Do you agree that a man who is capable of having many sex partners with women is a special man?

[Anonymous]

Seems like a fact to me.

Women have standards that us men do not have.

When a man meets those standards for many women, he is doing something right.

A man who has a lot of sex is always seen as better than a man who is not able to have sex.

The key defining characteristic is ability. Voluntary celibacy is not the same as involuntary obviously. It's about ability, not choice.

The ABILITY for a man to get with many women makes him better than other men.

And this is the way society sees men. Our value is determined by the number and quality (beauty) of the women he has the option to obtain.

It doesn't mean he goes around having tons of sex.

But he CAN.

And this man is always superior to any man who does not have those options.

[RespectfulGuy]

Definitely not.

Special is subjective.

But in general, the few attractive attributes are financially rich, great or handsome physical appearance, a pleasant personality and a person of great principle.

While not implying all women are gold diggers, a person of wealth tends to get girls easily. It's practical even for a girl contemplating marriage to get a guy who has a career and savings. This is not really special, but basic requirement.

And first attraction is always the key to start a conversation that may lead to a relationship. Hence perhaps it's "special" of him to be born model like.

And so far can that special appearance go. To enter commitment, usually a beautiful personality is required. This can be acquired. Not special until manifested in the presence of suitors.

And a person of principle. It's greater than mere pleasant personalities in good days. It's manifested in days of dispute and argument. And again, it's something that a person can acquire. And is appealing to the partner and saves a relationship.

Do you regard these as special? Perhaps they can. But they can be taught, learned and acquired. And they surpassed being born special with physical beauties.

Hence I disagree. We don't need to be special to win women's hearts. We need to meet what she really wants to win her.

[Asker]

I guess I agree with you. I was thinking more about casual sex.

There are certain men who can have sex rampantly. And some who can't.

Sure, a man can get married and find love. But that doesn't guarantee that he could have casual sex.

Not that casual sex matters. Because it doesn't.

But it's just interesting how some men women go wild for and the rest not.

What makes those men so much better than the rest of us?

[RespectfulGuy]

LOL casial sex.

Easiest approach is to pay $$ to whores or otherwise. Nothing special required.

And of course to get girls who are promiscuous, enter their circles (clubs, bars, etc) and acquire skills to flirt and fuck. Again $$ to pay for drinks and hotels.

Finally, to get "decent" girls who not interested in marriage, I think it's more of luck than being special.

What say you?

[Asker]

I don't know. I don't feel like it's only the sluts at the bar and the club.

Maybe I have a unique perspective but females like me. They do things that I see, that I know other men don't see.

They're always looking around. Anywhere I go pretty girls with their boyfriend nearby, catching eyes with me. Peeking at me behind their man's back. Finding a reason to say something to me that sounds innocent. And I see the look on the guys face when he realizes his girl is into me.

It's at Walmart it's at the mall it's anywhere out in public.

I feel like females out there are ready to bang. Just only certain men.

I must be lucky. Something about how I look from afar.

But I have known so many guys who were short or visibly ugly who get girls left right and center.

It's a mystery because hey, I have no game. I'm no player. I happen to have some extra female attention sure. So I happen to see things.

But some dudes really can get with so many women like it's nothing. Meanwhile the rest of us men are like "why is it so hard to find a date?"

And I know a ton of girls. They're all fucking. Nobody is a "good girl" who stays at home all the time.

I feel like the concept of a "good girl" doesn't exist.

I know because I see they are bad. They're behind their boyfriend back looking at me trying to get a quick flirt in.

I'm not saying I'm special. I'm saying i see things. That's all. I see some shit.

[RespectfulGuy]

Haha... Happy for you. Enjoy while it lasts.

And yes, having experience in sex and dating do give us an "aural" that attract girls

No. I still don't think we're special. But knowing how to dress and carry ourselves do make us stand out amidst guys and girls.

I attribute it to sexual confidence and these are skills acquired through experience, not being special at birth.

[Anonymous]

No. I don't believe that makes any man special. That may be how society perceives him but I disagree. A man that is able to have the discipline to no longer be controlled by lust, his desires, the flesh, other women... and that is following the path of God and remembering the path of ascension is what I consider special. Society is mostly on the path of debauchery and has been corrupted by Satan. Therefore what the majority see as good is often the opposite.

But a lot of the women in the comments that say the man is a skank will still find him more attractive than the man I described above. But that's simply because such a man will need to find a woman on that same path. Satan corrupts desire to take you away from that path and he's doing an excellent job of it.

[Asker]

But everyone goes to hell. Not a single human being will be spared the eternal molestation of flame.

Might as well enjoy life while we can because the burning will never stop and the pain will only increase as the eternity drags on.

[Anonymous]

No I don’t agree. Rationalizing bad behavior and the number of sex partners a man can have is no measure of a man. He’s a skank.

[Anonymous]

What makes a guy special cannot be "fact". What is special and isn't special is subjective. And you're wrong.

[Asker]

I suppose you could say that so many women like him because he manipulated them.

Is that what you think? A man doesn't get with so many women because he's special. It only happens because he is a manipulator?

[Anonymous]

Special? Like in retarded? It don't take much talent to sleep with women. If you're not successful you just start at the ugly ones and work your way up. Michael Jordan wasn't born dunking a basketball. Not everyone is going to hit a homeowner his first at bat. That doesn't mean you can't build yourself into a good hitter. Any guy can learn this.

[Asker]

So I'm correct. If I'm a pro basketball player, I'm better at basketball than a high-school kid.

So the men who get women are better. But there's a reason why. They developed the skills I guess.

[Opinion Owner]

Matter of opinion I guess. My final point was "it can be learned". Anyone can learn basketball. Not everyone can learn to be Michael jordan.

[Asker]

That's a good point though. It can be learned.

But how? I guess that is the question every man has isn't it?

If only we could like take a class on it lol.

Where is the truth and how do you learn it?

I suppose it must only be trial and error. I feel like you cannot learn the things I've learned from any source other than real life experience.

And if I'm correct about that, a lot of men will never even have the opportunity to have those lessons. Because the barrier to entry is so high.

And that portion of men is growing. There's so many dudes that can't even get a date because they're so utterly ignorant about what to do about women.

Am I wrong?

[Opinion Owner]

How? I go back to my original point. Too many men shoot themselves in the foot. Either they aim too high or they make it out to be more than it is. Are you trying to fall in love or are you trying to get laid. Know the difference! Yes women are getting harder. But women are still women. They want the same things they've always wanted. And to get laid it's just a matter of convincing them that you're the guy to give it to them. If you're conflicted about that it ain't going to work. How she going to believe you if even she don't believe you. And it doesn't have to work everytime. Just once with her. And once with the next girl, and the next and the next.

[Asker]

For myself I had a lot of girls flirt with me. But they passed on me when I was clueless about their sexual advances.

Now that I know better, I can take them when they're giving it to me.

And that was huge for me. It didn't matter if girls liked me. They didn't want to be with a guy who didn't understand their sexual nature and the way they flirt and all that.

I had girls all over me but I was clueless so I missed out on 99% of it.

It's not enough to be attractive to women. Or so it was for me.

Girls would ask me out, say sexual things to me, ask me point blank for sex.

It wasn't until I understood what they want, that being, for me to be dominant and "take" them.

Now I don't have problems anymore. I'm 100% confident. But it took me understanding why women are freaks who like to get slapped around in order to gain that confidence.

I don't know what to think about that lol. Maybe I'm just a weirdo. Other men get around to being confident easier I guess.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't think so. Most women are trash. So few women have any morals today. I think you're like me you want a woman you cam respect. Lol, well I'd like Santa to be real but he isn't. The simple truth is most women today are not worth keeping. You can't make a woman respect herself. She has to want to do that. Yes it is possible to straighten a few of these trainwrecks out. But again she's got to want it. Most simply won't.

[Opinion Owner]

Most women thinking putting a guy on a clock will gage whether he's a good man. Moat are too stupid to realize he's working several women at once so he can wait on her indefinitely.

[Yodaaa]

I don't mind my man having multiple sex partners honestly but in exchange for that i expect respect and as his wife he'll always come back to me

[Anonymous]

LMAO!