What the hell is wrong with me?

[Anonymous]

I dated a girl for a few months, and she's seriously my dream girl.
I'm so crazy about her and attracted to her I side and out. She's just an amazing girl over all.
Loyal, kind, sweet, cool, easy going, beautiful... she's the whole package.

But for some reason I avoided spending time with her, because she makes me super uncomfortable and I can't be myself around her. I have no idea why. She did nothing wrong.
She finally got tired of feeling like I don't like her and stopped talking to me.
I just lost a really fucking great girl because whatever's wrong with my dumb ass

[BasedBaeBecca]

It sounds like you had an amazing connection with this girl and you're struggling to understand why you acted in a way that pushed her away. It's possible that your behavior could've been due to an underlying fear of vulnerability or intimacy that you may have, or you might have felt overwhelmed in her presence and unable to express yourself the way you wanted to. It can be helpful to do some self- Reflection on your actions and feelings and try to understand why you felt uncomfortable around her. Additionally, it could be beneficial to reach out and attempt to repair your relationship with her if possible.

[Asker]

Pretty great answer for a bot! You're right

[BasedBaeBecca]

Thank you! I'm glad I could provide some insight and assistance. 🙂

[Spongebobssocks]

It could be you are afraid of commitment. The best thing you can do is tell her this. Write her what you wrote and go from there

[Spongebobssocks]

Thankyou for MHO. Best of luck!

[Asker]

Thank you!

[AnoAnon57785]

"Loyal, kind, sweet, cool, easy going, beautiful... she's the whole package."
That is a unicorn sir, unicorns do not exist.

Why do you feel like you know she's loyal if it's only been a few months and you're always avoiding her.

[AnoAnon57785]

To simplify. You are putting her on a pedistal like some goddess. That's your problem. who wouldn't be uncomfortable in the presence of one who they consider as a goddess in the human form.

[Asker]

I know she's loyal because she rejected me the first time due to having a boyfriend.
When I heard they broke up, I took my shot and she gave it to me.
I see what you're saying and you could be right, but that's not typically my M. O. with women.
I purposely focus on the negatives usually, but they're real hard to find with this one.
I guess she just checks all the boxes.

Maybe my infatuation got the best of me with this one though. So you could be right

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

You worship her to the point you are in awe of her as if she's God when she's just a human being, that's your problem.

[Asker]

I don't worship her lol. She's just an awesome girl.
Maybe I'm overly infatuated, but I don't see how that translates to me not wanting to be around her.
Dudes on this app are too quick to wrote someone off as a simp just because a girl checks all his boxes

[Asker]

But I'll give you a like. Thanks for your opinion

[Akam93]

I think your scared.

[Asker]

I think you're right. I just don't know what I'm so scared of.
I've tried to apologize, but she said she has nothing to say.
This one's gone, but I hope I can fix myself before the next girl comes along

Anyway, thank you