[coachTanthony]

Bumble has a friends option. So that is the only app I would try. You can also get on meetup. com and find something in your area where you can meet new friends.

[la2243]

Most of the clubs in on meetup are online lol and I'm already on Bumble

[OlderAndWiser]

Almost everyone who uses dating apps is looking for a dating partner, not a friend. They may not expect the relationship to immediately become sexual but the hope is that they will find a relationship which eventually moves to that level.

Using a dating app to find friends is like going to the hardware store to buy women's lingerie.

[la2243]

How else are relationships created the problem women can't be friends with men unless sex is involved by men. At this point I'm not interested in being friends with men.

[OlderAndWiser]

Most romantic relationships do NOT start as platonic friendships and then progress. Relationships that begin as platonic friendships strongly tend to remain as just friendships. Romantic relationships begin with dating and not necessarily having sex immediately, but at least both know that there is a physical attraction that may blossom as trust and respect develop.

If you don’t want to date, don’t. But you may regret that course of action as you get older. Most of us don’t want to be alone every day and every night.

[la2243]

Yes they do according to ones beliefs morals and core values/ I have no desire to date anymore due to these things not being honored anymore in today's dating climate

[la2243]

Men ask why are you still single - I choose to be and refuse to lower my standards- I don't desire marriage anymore either and find I'm happier single

[la2243]

Idc I refuse to deal with men of today and their toxic behaviors towards women and dating - my only regret was not dating sooner / I've been single 11 years by choice

[la2243]

If I were not dating prior to that I wouldn't have kids and it'll be me

[la2243]

I literally just said that the best relationships start off of as friends and develop sibcs I desire not to date I'm open to platonic friends with women and gay men

[OlderAndWiser]

I hope you are happy with your choice. I am happy with mine!

[la2243]

I am on meeting mostly online everything is online now

[la2243]

Yes I am and nkt interested in whatever you're talking about lol it's been this way and staying this way on my end

[la2243]

And not ^

[la2243]

I try to keep a social life but wil never date again

[OlderAndWiser]

Okay, I just wouldn’t expect great results using dating apps to look for friends, other than Bumble.

[la2243]

I just said I'm on Bumble can you read lol 😆- I don't expect anything from you men. I said I do better with women and gay men

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, I can read, but I responded before you posted that update.

[la2243]

That update was up hours ago

[OlderAndWiser]

And I first responded to you many hours ago, prior to when you posted the update. I don't re-read your question every time I respond subsequently.

Are you one of those girls who just likes finding something to criticize?

[la2243]

I'm not a girl I'm a woman and I'm tured of repeating myself

[OlderAndWiser]

So stop responding. It won't bother me.

[la2243]

Tired

[la2243]

Good night older and wiser

[Avicenna]

Your chances improve greatly if you meet guys with similar interests or through friends. Otherwise, no one will understand why you’re on a dating app if all you want is platonic friendship. Bexx CD aware most guys who say they’re OK with that still want to get in your pants.

[la2243]

I domt screw men less more date them and furthermore not interested in them as friends

[la2243]

I avoid men now its all the same behaviors

[spartan55]

@la2243
More like the men YOU ARE choose.

[la2243]

I have no EXPERIENCES WITH MEN SO WHO DID I CHOOSE? AFTER MY EX I STAYED SINGLE AND HAVE BEEN 11 YEARS

[la2243]

@spartan55 miss me with that

[spartan55]

Sounds good. Smell ya later.

[la2243]

Adios @spartan55 I'm not a weak woman at all by any means and stretch of the imagination

[spartan55]

So because of your ex 'every man' is not worth your because we are all the same. So stupid.. oh whoops, I forgot gay guys, they are worthy...😂😂

[la2243]

At least gay men domt approach me about sex consistently.. I never said good men don't exist / I rather not desl with the toxic masculinity of the average man. I've had more support as a woman from a gay man then a struaght man even down to protection. I expect nothing from men today less more respect. I stay in my lane and keep to myself hoping men do the same.

[la2243]

I actually support people out the LGBTQ community

[la2243]

To say you're 55 or in your 50s@spartan55 you act childish and immature no wonder why you're bitter

[AaronH03]

I wouldn’t, unless you want an insane amount of creeper guys hounding you constantly on it. Even the ones who are “cool” with just being friends, have something else on their mind. Look into Hey Vina or Bumble BFF (or whatever it’s called) but stay away from Tinder or POF etc

[la2243]

They do that or here shyt what do I gave to lose 💯 🤷 😒

[AaronH03]

That’s a good point. I apologize for my gender, honestly I’ve never related well to them lol. I’m gay and yea I just don’t get them, but if it makes you feel better even a lot of gay guys are the same way which just UGH

[la2243]

Have I may have to be friends with gay men straight men get on my nerves

[AaronH03]

I’m up for a new friend!

[la2243]

Cool 😎 🆒️

[la2243]

I am on Bumble and you see how crazy these men went 🤪

[la2243]

Literally the only app men just want something they can control

[AaronH03]

Exactly they hate that they can’t message first, personally I think it’s great but then I’m sure the minute they get to message you it’s over lol

[la2243]

It is

[la2243]

I need a girlfriend 😩

[AaronH03]

Girl! I can be a girlfriend! 🤗

[la2243]

Woo-hoo 😎🤸‍♀️🤸‍♀️🤸‍♀️🤸‍♀️💕

[AaronH03]

Oh! See the question I posted on my profile!!!

[AaronH03]

Love how people just don’t seem to understand what your post is about

[la2243]

Ikr it makes no logical sense what are they talking about? I never mentioned sex and I changed my tune real quick pretaining to friends smh

[AaronH03]

Yea just seems like a sample of how guys are in general lol

[la2243]

Why I avoid

[magiusX26]

no. it is meant for dating, therefore it would be false advertising (so to speak) of you to be on them. also thats often code for one night stand type of thing. as well, what you are after alrwady has an even bigger niche of apps/sites taylor made for making friends, social media.

[la2243]

I'm on Bumble I said that through the comments and in no way interested in dating - I am not interested in dating men and seeking a girlfriend

[magiusX26]

seeking a girlfriend is still seen as dating. especially when its done on a dating platform such as bumble.

[la2243]

Bumble is not like traditional apps totally different

[la2243]

Amd relationship with women are extremely different then dating men honey way different.

[magiusX26]

dating is dating no matter how irs done youngin. facts are facts and facts over feelings. anyways, it doesn't matter after what you have revieled here, your self contradiction. "i dont want to date" and "looking for a girlfriend (to date as of "relationships with women are extremely different than dating men" ) ". which in turn shows a lack of honesty on your part. have a good one.

[la2243]

I don't date the whole point of this post I'm open to friendship with men and women nvm women only and gay men

[la2243]

Yes my sexuality shifts and not interested in dating men anymore I have more experience with women then men truth be told you men make me uncomfortable nowadays

[la2243]

My safety is a concern around you men

[magiusX26]

wow you are dense. you are stuck thinking my comment has anything to do with gender or prefferences of whom you have sex with when it does not. my point is your hypocrasy of "not dating (anyone implied by this statement) into "only DATING women". you seem to be fixated on the word "women" instead of the key word "DATING". these days everyone's safety is a concern around EVERYBODY else for a plethora of reasons. a couple of examples being more mind and mood altering drugs being used more prevalently and society in general in poorer mental health/stability. such reasons leave it very dicey letting anyone get close anymore and lowers many people's trust threashhold, meaning many are less likely to trust.

[la2243]

I'm not dense its a fact I don't trust men. I'm sorry - just what it is / I stay clear of men

[la2243]

I meant exactly what I said. I don't trust men and my lack of experiences with men

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I would advice against online dating and seeking friendship on there.

Being online gives people the privilege to hide their real intentions.

Better to meet people in person as that way you can read their body language and personality better vs them hiding behind a screen.

[la2243]

I just said I'm on Bumble and don't date

[la2243]

I never mentioned genders and father more based on these comments I'd rather be friends with women

[Sour-rose]

hell no. I tried what you done, and a n*gga really thought i wanted to see his dong... so he can see my body. thought I was into that. :)...*sigh* but you really can't find a friend on a dating app. the chances are literally 2%

[la2243]

Wtf wow yeah after this post I don't know 🤷🏽‍♀️ 😐 I did make 2 friends from here

[Sour-rose]

are you actually sure that they'll buy you a drink or something... as a friend?

[la2243]

Hell no lol

[JamesMI616]

No. There are plenty of places online to make friends like TikTok. You won't find quality friends on a dating app. All those guys are looking for more than friendship

[la2243]

Yea I'm on Bumble I made that clear in my update

[JamesMI616]

You're better off in a place like this. I can only imagine the kind of guy who would message you for friendship on bumble...

[la2243]

I don't engage with men anymore unless their gay

[MementoMori777]

That sounds like a terrible idea, don't join dating apps for friendships, they aren't even really for dating, just hookups, people would manipulate their way into into your pants.

[la2243]

I'm not looking for sex as I'm celibate and it'll never happen

[MementoMori777]

Really? That's good, I applaud you, but people can be deceiving, they can make you think they are the person you have been seeking for and slowly manipulate you into some for of benefit, and it normally always effects the victim even if it's a heartbreak, just be careful with the dating apps is all I'm saying missy. 💯

[la2243]

I don't even date so no worries there I've been single over a decade

[la2243]

Nor have any desire to date now

[MementoMori777]

Ah okay, best of luck on them dating sites then lol

[la2243]

👍 if I go that route

[MementoMori777]

Fair enough ha

[molonski2]

The answer is NO , don't attempt to use these apps for friendship , there are many other avenues , they are called dating apps for a reason , you want to date.

[ZXCwWRQWz]

Do you have some social club in your area that might be 30s+? Could be traveling club or book club or whatever floats your boat.

[la2243]

Most of the clubs are online

[ZXCwWRQWz]

I think I'm getting too old. My bad! I don't really understand how to do this stuff anymore.

[la2243]

Yeah everything is online nowadays noone is meeting people in person anymore

[Staximus]

Any guy on a dating site is going to be looking for a romantic relationship or just sex. So if you have no intention of looking for a romantic relationship or sex then I suggest you stay off dating sites and join like a book club or something

[la2243]

I just said I'm on Bumble for the friendship option and you turn around and mention dating apps

[la2243]

Lol you men don't listen

[la2243]

I also said I don't deal with striaght men only gay men

[Finchie40]

I dont think dating apps is the way to make friends, friends that want to fuck you maybe but not friendship , If you are just seeking friends you are best to stick to non dating apps period ,

[RavVid]

I think being on a dating app presumes interest in a sexual relationship. You could but you should put a no sex please in your bio.

[la2243]

I do it doesn't stop them

[RavVid]

That's right I forgot there are way more guys than girls cause I think dating apps are crap and don't use them. I guess dating apps aren't good for you either.

Are you wanting male or female friends or don't care?

[la2243]

I said idc which means I'm open to both sexes

[bobthe1st]

Meet up app or chat rooms otherwise your just a waste of time to someone who actually wants to date, you actually anger me with a question like that 34 and your a dumbass

[la2243]

No man can make me date why I don't waste men's time it's them that keeps chasing

[bobthe1st]

Oh yea poor you men keep chasing you and you can't get away, let's join a dating app

[la2243]

If I tell a man no then just wtf it is NO

[la2243]

I've been single most of my life 🙃 majority of men today are TRASH 🗑

[la2243]

Lots of people. meet pplnlt necessary for dating - men collectively aren't seeking relationships on dating apps just SEX

[la2243]

people not - I dont online date

[bobthe1st]

I could be ridiculously rude to you now and rince into you but wake up. You want to make friends don't waste peoples time on a dating site trying to fulfil your needs. You've hit the nail on the head too, men and women in a straight relationship are only friends if one wants to get in the others pants, it's work or family. What you want is a friend of your own sex to chill with not be some weird girl who wants to inflate her ego the only way she can, your full of shit and you know it

[la2243]

You men aren't seeking relationships on dating apps you're seeking sex and don't tell me where to go or what to do on a dating app. If men are to slow to comprehend that I'm seeking a certain thing - how is that my problem? I don't rush into relationships 💯

[la2243]

The collection of people on dating apps are not seeking relationships they're looking to Fuck... I have married and dating men approach me a lot

[la2243]

I ignore these losers - like I said the collection of you men are TRASH 🗑

[bobthe1st]

OK but part of dating is sex... its friendships too... you confuse me because you have to understand how stupid a question it is and your response just sounds crazy... e. g. you guys just want sex I want friends I know ill join a dating website where guys want sex what trash they are these guys who want sex on a dating website, god some might even want to marry? Are you want to lead them on to inflate your ego... meet up app or chat rooms if that's what you want simple otherwise your wasting people's time playing a game on the heart of men which is actually a trash 🗑 thing to do... I think you asked this question too because your bored because the answer is obvious... your wasting my time.

[la2243]

I fuck when I feel like it not when a man expects me too you want sex find a whore or slut

[la2243]

I don't have premarital sex

[Minahh]

Sure you can. Some dating sites have friends option. However, I've never met with anyone from a dating site in real life. People just go on there for casual stuff and to waste time I guess. Very shallow. Just like today's society 🙂

[la2243]

Yes why I never online date ever

[DarkWinterNights]

Dating apps are hookup apps. Unless you’re looking for flings and one night stands I don’t think you’re going to find what you’re looking for on them.

[la2243]

I'm on Bumble which is open to other areas

[DarkWinterNights]

I suppose, I’ve just never heard of people making friends on dating apps.

[la2243]

OK I net wonderful people on there

[la2243]

Met ^

[Truthatanycost]

I'm sure there will be some women locally that would like to make friends...

[la2243]

I may have to be friends with women

[Truthatanycost]

There are friendship apps, but it should keep things simpler to look for female friends only.

[la2243]

I am. on bumble good God

[la2243]

Something is wrong with you men

[la2243]

I'm sorry shyt

[la2243]

Damn

[Truthatanycost]

Most of the collective overall (for both genders) are lost, led by the flesh and have forgotten God, their spirit, and the true self. Thus you are unlikely to find many healthy connections regardless.

[la2243]

I don't give af I don't date 🤷

[la2243]

Single by choice 11 years

[la2243]

I'm just open too meeting people

[LiamJHayden]

No. The guys will pretend to want to be friends, but will instead try to bed you. For friends it is better to just go activities that you enjoy where you will meet people of like mind.

[la2243]

I just said I'm busy and dont have time to meet people. I'll stick to my groups and social media circles

[LiamJHayden]

Okay.