Do you actually think guys and girls that are 20,30,40 year old virgins are losers?

[Anonymous]

I don't believe anyone is a loser, and I hate that term. I am just wondering, why so many people judge older virgins. Its no ones fault, dating is just hard. It's not about me, its just like some people judge others, for the dumbest things in my opinion

Yes

No

Only If they keep asking, and get turned down every time

Its odd, but no

[menina]

No, not at all. Being a "loser" has nothing to do with being a virgin or not. It has to do with the way you think and act. The way you treat other people.

Adults who never had sex are often judged because we live in a society that praises sex. Some people even think that sex is the most important thing in life or in a relationship.

Nothing wrong with having a sex life, but everyone has their own reasons for having or for not having sex. It's a personal decision and no one should be judged.

[silvermoon84]

Not at all. I lost my virginity at 23 (to a guy that turned out to be a big mistake) and had a guy tell me that it was pathetic, weird and sad that I lost it that late. These days I don’t have sex and I get shamed and told that I’m weird because of it. I think we live in a very sex obsessed society and therefore some people don’t understand others choosing not to have sex. If I met a virgin my age, it would actually surprise me because it’s very rare, but I wouldn’t think less of them.

[hahahmm]

In general, no. Only if they claim it's impossible to get sex and whine about how nobody wants them. If they're content or in that situation out of choice, that's fine.

[Asker]

Well, do you think it's their fault, if they can't get any at all

[hahahmm]

Sure. But I'm not saying that people must/should have sex for the sake of sex. Having sex can be a very, very bad thing with the wrong person or for the wrong reason. There's a lot of people running around today who act like sex is the most important thing when really, it isn't.

[Avicenna]

Merely being virgin doesn't make someone a loser

[ShesRad80]

who makes the standards of who should do what when? free will in life what people choose to do. im a virgin for a lot of reasons. you never know why some people are the way they are, i never judge

[whirled_up_girl]

Not at all. People should be proud of who they are as people especially if they are hard workers, a good friend to people, or a good member of their family and/or community. Those are things to value in a person, in my opinion.

[Thatpearl26]

If they choose to continue being a virgin it’s their choice and they shouldn’t be put down for wanting to stay that way.

[Adogdog]

That's sweet!

[Drumlin2001]

I was a 35yr old virgin. Don't really care what anyone thinks. I now have a fiancé and 2 kids. Life can change fast

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Having sex or not having sex doesn't make one a loser.

A loser is someone who doesn't do ish productive in society but sit around all day or is a horrible human being.

[MilkRoseTea]

I like being a virgin

[LazerBean]

Not unless they are trying to lose it.

[SnowedIn]

Not losers. Odd, but not losers.

[Anonymous]

Well, in 95% of cases, it is their fault.

[moviedude714]

I see it becoming worse

[Anonymous]

Men yes.
Women, no.

[Billlewis]

Comment of the year! I agree with you wholeheartedly, sir!

[Jazzy54]

I don’t.

[gothbxtch]

nope