He always makes jokes about me, then says "then we should stop talking if you get too offended"?

[Anonymous]

I'm dating him. We were friends... he is a joker. Always makes fun of things, that shouldn't have been made fun of to begin with. He jokes about me being a liar (which I'm not, but I'm very sensitive when it comes to the truth), joked about chatting with other girls (because I get jealous) and even joked about us being in an open relationship.

While we were just friends, it was sort of ok... because I didn't really care about his opinion, but now... it's just destroying me.

Yesterday I told him that I have had a phone call with a female colleague and even complained about her being fake and hypocrite. (He knows her because they were coworkers before)... then he started telling me "you might not like the hypocrisy, but you have become just like that"

Then I got upset and asked him what does he mean by that... I told him "you are holding something back, spill the beans... I don't like secrets nor unspoken words".

He said "... wowowo, I was joking, you took it seriously... bye"

I haven't talked to him ever since.

I feel like I'm overreacting although he knew that I will get upset.

[kylee2437]

Ehhhh I talked to a guy like this and honestly it became problematic because he didn’t really understand limits and decided to broadcast our sex life online and it was quite disrespectful but he wanted me to basically omit by standards because it was a “joke” . My advice is honestly if he doesn’t know how to put your feelings into consideration , he isn’t the guy for you at all. Mature people take others feelings into consideration and don’t use “it was just a joke” to deflect something that can be hurtful

[Asker]

Tbh with you I think his jokes were meant to hurt me. I don't know why, because I'm always there for him no matter what. I help him with his work, I care whenever he gets sick... I call him just to check, never considered even talking to another guy... so I don't really understand what I did to deserve this.

[kylee2437]

@asker I think regardless of the intent , a person using “it was just a joke” to dismiss feelings shows signs of big amounts of immaturity that you will eventually not want to deal with. He seems like a type of guy that takes advantage of what a woman can do for him because he’s too immature to do anything for himself

[Anonymous]

What’s the point of being in that relationship if you have to go through all of that? Is it really that important not to be single?