Help I broke up with Boyfriend, how do you deal with breakups?

[Anonymous]

I knew him long time 8 years , we dated for 2 years and half. But we never met family , never spend holidays together no pics either. And he don’t want baby never he wants be free til he’s old age.
And I tell him if he wants sex he needs a girlfriend or be alone til he’s old he can’t be using people for sex.

Most of the time I was alone and we only meet on weekend on our days off. I looked like single girl doing errands alone while all girls living with bfs doing all errands together. My family all spend holidays with their bfs & their bfs go on trips with girlfriend & do everything together.

I have 2 months we no longer go on dates too all of a sudden.

so it’s okay I didn’t really lose anything. It’s the same being alone. Only difference is I won’t have a weekly fun date dressing up happy to see him.

but I do need a real partner to live with me, see me daily or many times a week rather than one time, someone to take care of me and have a future and meet my family.

[Avicenna]

Well, it usually hurts for awhile but then you do other things and don't think about it much or at all. Then you meet someone new and you're definitely not thinking about the last person you were with.

[Asker]

I was always sad with him I was alone daily he never live with me, or meet my family, I wouldn’t have a boyfriend spend my bday with me or holidays either. I wouldn’t have any boyfriend do errands with me nothing. Just be alone and date one time a week. But what’s so special of a date weekly? A date isn’t a partner taking care of u.

[Asker]

He wants be free til he’s old. So I was distant few days and he asked if I’m okay. And I said I was distant giving him space cuz he said he wants be free no baby no partner til he’s old. And he blew up.

[Avicenna]

As you say, there were underlying problems. I'd suggest spending time with family and friends and trying not to think about him.

[Asker]

Y he blew up as I say that? I’m gone all week so he can be free , why that made him mad? Lol

[Asker]

He want be free yet mad I was gone all week 🙄

[Asker]

I’m alone. I don’t have a partner in my life to take care of me. He never even live with me, all holdiays I’m alone. Point of a boyfriend is to live together have baby n he don’t want nothing. He stop dating me 2 months now I’m alone all day, how is this a partner taking care of me?

[Anonymous]

Many relationships are like that these days.
That being said, none of them are real.
It's not a good thing, but it wasn't just you.

If my last relationship could end without either of us saying a word, then it clearly wasn't much better than yours

[Asker]

But I see all girls meeting family I don’t hear any perosn saying they have relationship and neevr met family.

[Opinion Owner]

I never met her family. There you go

[Asker]

But yea it’s ok I was alone either way with him I was living alone, alone holidays while my entire family spent holidays and Christmas with bfs , my birthday I was alone no boyfriend spend it with me. no trips with a boyfriend. Nothing will change as he’s gone.

[Asker]

I always felt weird why everyone’s boyfriend is with her doing everything and I am
Alone like single person with him and he spend time with family alone without me

[Opinion Owner]

You'll find yours

[Asker]

I don’t get y he can’t do those things. Or he’ll spend rest of his life neevr doing those serious things with anyone? I don’t get it

[NotInterestedSorry]

Over time you'll be thankful to have gotten rid of him

[Asker]

Was it good we break up based on what I wrote about him?

[NotInterestedSorry]

Absolutely.

[Asker]

I was distant after he say he want be free n no baby n now he got mad I was gone few days lol 🙄

[Asker]

He blew up for no reason.

[Asker]

Saying we fight like old married couple and this and that. 🙄 I didn’t really fight I just said I was distant cuz I don’t wana bother him i wana let him be free have freedom LOL

[Asker]

He had sent me a pic of his room. And I didn’t see it few days so he said hey r u okay? And I said yes I’m
Okay. I was distant cuz I want give him his freedom as he said he wants no baby no partner n be free,

[Asker]

Did I say something bad?

[Asker]

I’m alone. We haven’t event gone on a date anymore in 2 months. He won’t be here on my bday or meet my family or spend Christmas with me 2023 with our families nothing. We won’t live with me and have baby, what’s point have him in my life?

[Asker]

He’s not here taking care of me I’m
Here alone sad taking care of myslef alone.

[NotInterestedSorry]

You didn't do anything wrong. He has wasted your time

[Asker]

Y do people do that? Date u for no future?

[NotInterestedSorry]

Sometimes it's for the sex only

[Asker]

But y some girls get a baby from guy and then they breaks up but she at least got a baby? So she time isn’t really wasted?

[Asker]

Her time ***

[Asker]

And all girls at least meet family so they get sex still. Meet girsl family and continue have sex and date? I don’t get it?

[CantMissIt]

Well, what you described sounds like you'll be better in the long run. Won't be anyone's pit stop for sex anymore.

[Asker]

I was just sad cuz many guys at least meet girls parents and break up even if the relationship neevr gets serious they all at least meet parents and I never got that chance but oh well

[boobliker]

just get on with life and don't stop enjoying other people that are around you!

[Asker]

Do many people hav bfs that waste thier time? Is it common?

[RyanK9b]

Distraction.
If u hop back in the dating pool u get really fast of him

[In_Trance]

go meet someone else

[Asker]

y he waste my time tho? Y people do that?

[In_Trance]

it's not a waste of time if you learned. Did you gain experience? What di you learnt hat you can take away from this?

If you say "nothing", then you wasted your time. You; not him.