My boyfriend keeps coming late to our dates he is a workaholic. I talked about this with him several times. Nothing changed. So I decided?

[Hannah3434]

Thelast i was so hurt. He apologised so much. But i refused to see him. didn't reply his apologise messages. I dont call or write. He also (2days). I'm curious how does he feel inside about it, you assume?

[lightbulb27]

so he shows up late or not at all?

he's probably feeling stressed, trying to do too much. question is what is the reasons and how to manage it.

I had issues showing up on time, including at work. I learned to:

A) use time frames rather than specific times

B) flip it around so I understand how the other feels and impact to them

C) re-prioritize... when I had control.

Some jobs are difficult and you have to accept his current state of reality and work with it or leave him be.

[Hannah3434]

He manages his own business and he is a real workaholic.. so much! His office is like his home. He doesn't have a social life etc He said to me he will hire someone more and shares responsabilities but couldnt hire yet. He said he will change his lifestyle.. and so on. I'm waiting at home for him so he passes by me for a date, calling him late at night where are u honey and he replies i'm working im tired im stressed out blah blah... after 2 hours late at night he says really very sorry for being late im coming.

[Hannah3434]

I think i'm done with him:( i wanted to help him zo support him with his stressy lifestyle but i think its a dead end

[lightbulb27]

I agree, he needs to focus on business. It's hard to manage everything. sadly, he didn't hire you to help, that's a solution, but can't always do that. some people.. have to learn how to delegate and manage time better.

[OlderAndWiser]

It doesn't matter how he feels, does it? The result is the same. You have discussed this with him and he has not responded. You should assume that he will not change this habit for you. Now, you must either accept him the way he is or say goodbye and find someone who is more considerate.

[Hannah3434]

He told me he promises he will make it out. But its the same... unfortunately

[OlderAndWiser]

So, in addition to his tardiness, he does not keep his promises. Are you going to stick around for more?

[provokeesmokee]

He's a workaholic.

He'd rather be working. His addiction is more important than you.

If I were you, I'd either try booking later dates or - if that didn't work - I'd dump him.

Who's got the time to date someone who won't respect theirs?

[NoFollowReqestPlz]

My ex did the exact same. He was always late, even when I talked to him about it and complained, nothing changed

[BoopBoopBeep]

I don't date people who don't respect my time. If the date is at 7pm at 705 if I haven't heard from you I'm moving on. Everyone has a cell phone, there's no excuse. If you're not early you're late. If I'm expected to be there at 7pm I'm there no later than 645

[Hannah3434]

Got it thank you. Normally he is respectful but letting me wait at home.. he is not normal

[Alex8736]

He might be struggling to pay bills which causes him to work alone plus there are many things that can possibly be out of his control like his work relief not showing up on time, traffic etc but to be fair he does show up but on the other hand does he keep you posted as to why he's running late

[spartan55]

Probably just waiting for you to get over it. He doesn't care.

[Anonymous]

Apologies only go so far, and it sounds you are not a priority in his life.

[Hannah3434]

You are right. His work is his priority. He said its important to work he has some credits. Blah blah

[Opinion Owner]

Sounds like a dead end.